I need advice on how to deal with a 2yr.old at my daycare? she doesn't want to listen or do what she is told?

Answer 1

You must set her down and have a talk. Let her know that all the kids have to obey and she will also. Tell her exactly what you want her to do. You may have to walk her through the day hand in hand and explain as you go what she is to do. She sounds like she doesn't have a disciplined routine at home and just doesn't know what to expect EVERY DAY. Give her LOTS of praise and hugs when she does act correctly. When she forgets tell her again what is expected in a calm voice but don't hug or spend extra time with her,walk away. She will want the praise and hugs and will change.If she has a really bad day and goes back to the bad behavior, talk to her and remind her that even on bad days we have to obey the rules. She could be having all kinds of things happening at home,not enough rest, no bal. diet,no attention except neg., or worse. When she does start having good days with you speak to the parents and tell them how you have been handling the situation and suggest it for home also. She must learn better now or she will have a miserable life and will do horribly in school. Best wishes. I wish that all the spanking answerer's would walk a day in the life of a child now days. They don't get trained or much attention with parents at work, on cells,comp chats,get fast food or sandwiches for meals, and especially the ones who have parents that are still too involved with themselves and haven't become parents-just child owners!

Answer 2

This sounds like a job for "Super Nanny". You should read her book. Since spanking is not an option, when she disrupts the group, tell her you will put her in the "naughty chair" if she does not behave. Use a time out chair or something similar. Assign an assitant to help you make sure she stays in the chair. The suggested time is one minute per year of age. Be firm, don't allow her to leave the chair until her time is up and she must apologize. Also, DO NOT reward bad behavior. Only reward the good behavior. If the other kids get a reward and she does not, she will see what she is missing. If after all this she is still disruptive, speak with the parents and if that does not work perhaps she will have to be removed from the day care.

Answer 3

Get her parents involved. Make sure they know what your rules and regs are and your expectations. It might be something happening at home - it also might be that this child may need more positive attention and involvement at your center. Sometimes kids want responsibility and we might need to ease them into it by involving them more in the process. Hopefully, she is not a disruption to the other children or your place of business. You don't want this to creep up on you. How large and involved is your day care - she might be the kind of child that needs a smaller, less busy environment. Keep a record of the issues and situations you have with her. The last thing you want to do with a parent is begin to point out "all the wrongs" their child is commiting. (smile) If you have records of these accounts - with dates and times and situations, and how you recolved them at the time - it will appear to the parents that you have really been spending time dealing with and trying to resolve this with some applomb. Good luck

Answer 4

Well since you are talking about a daycare environment I would imagine you cannot use spanking legally. (althought it sure sounds like its exactly what this child needs) I would use the time out approach in addition to speaking with the parents. Also whenever she is causing a disruption isolation is the best policy. Good luck !

Answer 5

Just a few thoughts to add to the previous excellent answer.

When appropriate, give a warning. "It is almost time to put away your toys." Give a command only once. "Please put your toys away now." If you get noncompliance, use an if-then statement. "If you don't put your toys away now, you will go to timeout." Then follow up. "Please go to timeout now." Timeout may be a separate room, or a chair facing the wall in the common room. You may have to take the child there and physically place her back in the chair if she resists. Actual timeout begins once she is quiet (make sure she understands that). When she has been quiet for two minutes she may rejoin the group, with praise for doing a good job in timeout.

Positive reinforcement works as well as punishment. Praise children often (thank you for throwing away your trash, good job picking up your toys, what good manners you have, thank you for listening so well, Tracy, you are playing so nicely with Carlos, etc.
The behavior you pay attention to will be the behavior that is repeated!

P.S. Contacting parents is usually fruitless; the response is, "I can't do anything with her either!"

Answer 6

The best thing you can do is continue to be consistent with your discipline. If you tell her "no" to something, you need to stick to it. I have taught two-year-olds for 14 years, and this is the best advice I can give you. During this time, the children are learning to test boundaries and limits, and consistency is the key. If you respond, every single time, with the same response, she will eventually figure out that what she is doing is not working and she will have to comply. You need to state your requests, not ask them. "I need you to throw your trash away, please." instead of, "Can you throw your trash away?" Phrases like "can you?" "will you?" and ending your requests in "ok?" are like asking permission. You leave the child open to saying "no" to your request. When you phrase it as a statement instead of a question, you are still being polite ("please") but you do not leave it up for negotiation. Basically you are saying, "this is what needs to be done, and there is no discussion about it". These kinds of phrases are necessary for toddlers. They are ready to fight about everything- so the less conflict you can bring up accidentally, the better! Then, if she still does not comply, you wait 5 seconds for brain processing time (count to 5 in your head as she looks at you, staring you down, seeing if you are going to make her follow through) and offer help. "Do you need me to help you throw your trash away?" After this, if she still doesn't comply with your request, hand-over-hand help her to complete the task. All the while, "Good walking. I like how you are throwing away your trash. Good job! You did it!" Praise goes so far with toddlers, no matter how stubborn they are. Good luck, and bless you for taking on this age!

Answer 7

OK when she dose somehting that is Wrong. Smak her hand and say NO!! if she starts doing something elese to get even then do it again!! Now I don't mean to brake her hand or anything like that but make sure she feels it. After about 8 or 10 times of that she will quit you can bet on it!! Now don't be mean to her or look for a resion to hit her but don't let her run over you either.. anyway good luck!! From a REAL Nutcase!!""NUT'S""..PS ..did i win...did i win...did i win???

Answer 8

That's why they call it The Terrible Two's. And they like the word "no" a lot - when it comes to telling you. Do you want to go out? NO. Do you want to stay in? NO.

Answer 9

you always have the time out rule, but if she is justout of hand.. then talk to the parents about possible removal if she is a bad disruption to the class

Answer 10

not being mean or nuthin but u need 2 pop(spank)her when u do tht she will kno not 2 do it again

sounds like she is spoiled
all she needs in a spanking