ok has any body gone thru this??

Question

before u got married ur boyfriend/fiancee cheated on u thru out ur whole dating relationship and then one day b 4 u got married u got a phone call from the girl he cheated on u with but u forgave him and still got married, and then like 2 or 3 months latter he goes back with her cheating on u again but that second time u cheated too so would u forgive him or divorcwe even thou u cheated onece and he did 4 times with the two same girls he cheated on u with the 1st time

oh yeah and when i found out this second time i left him for about 2 weeks and then we got back together cus he would leave me alone he would travel abot 200 miles every day to my parents house to begg me to take him back so i decided to give him another chance in one condition...if we stayed here in my parents house and never go back to where all this happend and give up our place and he did. but sometimes i feel like he thiks of her alot bc he sometimes just stares at the sky and looks all down and i tell him if he wants to b with her to leave now and he doesnt wanna leave.

i cheated on him after we got maried and it was only for about 5 months, i told him about it too

Answer 1

Well I was married 4.5 years when I found out one day that he's been cheating for the past 6 years we're together. The betrayal was too much b/c I did invest 6 yrs in him, plus I never once cheated on him or even had the desire to. So I left him the same day I found out.
Your case is really, really bad, though. Your guy lacks integrity and is not worth keeping. He's a habitual cheater b/c he did this 4 times already- he won't change as long as you stay with him- "why change if she kept taking me back anyways?" (that's probably what he's thinking). He might re-think his behavior once you leave him though... people might change when they lose something precious. I think you should take that chance.

Answer 2

um like first off u need to slow down bc u told like 3 stories in one with randon clues.. he cheated b4 u got married n u married him honey once they cheat theyll always cheat, n so what u cheated on him after he cheated on u for like ever so get a divorce n then tell him u cheated on him for payback n then sleep with someone he hates or his best friend for more payback.. hell keep cheatin on u if u stay

Answer 3

Well to be honest, l dont think you should have gotten married knowing he cheats to begin with. Next, l think you could find someone that would love you for you and treat you with respect and honor the vows they took when saying l do.you deserve better, divorce him.

Answer 4

I wouldn't have been stupid enough to marry him in the first place! Come on this guy showed you his character, you chose to 'forgive' that which is really the same thing as choosing to live with it, its WHO he is. This marriage isn't marriage at all anyway quit torturing each other and move on.

Answer 5

Because the way he has looked at it, you have given him permission, you not only forgave him once, you kept on forgiving him, so he will presume that you will on keep presuming you will forgive him.You deserve so much more than that.Stand up for yourself.talk with him, be open about how his ways affect you. l hope everything works out for you.

Answer 6

Your husband does not deserve a loving wife like you. Do urself and him a favour by getting out of his life. I am sure that there will be a lot of worthy men waiting for a lovely wife like you.

Answer 7

Why the heck did you marry a proven CHEATER????? They never change. Divorce him, and don't ever remarry, because YOU will cheat on that husband too.

Answer 8

Tit for tat! You should have never gotten married if you two are gonna play these childish games! Get a damn divorce!

Answer 9

a marriage filled with this much cheating is not a marriage built on love. I think that you both should go your separate ways

Answer 10

Leave ---he won't change. If you knew about these other women, why put yourself in this position? You can do better than a cheater.