Is there a site on the internet where I can search for friendships with other males?

Answer 1

That's easy. What are your interests -- chess? Performance rally? Amateur astronomy? Homebrewing? Whitewater rafting? Legend of Zelda? Look for Web sites/blogs/discussion groups on the subjects you find most interesting, and start contributing. Your future friends will find YOU.

My best friends are all people I initially met (either in person or on the Internet) while pursuing an interest, hobby or activity. I have a number of very close friends that I initially met on Internet mailing lists as long ago as the mid-1980s. Not everyone will develop into a great longtime friend, but when you find somebody whose interests touch yours on a number of points, it's a good start.

One thing to remember is the old saying, "The best way to HAVE a friend is to BE a friend." So if you spend all your time modifying your car, look for a mailing list or BB for guys who have the same kind of car. Post tips you've found about easy ways to put in an intercooler, or what kind of bushings to use, or whatever. And when somebody says "Hey, is there anybody in the Near North who can help me install a new set of lower control arms on my '97 Civic?" and you've done this, offer to help. Or find the local chapter of the Sports Car Club of America and get involved in club races, whatever lights you up. The best way to make friends is to show that you're willing to work for something they're all interested in, you'll get a lot of respect and people will get to know you.

My examples (like my avatar :-) are car-centric because that's where most of my social life happens, either working on cars or doing things with them; I write road rallies, work checkpoints for friends' rallies, compete in autocrosses, do track days, and help my pals when they need another set of hands to do something on their cars. Maybe you're into video games or World War II aircraft or origami or French cuisine or... You get the idea. Find people who share your interest, and you'll have friends.