what's wrong with being a virgin?

Question

everyone finds it weird to still be a virgin especially when reach your twenties. i'm not that age yet but as a female teen i notice that having sex at a young age is the thing now and i don't understand. like the movie the 40 year old virgin, i found nothing wrong with that. it's best to wait with someone you truly love than to give it away so easy. just because something is good to you doesn't mean it's good for you. how do you feel about virgins?

Answer 1

There's nothing wrong with being a virgin. It's just that there are so many messages in the media that tell us that we should be sexually active, and that if we're not, then we're unattractive. I find it interesting that most people missed the subtleties in "Forty Year Old Virgin" about the insecurities the other cast members had about their own sexuality. It's your body, you use it as you wish, and you get to be in control of when or if you become sexually active.

Answer 2

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin, no matter how old you are. I believe the average age for people to lose their virginity is around 16-17 but this is an AVERAGE. This means that there are some unfortunate souls who lose their virginity far too young and there are also those who wait well into their 20's or 30' before ever having sex. Obviously having sex for the first time is a very intimate and personal endeavor and the decision to do it is a very personal one. To some people it is a huge deal and to others, it simply doesn't mean that much. You want to wait until you find someone that you truly love, so that is exactly what you should do. Wait until you find someone you truly love and until then, don't stress about it.

Answer 3

You are one in a million and you should be happy. dont listen to the people who say you should have sex or if you don't you are not hip and popular. in the long run, you will be well off than they are because you won't have any diseases, children you can't take care of, and emotional problems that come with being sexually active with another person or persons. We need more teenage girls like yourself and i hope you stay this smart and strong as the years past. Dont feel pressured to do anything you dont want just because someone else is doing it or want you to do it. To be honest, virgins for some reason look better than non-virgins. Think about it. Put any girl side by side and make any one of them a virgin and non-virgin. The virgin will look better. After sleeping with so many people and then finally finding someone that he/she loves, that person feels guility for having so many partners because they can't share that special gift with the one person that they love. You should be proud. Most will tell you that they wished they would have waited before having sex. You have something that most people, especially women want. Virginity.

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with being a virgin until marriage. Good for you. And just because everyone else does it, or seems to do it, does not mean that you should. The movies is fantasy, anything can happen and often does. But, that's not real life.

Even with a "loving" boyfriend, you can make a mistake and go for it at one moment of tenderness. He may not turn out to be the "One" just the same. You have to remember that guys peak sexually at about 18, so they will be looking for sex. Women don't peak until their 30's. That's a lot of time in between for lots of problems with relationships.

Bottom line: You go girl. Be a virgin for as long as you can and share yourself with the man you love during the honeymoon.

Answer 5

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin. Good for you for sticking to what you believe in. There are too many young girls getting pregnant, too much disease. Some people think if they have sex then the other person will love them, but thats not always the case. I waited for the right person (in my early twenties) and I would do it the same way every time. It made it more special and it meant something. I think people lose track of the intimacy of sex and what that means.

Answer 6

I think your parents and any other influences in your life did a wonderful job with you. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. I was a teen mother and it has made things hard. I am 26 and just now going back to college. Stick to your guns and don't give in. Stay a virgin until you find the person you will spend the rest of your life with.

Answer 7

I agree; there is nothing wrong with being a virgin until you get married or are ready for a sexual relationship. There is also nothing wrong with having sex when you are ready (preferably after 18). It's hard to be a virgin when everyone around you isn't, but stick to your decision, and find friends that don't belittle you for it. The right boyfriend will respect your decision and not push you into it. I waited until I was 18, and am thankful that I did.

Answer 8

Hi, I agree there is nothing wrong with being a virgin! I waited till I was 18 and wish now that I had waited longer! You have to do what you feel in your heart is right! No one should tell you how to live your life or feel about being a virgin! I think you are an awesome example to young girls everywhere! You go girl!
God bless!

Answer 9

Being a virgin and staying a virgin until the right one comes a long is a personal choice. THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH THAT.
I was taught that saving yourself for the right one was a gift itself. Being able to say, "I give my self to you." is a precious gift.
It is pure love when the other person is concerend how you feel, and not about what they can get out of it.

Answer 10

People are soo obsessed with instant gratification. I am saving myself til marriage because it's my religion and i think it's a great thing. I have some friends that aren't virgins and they respect me because i am pure. I do think it's easier where i live because i live in a small mostly christian town....except some people...those friends really admire the fact that i stand for what i believe in and that i dont give in....soooo keep up being pure it pays off when you are married and to know that you haven't "bonded" with sooo many different people...it will be special for you....