My friend is 23, she has been married a year and a half.
She met her husband and got engaged in a month and then married 9 months from the day they met.
She recently told me that since they married she has been VERY unhappy.
She says she hasn't been happy since their engagement but thought she would fall in love with him because he is a nice guy.
She says she was never in love with him but people tell her to try to stick with it.
They went to counseling but it didn't help.She thinks they weren't meant to be and didn't know each other when they married.
She says they never spend time together and don't have anything to talk about.
She wants to leave him but he says he loves her.
She promised to try for another 6 months but she is so miserable and unhappy.
I told her I love her and think she should leave if she isn't in love with him. No counseling makes you fall in love with someone.
They have no children.
What should she do?
2006-08-03 10:19:04 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am a FEMALE.
I am married too and we have been friends for 10 years!
2006-08-03 11:25:36 · update #1
I told her that I loved her to let her know I supported any decision she made. I am not a lesbian and I am not some guy in love with her. Geez!
2006-08-03 11:28:22 · update #2
Assuming you are male, you are scum. Telling a married woman that you love her and that she should end her marriage isn't meant to help her, it's just to get her yourself. She doesn't need you undermining her marriage. People do a great job all by themselves. IF you truly care about her- end ALL contact with her, forever. You aren't a friend, just a horny guy working to get a new lady. IF you are a woman, she needs a friendly ear. Be there for her, but don't dabble in the role of marriage counseler.
2006-08-03 11:22:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the hell does she expect only knowing him for one month. they never took the time to know each other well now she has the time. TAKE IT. get to know each other it sounds like she just want to run around. You don't go marring someone just coz If you put your mind into it you can make anything happen. I believe she's still in her diapers. That's what make the world the highest in divorce rating to date. I've been with my husband for 21 years you take the good with the bad and put some effort into it. If she dose divorce it might be the last greatest guy she'll ever meet. There are not that many out there and they are getting worst.
2006-08-03 17:39:20 · answer #2 · answered by kayla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she agreed to try for another 6 months, she should live up to her agreement. At that point, if she still isn't happy.. then she needs to move out, initiate divorce proceedings, and move on with her life. No amount of counseling will make someone love someone... it may just delay the inevitable.
Definately stand by her side. She is going to need a friend.
Good luck.
2006-08-03 17:30:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek counseling before making the decision, actually couseling will help her make a firm decision.
If she doesn't she may regret it and there's way to much paperwork to go through so it's better to think and talk things through no matter what path she takes.
2006-08-03 17:30:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jr Thompson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should just be honest with him and tell him what she has told you. He needs to know that she is not in love with him. He doesn't deserve to hold on to something that will never happen. If she doesn't love him, she doesn't love him. Nothing or no one can make her love him. I'm sure it will hurt him, but it will hurt him more if she continues to "try" to make something work that will never work. Divorce is inevitable in this case.
2006-08-03 18:01:43 · answer #5 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then if there isn't any love they should get a divorce, they cna have new lives! They don't have children after all! Best of Luck! ~V.J.~
2006-08-03 17:30:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to sit down with him and honestly tell him that she doesnt want to prolong the hurt the divorce will bring. and she needs to stick by her guns.
2006-08-03 17:31:10 · answer #7 · answered by starla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
can u conclude ur words in few words with strong meaning that reach anyone
my advise to her is to stay with him thinking with each other about points of conflicts and then soluate with each other this points if they didnt reach one common way so she have to leave him
2006-08-03 17:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce him. She was stupid to marry him in the first place, and all she's doing is prolonging her misery and his.
2006-08-03 17:41:21 · answer #9 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋