I have been together with my boyfriend, Jason, for three years. He is a sweet guy and I trust him but he can be a jerk!!! I'm not sure if I should go to bed with him. He tells me that I have nothing to worry about but I'm a virgin and he isn't. He tells me that he would be gentle with me but I overheard him on the phone... He told his friend that he was planning to sleep with me and the ditch... I didn't understand him. But then he told his friend that he couldn't do that to me. I just don't know what to do. I wonder if he is serious...
2006-08-03 10:41:24 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Nope. If he really cares for you he will wait. You don;t want to do it just cuz someone pushes you to. You have to want it... etc. etc. Look... it will lose all meaning and beauty if you do it before you are comfortable and welcoming the idea... Obviously he's not the right guy for you, or he wouldn't be so pushy.
2006-08-03 10:45:29 · answer #1 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG please dont do it if ur having second thoughts or doubts. When I have doubts so far i have been right. If you heard sumthing then there is sumthing goin on. He says he wouldnt be hed lie 2 u rather his friends I'm sorry but its true. Also alott(not all) boys just like sumthin they cant get but if you give that, which is important 2u, to him he'll kno he could get that.
if you really absolutly decide that you do want 2 have sex even if you dont go on the pill wear a condom and tell him2 get tested even if you think he doesnt have anything there is always a possibilty and if he says no 2 u tellin him get tested, if he wont, then u kno he doesnt love you. He would care about how you feel. If you wanna talk about this more there is so much i could tell u but email me at chevygrl1230@yahoo n ill try 2 help...good luck with everything
2006-08-03 11:44:51 · answer #2 · answered by chevygrl1230 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he is planning on sleeping with you to find out if you're good enough to stay with. At this current time i would not advise having sex. I know you two have been together a really long time and that you are curious about sex but really you should wait because it can be a devastating event and it would hurt even worse after he leaves you. I really hope that you choose not to have sex with him while ou still have some questions about his loyalty to your future. I am proud that you are so strong. friends usually know things before significant others only because loyalty goes to friends first and then significant others however i am lucky because my significant other and i are best friends
2006-08-03 11:38:01 · answer #3 · answered by marishka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely NOT! I am 21 years old and my boyfriend and I were engaged to be married, until I became pregnant.He left me pregnant and alone to raise this little boy. I never thought any of this could happen.He was so sweet and I knew him for 5 years, but you never know what could happen.Plus the sex wasn't that great anyway!
2006-08-03 10:52:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you are really debating this then your heart is trying to tell you not to. Your first time should be something that you are not so worried about. Thsi is the ultamite test for him if he loves you he'll wait until ur ready not try and talk u into it. I suggest you wait. You'll know when its time to.
2006-08-03 10:46:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all how old are you? and second if your not ready dont do it only because he wants to no way girl if he really loves you hell wait for you a bit more if he waited 3 yrs he could wait for a bit more.....trust me girl when you first have sex in the next day your relation ship changes really bad.... but is up to you girlllllll....good luck............
2006-08-03 10:48:25 · answer #6 · answered by VICKY V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to do anything you don't want to do.
if he talks that way behind your back he's not a very good bf then is he?
you need to wait for the right person to come along, and trust me, he will.
don't have sex out of peer preasure. if you aren't ready, don't do it!!!!!!!!(besides, if he was a good bf, he wouldn't preasure you so much for something you aren't ready to give)
2006-08-03 12:24:08 · answer #7 · answered by mistressmorro 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your gut instinct and do what it tells you too. If you decide not to have sex tell your boyfriend if he really loves you he will wait. But if you do decide to have sex always use protection to prevent STD's and unwanted pregnancies.
2006-08-03 12:28:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no! especially if you have doubts.....that' when you should trust your instincts!! he just might be putting up a front to his friends...but if he really loves you, then he'll wait till you're ready. it sounds to me like you're trying to convince yourself that you should, when in reality....you're not sure. he sounds too immature anyhow. only you know when the right time will be for you...and it's not now....and it's definitely not with him!!!
2006-08-03 10:50:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. If he really loves and cares about you then he won't pressure you into doing something so big and something that you don't want to do. I say wait until you are married.
2006-08-03 11:31:05 · answer #10 · answered by braceface105 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋