I know I am no good at small talk and her yelling at me for what I do talk about makes me even more self-conscious about talking to people. When I get self-conscious I go into my "comedian" phase and continously crack jokes. What does she do this?
2006-08-03 09:01:45 · 16 answers · asked by thebuffettour 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Welcome to married life.. Women have a control issue. They want you to talk and act like men and when it doesn't meet with their expectation your shut off for a month or more.
I've decided if weren't for my kids I'd be single. Getting the riot act once a week or more gets old. If you don't have kids, you have the option to bug out, AN old friend told me once, "Stay Single and your pockets jingle."
Truthfully, I got one heck of a lot more sex when I was single.. The minute you say "I do, she'll start saying no."
Next time stay at home. Better to enjoy your time as you see fit.
2006-08-03 09:47:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL!!! You have my sympathies, mate. Some women are never satisfied, no matter what you do, and their main goal in life is changing us so we fit their standards. If we ever get that far, they'll be bored with us and ditch us.
Man, put yer foot down and tell her if she doesn't like the way you small talk, she can go to those parties alone in the future. She has no effing right to rag on ya for what you're talking with other people about, as long as you're not offensive or mean.
2006-08-03 09:09:50 · answer #2 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I don't know why you allow her to demand you to make small talk. Why don't you tell her how you feel and if you do or have then, just let it be her problem! I mean, it sounds to me that she is very controlling and enjoys that role if she is y elling at you to talk, then when you get nervous, you make jokes and then you get yelled at for that? Unless you are totally inappropriate in any of it, I would say let me be who I am just as I accept you for who you are. Case closed. Good luck! There has to be an equal balance here.........
2006-08-03 09:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by Laurie S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she's a control freak...
To put it mildly, look, she's the one who has a problem with it NOT you. So you're a bit of an introvert, so what?? There's worse thing to be, so tell her if it bothers her that much then tough, it's got nothing to do with you.
If YOU however want to become more outrverted, then take up Toastmasters, learn to get over your fear of criticism, but remeber, only if YOU want to. Don't let HER make the decision for you!
2006-08-03 09:08:15 · answer #4 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she seems a little controlling and wants to "present" you to friends,and you are kind of an extention of her- what you do represents your lifestyle maybe.You should probably start joining conversations.your comedian phase as you put it...might come off to others in a way you dont realize...every one likes a joke but make sure you take breaks between laughs and give others a chance to join in. good luck
2006-08-03 09:07:37 · answer #5 · answered by cassiepiehoney 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have some backbone man, and tell her to shut the f up. Stop being a snivelling little dog to her. Tell her to back the f off and if she keeps on berating you, then she can go to the parties herself, and that's the end of it.
Be a man and take control of the situation.
2006-08-03 09:07:40 · answer #6 · answered by Ken Jackson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you don't like to make small talk...its who you are. And that it is not up to her to critique your conversation skills. She should accept you for who you are.
I am the same way, I don't do well at small talk and don't really carry a conversation unless I know someone well. My husband knows not to abandon me at parties and doesn't expect me to talk it up all night. If I do decide to its my choice.
It is very important that you communicate this to her or you will build up resentment. Communication is one of the most important things in a relationship
2006-08-03 09:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because she married you under false pretexts' women are raised and breed to find someone to take care of them, they take it a step further when they get older and expect perfection while taking everything else for granted. She'd have nothing if she had to be alone and had no parents, that's her true value and it will show up in any and all cracks.
2006-08-03 09:10:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
bc she is jealous n insecure n well she is female n we just do that crap but u tell her that if she wants u to talk then u will n dont be gettin all ova ur behind for it later that that crap is gonna stop so get ova it.. but do it with a smile
2006-08-03 09:06:07 · answer #9 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she has an expectation for you to live up to that you are obviously not meeting.
2006-08-03 09:27:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋