My married lover who broke off with me still keeps in touch with me. He wants to remain friends. Do I stand any chance of getting him back? His change to be faithful is based on some silly thing he has began practicing and not a religious experience so he is bound to fall off the wagon. Once a cheater always a cheater they say.
2006-08-03 09:46:14 · 4 answers · asked by reallyfedup 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It would be interesting to hear what his thing is?
But anyway, since there's very little likelihood that you'll be able to have an actual, active friendship, I suspect he's just keeping his hand in. Which means .... who knows? It could go either way. He may indeed fall off the wagon, or he may find that keeping you on the hook is enough to get him over whatever hump he's trying to scale.
Here's my take on it: Anytime you break up with someone, there's always regret and some fear. It's hard to let go, even if you're the one doing the letting go. You almost always try to retain some hold on the person you've dumped. Kind of like insurance.
More often than not, you end up letting go completely. You may pop back for a quickie here and there, but you rarely pick up again.
He may indeed cheat again, but perhaps not with you.
I'm just going on my own observations and experiences as both the dumper and the dumpee; it may be quite different in your situation.
My advice if you wish to reel him back in is to remain cordial, make it clear that there's an open door for him, but WITHDRAW emotionally. I don't believe in playing games - I think honesty is the only way to go. However, people in these situations always sense when the other person has moved on emotionally - like sharks scenting blood. It hurts them and makes them think twice.
I hope I'm not rambling too much, and have made some sense!
2006-08-04 02:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might, yes. It depends on you, in a away. But it always depends on when he leaves his wife, permanently.
2006-08-03 16:50:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say you're sorry.Tell him to give you another chance.Give him flowers or something.Say you love him.If you do you might be surprised.
2006-08-03 17:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Jon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO... Don't listen to him is bull.
2006-08-03 17:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by jayden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋