My wife and I have been having some problems for some time. She works ALOT and is really into her job. I support her and want her to be successful -- but it takes away from our lives. I had a talk with her and found out that she may not feel the same way about me that she did when we were married. I married her because I felt she was my best friend -- but I am not sure that she shares the same feelings. She seems so involved in her job that there is little time for me. I believe she works all the time because she is not quite happy at home and does not want to deal with us. Some of my friends recommend counceling -- some recommend learning to communicate better with her. The only time she tells me that she loves me is in the morning -- no other time in the day. Also, I do not hear from her all day long -- no calls to say "hi" or anything. Some of my friends think I am being needy. I am starting to get tired of feeling like this -- but I am not sure what to do.
2006-08-03 08:54:12 · 12 answers · asked by Brian F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't suspicious your own feeling,when you can smell the changes, or feel the difference,you are right,something is happening or even has been happened.
She might really spend all her time at work cause she loves the job,but other than that ,are you sure there are nothing else or no one else,I think you should sit down and talk to her frankly,nothing should hide,tell her your feeling ,ask about her feeling,and suggest to see a councellor,if she accept your suggestion,that is a good sign cause she's love you with no doubt,if she turn you down or even yelling at you and said nothing wrong,haha,she has some problem for you to check it up.
For the time beings,that's all you can do and you are welcome to contact me for more detail or suggestion, an intense observation is most needed,but be positive,may be tomorrow will be a better day, Once again,contact me for advices or treat me as a listener.
2006-08-03 09:36:07 · answer #1 · answered by canada2006 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're being needy. I understand. I don't really know a whole lot of people that like thier jobs well enough to be there all day. I can't wait to get home, and I hate my house, and I have no one to go home to, except my kids, but they're already with me. ANYWAYS, do you have the ability to go to her work? I mean, I know some people don't allow that, but if you can, go there and bring her lunch or take her to lunch or something. I hate to make it sound like this, but she might have someone at work she is cheating on you with. I mean, maybe not, and I hope not, but that's what I would think. Maybe you should ask her if it is necessary to stay at work all the time. Just tell her you miss her and you want her home with you sometimes.
2006-08-03 16:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you first have to decide if you are ready to push the envelope - are you really ready to push the issue and hear her respose (which may be that she doesn't feel the way you do and that she is working so that she doesn't have to think about it). If you are ready then push the issue and ask her to go into counseling with you. If she won't there isn't much you can do except start lining up your ducks. If you aren't prepared for that possibility don't keep harping on it. Try to romance her instead. Do you call her? Do you rub her feet at night while she drinks a glass of wine and relaxes? You go to decide what you want and what you are ready to hear.
2006-08-03 16:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by carolcoach64 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would win me back would be romance and lots of it. You got to do things like she's a new crush. Shen flowers for no reason. Have candle lit dinners made just for her. Leave little kisses in her purse with a note in a zip lock bag say "l love you". Do the stuff that makes women melt. I don't know a woman alive that can resist a good old fashion wine and dine.
2006-08-03 16:11:19 · answer #4 · answered by luvladyblue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get your own life. Find activities that will consume some of your time as well. I can tell you one thing, a needy man is NOT attractive and if she feels like you are constantly trying to cling to her, it could be turning her off. If she still doesn't come around, then it is obvious that the two of you are not compatible.
2006-08-03 16:03:07 · answer #5 · answered by alwaysright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the two of you have grown apart. Unless both partners want to share their lives together, regardless of the normal ups & downs of daily life, one partner cannot make the relationship successful.
If she is willing to attend counseling and wants to save the relationship, you have a chance. If not, you may be better off going your separate ways, as painful as that may be in the short-term.
2006-08-03 15:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Nefertiti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not set an example?? Do you guys have cell phones? Send a text telling her hat you miss her and are thinking about her. Or on her VM at work. send her flowers. Get a lovey dovey card and place it on her windshield before she gets off work. you'll will be surprised by the results, (I hope)
2006-08-03 16:00:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds absolutely true honey. Happened to me. I am the one working alot of hours, however, I live with an abusive relationship. Sorry your hurting. if ya ever wanna talk
2006-08-03 16:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by furbee_4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I recommend counseling. Have you tried reaching out to her? Call her during the day just to say hi?
2006-08-03 16:34:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A JOB!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! thats the problem she is tired of you sitting on your*** and she working tooooo much and bringing home the bacon get a job and make her feel like a QUEEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-08-03 16:02:39 · answer #10 · answered by Felicia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋