I'm so depressed that school is starting soon. I'm trying to "drift away" from a friend this year who was really a great friend for a while but then became racist and making gross jokes and being rude to the rest of my friends. How can I do this even though I know FOR SURE he'll be in at least one of my honor classes? (please don't say drop out)
This kid is REALLY imature and if he KNOWS he's offeding you, he keeps going with it more and more just to be annoying! (middle school) :(
Also, then he gossips about you and makes things go completely horrible in every way making YOU the bad guy. I've always tried to stay away from his bad side but I've had enough in acting like all his jokes are fine. Please help!
2006-08-03 09:28:16 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It's easier to drift away from a friend than you think. If he calls, don't answer. If he talks to you, give a short and boring response. If he's looking for attention, don't give it to him.
2006-08-03 09:31:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, with that kind of friend, you don't need an enemy! First of all, stop playing his game. You're pretending to be his friend just for your own protection. He's got you right where he wants you -- under his thumb. You'll have to tell him in no uncertain terms that the friendship is over -- period! Oh, yes, he'll try to retaliate, but I would just ignore him. If it gets to the point where he's really harassing you during school, talk to your teachers or the principal. As long as you don't provide him with any more ammunition, he'll find someone else to torment. If you're an honor student, I'm sure you can make some really fine friends who will be more mature and compatible with the kind of person that you are. Good luck, dear.
2006-08-03 09:38:12 · answer #2 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe my only advice is to be upfront and honest about how they are making you feel. If they are really your friend they will understand, otherwise you will know who your real friends are. At this point you will have to tell them that if they won't change, you will not be able to be thier friend anymore. Remember you choose your friends. If you have them for a class, don't sit near them, and if they try to sit next to you, advise them not to do so. As unhelpful as teachers may seem try to get them to help you discreetly. This is where having a good relationship with your teacher helps because you can ask them. If they won't help, you will need to talk to administrators, or even your parents to enlist the help of people.
2006-08-03 09:37:38 · answer #3 · answered by caffiene_freek 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do the right thing as a person and talk to this person in private about their behavior they obviously are trying to be cool for somebody let them know what they sound like in a nice assertive way don't be like the rest of the sheep and just let people do whatever and be like later that is not what friends do they communicate openly!! like an adult . Don't be a sheep lead them!
2006-08-03 09:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way too drift away is ignoring the person. It doesn't matter if he will be in one of your honor classes. Believe me, even if you pretend to be his friend right now, by the time you graduate, all your friends will be history. Ignore the creep. Don't answer his text messages or e-mails or anything.
2006-08-03 09:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His parents and other friends are making this come out in him. I'd probably tell him that you don't want to be his friend if he's going to keep acting like a jerk.
Say that and then let him go about his business. He might even come around after a couple years. No sweat.
2006-08-03 09:32:35 · answer #6 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might consider counseling with the school counselor or with your favorite teacher. they are both aware of your "friend" and his offensive ways. they can assist you with possible rescheduling of classes or making sure you are not seated near him.
good luck, and I commend you for recognizing this bad influence and wanting to steer clear of a bad situation.
2006-08-03 09:35:20 · answer #7 · answered by Goddess T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG I know someone just like that!Actually,a lot of people....OK,here's three things you can do:
You can avoid him.
You can request that he not sit next to you in classes.
You can act like it doesn't affect you when he does stuff to you.
Good luck!
2006-08-03 09:35:46 · answer #8 · answered by tetrisss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
easier to drift away
2016-02-04 16:52:18 · answer #9 · answered by Jamie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TELL HIM HOW YOU FEEL PICK A NEUTAL MEETING PLACE & TRY TO TALK IT OUT PLEASE NO YELLING
2006-08-03 09:32:51 · answer #10 · answered by Penney S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋