Sometimes I really prefer to keep to myself when at work. I'm a very friendly person and will talk to anyone I meet, I never get nervous for that. I like socializing, but the older I get, the more I want to spend in my own little "world" (if that's what you want to call it). It kinda makes me feel weird cause I have this expectation from everyone to be the outgoing person I once was. I am happy the wya I am right now and don't want to change it. In fact, I love being in my own little "world". I'm very imaginative and day dream a lot. I'm NOT depressed and am in love with life. I'm so thankful everyday I am alive. I'm a very optimistic person. It is weird that the older I got, the less extroverted I am? I feel like I have to live up to that and I don't want to...what advice could you give for me?
2006-08-03 10:58:42 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I'm 20 years old, by the way.
2006-08-03 11:03:55 · update #1
You should act the way you want. I think the older we get, the less we want to make small talk and be so bubbly when we know that many other bubbly people are just fake. Maybe you are more real now and true to yourself.
2006-08-03 11:05:11 · answer #1 · answered by VOLLEYBALLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone goes through ebbs and flows in their desires; even the ones to interact with other people. When you’re feeling more internal, and introspective, you’re bound to be less inclined to want a lot of company while you’re doing so. Maybe you want better conversation and know people want you to be all, life of the party and happy and crap when you just don’t feel like it.
I know what you mean about people expecting you to be more outgoing. I am in a phase where I don’t really want to put up with all the games and trauma my friends are into right now. I’ve just grown past all that, crap, for lack of a better word, so I’ve just decided to avoid them for a little while. I made sure they knew I wasn’t mad at them or anything; I just want to be alone a while. Truth is they’re growing stale in my life, and I want new contacts. Maybe you do too.
It’s part of transformation for some of us too. Sometimes we just get tired of the shallowness of modern life, and want to make changes.
I hope you’re lucky like I am and have one really good friend that doesn’t expect you to “be” anything in particular, and can talk to them.
If not, give me a holler.
“We’ll talk; Daughters, dogs, coffee, no big whoop.”
2006-08-03 18:22:43 · answer #2 · answered by Sen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy with who you are now, that's what matters. I understand what you are saying, but unlike you I am shy and introverted (both)...I'm not happy becoming even less social as I get older but it is happening.
There's nothing wrong with it if you are happy or content being that way...otherwise (like in my case) it's something that needs to be worked on...
2006-08-03 18:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 20 and I'm the exact same way. I like "my time". Which is hard when you have a boyfriend that lives with you.
I don't know why this is but I just wanted to let you know I'm the same.
2006-08-04 00:35:11 · answer #4 · answered by CSF 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there - you need to talk to yourself and ask why? Decide life is tooooo short. Get that old you back & start to enjoy life to the full. You will be surprised by the responses you get.
2006-08-03 18:04:04 · answer #5 · answered by Pepper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember when you were younger and your mom and dad were always telling you to "Grow up!"? Well, I think you did just that--and it's perfectly normal to feel the way you do. You sound very happy to me and very well adjusted. Don't change.
2006-08-03 18:06:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋