Ok, I liked this guy for the longest of time but he never knew and never liked me anyway. But I always gave him his homework and helped him and flirted and stuff and then he went out with this other girl, not that he was dating me but like he must havn't gotten a clue. So then I didn't like him anymore and then he just I.M.'d me. This is a big thing b/c i was always the one to I.M. him and I think he wants to talk and stuff but then he's like, can you (basically) do my hw for me? And me, having liked him for so long say sure and I did it. I gave it to him he said thanks and siad he'd be on later. What do I do? Do I keep liking him even though he uses me or do I "dump" him? And if he is on later should I talk to him? or what if he doesn't talk to me? please help. He's really nice but shows no interest in me besides homework. What do I do?
2006-08-03 10:20:05 · 59 answers · asked by Shorty 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Talk with him if you can. If he doesn't respond stop doing his homework. Consider this... he may be nice and all but if you keep doing his homework he will be really dumb.
hmmmmmm.... wait a minute. Should you keep doing his homework if he doesn't want any more than his homework done because he'll turn out dumb? That might just work. He may have the good grade on paper but he really didn't earn it. So therefore, the ultimate revenge would be he would turn out dumb.
But if he wants more than just his homework done you may get the boy but he'll still be really dumb. Do you want to be with a dumb boy? Of coarse you could learn to manipulate him if he's dumb but would that aspect eventually prove useful to you or not?
A mindless sheep following you around?
So no matter what you choose he turns out really dumb.
Ok, got it now..... dump him.
2006-08-03 10:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sweetie, he cant be that nice if he only uses you for homework. I know that it is really hard when you like someone and they arent interested in you back, but there will be plenty of other guys who will return your feelings. there's nothing wrong with liking this guy, even if he is a totaly jerk, but no good can come of you doing his homework for him. Next time he asks you if you can do his homework just tell him that you are really sorry but that you are just too busy. Keep telling him this and eventually he will get the picture. In the long run you will be happy that you were able to stand up for yourself and this will help you in future relationships.
2006-08-03 10:27:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get more self confidence in yourself. Guys can be very dense at times he may not even know that you like him the way that you like him. Try telling him that you will not be doing his homework for him from now on, if he is a true friend he will continue to talk...if not he was always using you. Try liking someone else...I'm sure if you check out your friendlist there will be someone on there that will NOT need his homework done because hes ALREADY smart enough to do his own homework. (You really don't want to date a *dummy* now do you)
2006-08-03 10:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by northern_lady_2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you already know the answer to this one. He is just using you and show no interest in you, so why even waste your time thinking about this. You seem like your really young, like maybe in elementary or bearly starting JR. High. There are plenty of more guys out there in the future. You need to learn how to stand your own ground, because you will run into a bunch of jerks like this one as you get older, trust me on this one. So just learn how to control your feelings and don't let any guy use you like that.
2006-08-03 10:26:52 · answer #4 · answered by sweet_truth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, whether he likes you, or whether you help him with his homework, should be two separate issues.
You should never do his homework for him. If you don't mind playing tutor, you can, if you want, help him without giving him the answers. Keep in mind that he doesn't owe you dates just because you help him with his homework.
Just because you like him, it doesn't mean he has to like you back. It's not usual for guys, or even for girls, to flirt with one and date another. There's a difference between windowshopping and buying.
It's possible he knows you have a crush on you and he's using this to get over on you homework-wise. It's also possible he doesn't have a clue to your feelings.
In summary: Stop doing his homework for him. Tutor him if you want, and if he'll accept. You can like him, but don't get hung up on him; I don't think he's going to like you "that way".
On the other hand, he might respect you more if you stop doing his homework for him. But, romantically, don't get your hopes up.
2006-08-03 10:28:23 · answer #5 · answered by MNL_1221 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl the thing you must do is stop talking to him. He is charming with you because he wants you to make his homework. He knows you are nice and you have feelings for him so he takes advantage on you. You don't need him, HE NEEDS YOU. Look I was there and I know what you are saying and he clearly knows what you feel for him and the good thing is you know something I never knew: you know he uses you. If you came to ask everybody it is because you got a feeling about it. Listen to yourself and dump him. If someone likes you then it must like you for who you are not for what you can give to it.
2006-08-03 10:31:22 · answer #6 · answered by C6 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sad to say this, but, I don't think he likes you the way that you like him. Remember, you can't make somebody fall in love with somebody else. What it sounds like is that whenever he doesn't get any of your attention, he gets upset and panics, so then he sends you messages and tries to contact you. Ignore it. I had the exact same problem with a guy I knew. I really cared about him and liked him, but whenever I expressed that (giving out homework, talking with him when he had a problem) it was like he ditched me later on in the week, then I wouldn't talk to him, then he would come back to me, and I was so confused. Eventually, I got so sick of his attitude and rudeness that I had cut contact and any sorts of conversations we had out of my life. He did try to come back to me by being kind such as "Oh, watch out for that ice Rachael" or "Becareful, don't hit your head off this" but I never replied. Eventually, he did get the point that I wasn't his little slave anymore, and so he doesn't speak to me anymore, in fact, he's afraid of me now. But that's another thing. Anyways, I would suggest that you cut contact with him, and you don't even have to tell him why you don't talk to him anymore. When jerks are being jerks, isn't it obvious why they aren't being listened to?
2006-08-03 10:27:24 · answer #7 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my goodness..you deserve better..and what is worse, is you realize you are being used..and still want more. do not grow up like this... get a backbone..self esteem and some pride..like right now. he is NOT a nice person... nice people do their own homework and they do not use a girl and then go out with another. tell him to do his own homework... and find someone who will appreciate you..for you...and not what you can do to make their life easier. i seriously hope you take this advice... and if he i.m's you.. please tell this loser..you do not have time to talk...
2006-08-03 10:27:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've all been there. Sympathetic relationships. It isn't helpful to ourselves because it only gives us a false sense of a relationship. People will only use us for what we can get them and then when the tables are turned, they are gone and never want us in their life.
It is best to find some interests in life and join a group where people share those same interests and respect others for themselves. It isn't easy to join something new but we all have interests in life that we have done or have not. I suggest trying some for yourself that have not come your way and meet people in that way first.
2006-08-03 10:24:52 · answer #9 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is using you, don't get into this pattern it will get you burned every time. Just because you do something nice for someone doesn't mean that they are going to like you or do anything in return for you. REAL relationships ( be they platonic or romantic)are about give and take and if you are doing all the giving and not receiving then you're getting nothing out of it and its not worth your time.Find someone who does nice things for you. Don't do his homework its his homework not yours.
2006-08-03 10:28:22 · answer #10 · answered by primamaria04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋