ok so here goes my sisters hubby fell asleep while having sex last night and she has been wanting to leave his a s s for a long time he is a good man who pays bills and takes good care of the kids but he is not there emotionally for the kids (3 total) or her. what is everyone's opioion about the situation? should she leave or stay?
2006-08-03 08:40:59 · 40 answers · asked by luvyduvy1184 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She needs leave her husband and find a man that can go all night long and satisfiy her, this same man, this atractive stud doesn't pay any of her bills or puts a roof over her head.
Then she will be crying trying to get his hard working husband back, but it will be too late.
The grass is not greener in the other side. Pleasures of the flesh are temporary, having a roof over your head, your bills paid and a good father to the kids is hard to find. You can get someone to f0ck you anywhere honey....but a good husband is hard to come by,
Good luck
2006-08-03 08:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are 2 sides to every story. I don't believe in divorce unless there is infidelity. So I would have to say that your sister should suggest marriage counseling. Because there might be a way for them to work out their problems, which would be helpful for them and the kids. As a child that dealt with my parents divorcing, it is an EXTREMELY difficult situation for a child to go through. I would say do everything possible to work through it. And by the way I fell asleep while I was having sex once, sometimes your just exhausted. But that can't be an excuse to leave someone.
2006-08-03 08:45:56 · answer #2 · answered by angel32984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have narcolepsy if he's having a problem staying awake during sex. He could be on drugs. Men have a hard time being any kind of emotional, so when women talk to them about it, they have to use choice words, to get through to him...his way of understanding it. It's always a touchy subject cause men tend to act too proud to express feelings/emotions....they feel as if it takes some 'macho' from them. I can't say whether she should stay or go, that's up to her. If she's not happy, she should go, if she feels there's still hope to make the marriage work, she needs to tell him exactly how she feels, then they need to figure something out that works for both of them.
2006-08-03 08:48:31 · answer #3 · answered by Shining Ray of Light 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister's husband should know how his wife feels about him and the whole marriage. Maybe, your sister can try marriage counseling. It is very important for a couple to be open with their feelings. Of course, your sister should not feel stuck in a relationship where a husband provides nothing more than material, financial support for the family. Your sister deserves to be truly happy. Her kids also need an affectionate father.
2006-08-03 08:55:47 · answer #4 · answered by metallica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1. Till death do you part
2. Jesus says only in the matter of adultery can you divorce
3. For better or worse
Now that i have guited you a little bit. Why is leaving so easy. Marriage is hard and it takes work. Sounds to me the wife has the problem. She is a quitter. Her word cant be trusted. If she divorces him, why would another man want her if she gives up so easy.
2006-08-03 08:52:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should try to find out why he's emotionally vacant from not only her life, but the kid's lives as well. Not just up and leave without trying to fix anything. Unless he's really a threat to her or the children, it should try to be fixed.
He really fell asleep during sex? What a jerk!
2006-08-03 08:46:05 · answer #6 · answered by illustrat_ed_designs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if people got divorces because their partner fell asleep, the divorce courts would be packed. how about if the guy should GOD forbid ..burp, snore.or forget to bring home a quart of milk. couples seem to throw in the towel or everything. she has three children... and if they have to lose their father through divorce , it should be for something more important. then again may be he would be better off..without a wife who continues to search for an excuse to make her exit. and what is your stake in this? are you waiting on the side lines for a chance at this man... or genuinely concerned about your brother in-law and their children. I think she might as well leave..she is going to eventually anyway.
2006-08-03 08:52:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should remember her wedding vows, stay with him, and learn some gratitude. He probably works long hours, exhausting himself to earn the money to pay those bills, and I bet that if you ask him why he does it - day after day, year after year, when he feels like he's just had enough and can't go on - he'll say that what makes him able to get up tomorrow morning for more of same is that he loves his wife and children and wants them to have a good life. It can't be any easier for him when he never hears one word of thanks from her. She needs to put herself in his shoes for once. Then I bet she'll find she can love him after all...
2006-08-03 08:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband fell asleep one evening while he was on top of me. Part was because of him (completely worn out) and the other part waas my wake up call that I couldn't just lay there and let him do all the work. Now I get into it so much that noboby could sleep through it. It feels better to him and I have more fun too.
2006-08-03 08:58:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is too short to spend unhappy. She needs to help herself as well as the kids. Children learn from example, if they grow up in a household with parents that aren't TRULY in love they will have the same type of relationships I think they derserve more and so does she!
2006-08-03 09:04:23 · answer #10 · answered by babyjake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋