Around my family I'm really talkative and everything. But around even my cousins and best friends I'm completley shy and act really different, I don't know why. I'm always worrying about what I say and if I'm talking enough, and I hold back from doing and saying a lot of things. I can't be the funny, loud perosn I am at home. How can I?
2006-08-03 09:26:27 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
oh you can!!! i was the same... when i was younger, all the way to high school, i had great fun w/ my friends, always told jokes, made people laugh...but get me in class, in front of other people, and i get SO SHY. like i can't talk, i get really hot and red and sweaty. what the heck right?? lol.... it's ok, u can try and fix it. but it takes time and effort~...my advice would be to slowly but surely work on things that will help make you more confident: your appearance... do u feel ugly? make sure to exercise daily... play around w/ ur hair and makeup, make sure ur clean. emphasis ur good features, like eyes, lips, good skin, etc. do u feel dumb, like people will judge what u say? start reading more, studying more, debating and discussing more.... it will help u start thinking in new ways, and ur knowledge and ability to learn new things will grow! continue to maintain good relationships w/ ur friends and family, try to reach out slowly to ur cousins and other friends, dare urself not to be scared what they'll think. trust me... if u keep in mind that if someone is mean to you, it doesn't mean You're stupid but it means that person is not that great, you will not feel as shy. now that i'm older, i say what i think and feel, not to trample on others, but to share and discuss. if people respond and interact, awesome! if THEY choose to act lame and mean that's their problem.... i know i have a good personality and i'm a good person, and i'd rather have good, nice people around me than rude ones who think they're all that when they're not!! :)... building ur self confidence will help u in the long run.. learn not to be scared, but learn to be a good, respectful, smart and thoughtful person who can understand different ways of thinking, and can care for others, and u will realize that you are Awesome, and other people will see it too :)
2006-08-03 09:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At least you don't seem to be imply in your loved ones. That's the way it will have to be. "Honor thy father and thy mom." At least you are vocal round others it is average to be rather less vocal round others, there are children who do not speak plenty to adults, however have tons of peers, and stuff. Pray plenty. God will aid you, who else bigger to aid you than the person who made you me and the whole lot that's. He knew you earlier than the basis of the earth.
2016-08-28 13:12:10 · answer #2 · answered by kernan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself, don't give people the power to hide who you are and act a certain way. Life's short- Keep it Real!
2006-08-03 09:36:18 · answer #3 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drink alcohol!! If you are over 21.
2006-08-03 09:29:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just act like yourself and go wid the flow......
thats wat i do and it works! i use to be like you too but now im not.
2006-08-03 09:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by Chanel babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋