I have seen alot of people preaching on here that they believe in no sex before marriage..so my question is ( as far as I can remember my first time wasn't so great) HONESTLY if you wait until your wedding night how big of a let down is that? Also a few people that I know that believe no sex before marriage have gotten married really young, is that b/c they wanted to have sex rather than get married for the right reason, b/c know they are all divorce!
2006-08-03 10:30:04 · 17 answers · asked by R R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh and why are you so proud of it?
It seems like a detail that is alway add, and I'm proud that I waited! Or I waited it was the best decision, (like you know otherwise if it was good sex or not)?
2006-08-03 10:32:07 · update #1
There has to be some kind of let down if you build it up that it is going to be so great on you wedding night and it is sucky sex? Let's be Honest you may have nothing to compare it to, but you still know that it was all roses and fireworks!
2006-08-03 10:37:33 · update #2
Look at all the female responses, Our society has such a double standard when it comes to men and women. Women are expected to save themselves for their future husbands yet men can "sew their wild oats" and this is perfectly okay. We are labeled sluts and whores if we have sex before marriage but a man is a stud. This just isn't right. Women need to take control of their sexuality and not let society dictate who they lose their virginity to and when.
Not everyone waits for marriage and there is no guarantee that everyone is going to get married or even wants to get married. If a woman or a man is a responsible adult and wants to have sex and not get married whose business is it anyway. Ain't nothing wrong with sex before marriage. More people are having sex out there than these people who choose to abstain think. If a person wants to wait great but if not they should not be criticized for it. Sex is just as special the second or third time as it was the first time. It is your partner that makes it special.
2006-08-03 10:36:27 · answer #1 · answered by Peace2All 5 · 15⤊ 2⤋
First we must separate Sex and Marriage as two distinct expressions of a couple to share some intimate moments with each other. If your goal is just to have sex and not get involved in all the pro's and con's of marriage then use a professional. If your desire is to establish a household with children and all the joys that and honest and shared relationship brings, then wait and enter(prefably both) in the marriage giving each other your commitment to everlasting and(illness free) sex for you and your
partner are into it for the first time.
2006-08-03 10:44:20 · answer #2 · answered by kaskana@verizon.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Basically marriage before sex is marrying your significant other then having sex. Sex before marriage is basically having sex before getting married to that person. Personally for me, I believe in sex before marriage, because I think if your in a committed & healthy relationship which will eventually lead into marriage then have sex all you want & it also depends on the maturity level of the relationship and how serious each person is about the relationship, but overall this is just my opinion.
2016-03-26 22:03:16 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I, being raised by a christian family, always believed that sex was intended to be between a husband and wife. I did get married young and am divorced now but it had nothing to do with the sex. The first time sex may not have been that great. It hurt like hell actually but my husband told me that my virginity was the best gift i could have ever given him and to me that made waiting for marriage worth it. I got married young for various reasons but my beliefs on sex had nothing to do with why i got married when i did. And i did love my ex husband when we married we just grew apart as we matured and we still loved each other when we divorced it was just a matter of living together we couldn't do. We get along a lot better being divorced.
2006-08-03 10:37:27 · answer #4 · answered by snail 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good question... I've never held off on having sex, and I feel it provided me with a wealth of life and relationship experience. But sex is only a minor part of the whole picture, there's so much more to life than "sex with no love" and "love, marriage, til death do us part". I feel that it's all the "in-between" stuff that makes life exciting and fun.
It may be easier to see life in black and white... A lot of people shy away from the grey areas. I didn't, and I'm glad.
2006-08-03 10:42:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
waiting is the gift .....it's like opening a package a christmas time and not knowing what is in side. The surprize and delight of seeing this gift for the 1st time ....
think about it. Sex is just like the christmas gift. How would you like receiving package that has been opened and re-gifted many times and handled and the paper all torn off.... Wouldn't it be better to receive that gift all pretty wrapped and never touched?
Again...think about it!!!
Divorce is caused from the lack of communications between the parties...Sex should be a part of that communication efforts...this is why so many marriage fail...LACK OF telling each other what you want and need....
2006-08-03 10:36:23 · answer #6 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From my own experience, I wish I would have waited. It would have been very nice if my wife and I were both virgins, but that isn't the way it happened. As for what kind of a let down it is, you have no clue that night because you've never had sex before, nothing to compare to. I've got a friend that was 26 when he got married and his wife and him were both virgins and they are happy.
2006-08-03 10:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's all in your perception of sex. If you are doing it for SELF gratification, you should stay unmarried. Marriage isn't about self. It is about "what can I do for you." It's about doing for the other person. I'm a virgin, and I will remain a virgin until I get married. I will not be disappointed because my perception of sex is a deep connection between a husband and wife, and I believe my perception will be granted so I will be satified!
2006-08-03 10:35:40 · answer #8 · answered by i_luv_the_irish23 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad i didn't wait until marriage, but i was always very safe and careful. Sex is a big part of a marriage and if you don't "try him out" before you get married how will you know if you are compatible?
2006-08-03 10:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
well people always say TRUE LOVE WAITS, so i guess you really dont care about the the one you marry. People wait until marriage, not to say yeah i waited, no its because its safer and better to know that you are the first guy with her and shes the first woman with you. also you dont have to worry about wondering is one yall has STD's or something liket that. SO CALM DOWN, THE REASON YOUR FIRST TIME WASNT THAT GREAT WAS BECAUSE YOU COULDNT WAIT FOR THE RIGHT PERSON!!!
PS. Hope that answers ur question :o)'
2006-08-03 10:39:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋