Ok I have rephrased my previous question read below............. It should be clearer now ok?

Question

Why do gay people accuse straight people of secretly wanting to be Gay when we(the straight community) post questions in reagards to your lifestyle?

If 80% of the world was Gay and you had a straight friend , wouldn't you naturally have questions about your friends lifestyle?
Do you feel me now?

P.S. I know white people will give me sh** for that last comment.

Answer 1

Okay, I understand your question now. Some people are morons, straight or gay, and assume that just because you're curious, you're *curious.* Not all people see it that way, it's just a small group. It does have a foundation, people who are in the closet often ask questions about homosexuality.
If you have questions, you can feel free to message me and I can point you in the right direction.

Answer 2

The problems start when the questions are phrased in a way that are insulting. (I'd give an example, but one only has to take a quick spin through this area of Yahoo Answers to find plenty of examples.) It's just a natural defense mechanism to fight fire with fire, so that's why gay people often answer in that way.

If the question is respectful and open, honestly seeking knowledge, most decent gay people have no trouble answering.

After all, most of gay people realize that the best way for us to gain tolerance and acceptance on a wider basis is to educate others.

Answer 3

Honest, open questions are answered with respect and politeness (like yours, above).

Hate-filled and bigoted questions sometimes provoke just as extreme emotions in the responses.

People hate what they fear - and sometimes what they secretly desire. Of course, this doesn't mean that every who asks questions about LGBT people sercetly desires to be one. But it has been the case on several occasions that some of the most virulent anti-gay politicans later got busted on visiting gay porn sites, had gay relations, etc. So current events and recent history at least bears this out for a minority of gay-bashers.

Not everyone points fingers. I've always liked the phrase, "when you point a finger, three more are pointing back at you." :o)

Peace. Justice. Tolerance. Understanding. Isn't this what we should all be striving for?

Answer 4

Their are several factors that go into this. In no order of importance:

Keep in mind that you are on the internet. It is not possible to see peoples facial expressions and body language. We can't tell by your expression if you are interested because of a biological desire or for a mere intellectual curiousity.

Many gay people go through years of denial before even attempting a sexual encounter with the same sex - LET ALONE coming out. Many gay people never come out. Many gay people are so ashamed of the way they are they commit suicide. So - many of us are used to acting like straight people asking a question about gay life styles.

Think about this. Every time you look at some one who has come out - you are looking at someone that has been through a lot of pain. It is not as parents hope that they have a gay kid! Society looks down at us.

In regards to the second part of your question - yes I would. There are many things about people that I can't understand. I think it is important to always ask quetions and to always try to learn.

Answer 5

I'm white and I see nothing wrong with your last comment. I'm also bi and I see nothing wrong with someone questioning what it's like to be that way. As long as you are questioning in a respectfull manner, which you seem to be doing.
I think a lot of gay people say that based on an old belief. One that says that if you are truly afraid of another group of people then it must mean that you are afraid that you yourself have some of those same traits.
Hopefully that made sense, I'm having a hard time putting it into words.

Answer 6

Why must you make it a white issue? I'm black and I have a problem with your last comment as well as this question. If you don't like who we are, then quit posting in the LGBT section! Who the **** are you to speak for straight people? You have you own mind(as little and narrow as it is!) and mouthpiece. I have straight friends and we're wonderful and cool. So, my dear, I suggest you get your head out of your *** and quit being hateful. Now, with all that said...DO YOU FEEL ME NOW?!

Answer 7

huh? white people? I thought you were just tan. didn't know you were B-L-A-K.

where do you live that gay people think straight people want to be gay? the only, and I mean ONLY thing that straight folks should envy about gay folks, is that males in our culture are taught from the beginning to be agressive, and go get what we want. well, we, as males, like sex. as males we are not looking to "preserve our honor" or "virtue" we're looking to score. so, when both participants are out to score, and one is not saying "I think we should wait" then sex comes a lot more frequently. that's it.

Oh, and no kids unless you're trying.

Answer 8

I'm white and don't intend to give you s*** for that last comment.

I think it's when people who claim to be straight talk about how gross our sex lives are in explicit detail or seem to have really thought about it that that sort of thing comes out.

Gays and bis have often lived in denial for a time, and so, right or wrong, we think others may be as well.

Answer 9

When a person gets their toe stomped a few times the toe starts to throb and if someone even looks like they are going to stomp that toe the person reacts instinctively. I think this is sometimes an instinctive response to some in the GLBT community.

Answer 10

Yes I feel you now...and my answer on the last question still stands..I think I understood it the first time. Of course you have the right to inquire about our lifestyle...it's just that we get so used to being attacked...I apologize if that's what people did to you.