Why do Gay people say what they do in the bedroom is nobodys business?

Question

Then why do you come out of the closet and tell everybody , have parades , and fondle each other in public if its a private act ?

Why do gays answer " i think your gay " as an insult ?

"Private yet open at the same time" Thats a good answer

"Its natural " animals do it , "my dog does it". - And my dog humps his sister

Answer 1

What people do in their bedrooms really is no one else's business. I am (and I assume you also are) referring to sex.

Who people ARE, on the other hand, is different from what people do in the bedroom. There is a big difference between telling someone that I am a lesbian, and having lesbian sex in front of them.

Put another way, when a man introduces his wife to me at a party, he is in a way telling me who he is: a straight, married man. I think that is a perfectly normal and natural thing to do. If he were to throw her on the floor and have sex with her on the spot, that would be something totally different.

Gay people, like all people, want the freedom to simply be who we are. I have a picture of my partner on my desk at work. I wear a wedding ring. When we go for a walk, sometimes we hold hands. These things indicate who I am. And straight people do all these same things. This is considered normal.

Unfortunately, there are still a lot of people who think badly of gay people, and that causes us a lot of stress and negativity. Gay Pride events and the parades associated with them are one way of combatting this negativity.

My guess is that when society finally accepts gay people as normal and deserving of equal rights, you will see these events toned down a lot, if not discontinued altogether.

As to fondling each other in public, I find that distasteful regardless of who is involved or what their sexual orientations are. As you say, that's a private act for the bedroom, and no one's business.

Answer 2

I'm sure they don't come out of the closet just so they can have sex! It's just not something someone can hide their whole life! Don't you think mom and dad would become a bit curious if their son brought home a guy every year fro Thanksgiving, and never a woman? Our a gay couple decides to raise a child together, buy home together, all the stuff that we straight people do when in a serious relationship! People are pretty smart, I'm sure eventually they would catch on!
As far the other stuff you mentioned, there are plenty of straight people who are all over each other out in public! And last I checked, straight people have parades too! I realize we have nothing called a "Straight Parade" but maybe you should start one and you'll feel better. A parade is a celebration of something, and gay people are celebrating who they are.
Gay people are just like us. If they are in love with someone, then they want the world to know, especially their families. Just stay away from them if they irritate you so much!

Answer 3

Well, let's put it this way....IF people like you were not always attacking Gays and what they do in the bedroom, which does NOT concern you in any way, shape, or form, AND IF people like you were not making it their life's goal to try to make Gays feel some sort of misplaced shame in their being themselves, I suppose there would be no need to demonstrate just how strong, and just how many of us there are. Believe me, we can cripple an economy, we can cost people real jobs, and in fact, we yield considerable clout...more so than all the homophobes combined. Parades and such are gentle reminders of just what we are, that we are here, and that we are NOT going away. With each passing day, more of us come out of the closet, and some very famous of us are doing just that. And some very, very rich of us are doing just that. When homophobes realize they are in the vast minority, that we can HURT you badly, that we can cost you your jobs and your income, then, and only then, will you back off your ridiculous stands against us, accept that there are many more people in the world who are different than you, and many more people who just couldn't care less about other people. Then, and only then, will we become equal in treatment, and how we treat you. Be very careful, for the offense you cause today may, and probably will, come back to haunt you big time. IF you do not cut out your stupid, ignorant stances towards gays, Gays will give you very good reason to hate them...and the day is coming quickly. Be assured that within your own family, there are Gays. There is a high probability that one of your children will be, or is Gay. We are tired of your Bull, we have reached a point that passive intelligence is getting us nothing, and we will mobilize and do you in....you have been warned!

Answer 4

what people do in the bedroom is their own business. Straight people fondle each other in public. Coming out of the closet isn't only about bedroom behavior, it is about living one's life in the open. Being gay is more than just sex. Gay people have partners, boyfriends, girlfriends, etc. Coming out allows for these people to be a greater part of your life. Parades are about activism. It is about support. To know you're not the only one out there.

Answer 5

What I do in the privacy of my home is no ones business but my own! I DO NOT fondle my partner in public, in fact, see straight people being MUCH more affectionate in public that I would ever have the gall to be! Why do you have the audacity to parade your sexuality in public? Do you think that just because you are straight, people want to watch you f%^ck each other? I came out of the closet because I didn't want to pretend to be someone that I wasn't, is that wrong, or do you just enjoy being phony? As for the pride rally's... well, along your lines of thinking I suppose the millon man march never should have happened either!

p.s. dogs behave in a sexual manner ie..humping each other, to display dominence, not for sexual reasons!

Answer 6

The opposition really likes to use people's aversion to specific acts to influence opinion about the people involved. THey assume that ALL gay men do one and only one activity, and its the activity that will squick the most straight people out. For specific activity (or any activity, for that matter), I tend to agree that its no one's business. Also, people were saying that it was no one's business what ANYONE does in the bedroom when both straight people (though, granted, not nearly as frequently) and gay people were being arrested for having sex in their own bedrooms. I have to ask what you mean "fondle", though. Ask yourself, whatever you're referring to, if you would call it the same thing if a male were doing it to a female in public. There are people, both het and gay (and bi and who choose not to label themselves) who take public displays of affection too far. But the thing is, being gay isn't just about lustful passionate sex. It's about romantic attraction, and most often dating and eventual lifelong committment. Those people should be allowed to express in public the same thing that straight people are allowed to express. I think the real reason this bothers so many people is because they would rather believe that there's no love involved in gay relationships; it's easier to condemn if it's just a sexual kink. There IS real love going on, the same as with straight people, and two people should be allowed to walk down the street, holding hands, without it being a big deal. If that's "flaunting" homosexuality, then believe me: there's TONS more people flaunting heterosexuality and maybe you should talk to them about stopping as well.

Answer 7

Im kinda confused...i take it ur straight right? Ok, isnt what you do in your bedroom nobodies business? I bet there isnt one person here or anywhere really that would give 2 sh*ts about what goes on in ur bedroom. Straight ppl fondle each other in public just the same but you better believe they have the curtains shut @ home when they do their "bedroom duties". Respectable straights and gays anyways. Some of both sexualities like "public acts". Its not the sexual orientation. Its the individual.

Answer 8

I think when it is made out to be a perverted act that is when the statement is made that what they do in the bedroom is nobody's business. Not all gay people go to parades and fondle each other in public.

Answer 9

If someone says they are gay they are not making a statement about what they do in private. You can make no assumptions about what a person does in private - gay or straight. Your sexual orientation is a statement about who you can love romantically, and everyone - gay and straight - make that announcement continually: by holding hands in public, putting your partner's photograph on your desk at work, annoucing what you did on the weekend and with whom - all that is a natural part of conversation and of life. Gay people are tired of lying about their lives by making up opposite sex partners that don't exist or just remaining silent while everyone else is discussing their normal every day life.
As far as "fondiling in public", gays are no more guilty of that than straight people.
And if a gay person says "you are gay" it isn't meant as an insult - that wouldn't make any sense. If they are telling you that its because they really believe it to be true.

Answer 10

Yeah. I remember that! I was straight and the people that called me "gay" in middle school came out of the closet in high school!

I work with someone who is always sharing her action. I don't even try to hear it but it's kinda hard when she's talking loud enough the whole table (at lunch) can hear.

We'd all be better off if queers would just keep it nobody's business! Really, I don't want to know! That said, I am also offended when straight people talk about their "getting it ons" all the time. Everything related to their "sex life" needs to be kept private. Save me the image! Geesh!