Just curious to know how many people actually settle and get married for security reasons rather then real love. I feel like its easier to just marry someone you love but not (in love with) for security and knowing that person loves you more..and you know that they would never cheat on you...rather then finding a someone who you absolutely love but would possibly cheat on you...I'd appreciate some input here..
2006-08-03 08:27:49 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is "love" anyway? Everyone has their own definition. You may not have the same feeling toward someone when you're both 35 that you would have had if you were both 18 - but it still can be "love". I wouldn't marry someone if I felt they would cheat on me... No matter how attracted I was to them. But I also wouldn't marry someone simply because I thought they would not cheat on me. There are so many things that go into falling in love and getting married, it's inevitable you trade some things off for others. What one feels they can trade off is very individual... As long as one doesn't trade off too much!
2006-08-03 09:31:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should settle but also i think you need to know what it is you want in a mate. That way you can look for something very specific so then you would never feel as though you had settled. I think with my first marriage my husband at least settled. Not that we didn't love each other we did but we were not exactly what the other wanted. After my divorce and going through the grieving process when i was finally ready to start dating and be in a relationship again. I made a very specific list of what i wanted in partner. I think it had about 7 things. Some were short and to the point some were a little more detailed but it was very specific. It took me about two years before i found someone who fit the bill that was also looking for someone that was like me. Now we are engaged and are going to be getting married in dec. Even though everything is not just completely perfect all the time. Relationships require work no matter how compatable i don't feel as though either of us have settled. But we are very compatible and share the same values and that is what really makes a relationship work.
2006-08-03 14:05:18 · answer #2 · answered by snail 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you settle for second best, second best is what you will get. Never settle when it comes to matters of the heart. Marry someone you love and are in love with. Because ultimately the heart want what the heart wants.
2006-08-03 08:38:33 · answer #3 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, I think security and love kind of go together. My husband gives me security but also love. I wouldn't go into a relationship thinking about if the guy would cheat on me or not. I've never thought that about my husband and we're very in love.
2006-08-03 08:40:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you do no longer experience undesirable, would I say what i think. thank you for giving me time to point. There are 2 issues one million. He would cool down with you for ever yet he would proceed kin with some others, so you might tolerate. in case you experience ok, then circulate head. 2. As he spent a lot with different women persons, he would have been exhausted and would settle with you with out going to a pair different women persons later. word : One ought to marry this way of guy or woman, whose decrease back deeds are unaware so as which you may lead a life in a non violent way with out psychological disturbance. GOD bless and assist you to settle with nicely suited guy or woman.
2016-09-28 21:10:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I almost married someone because it would be an easy relationship. But then I realized it's better when you have occasional arguments and you have to work through them because it helps you to grow together. Settling won't last long, because whoever did the settle will want to unsettle soon enough.
2006-08-03 08:42:18 · answer #6 · answered by angel32984 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never settle i would much rather be with the guy that makes my heart beat fast then just security even if the guy that makes my heart beat fast turned around and cheated i will have much preffered feeling that level of attraction at least once in my life.
2006-08-03 08:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by angelina_mcardle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I settled when I first got married back in 90 because the feelings vanished when things became hard to deal with. So, you hafto go into a relationship totally ready to commit or it wont work!
2006-08-03 08:32:46 · answer #8 · answered by myspacewolf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speaking from experience some people seem to think that just becuz u think some one will cheat then that person will cheat. i say base ur decision on what's in ur heart not ur thoughts
2006-08-03 08:40:15 · answer #9 · answered by WhyNotMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose that would depend on age for one thing.
If I were in my 50's or later, absolutely.
If I were in my 20's or 30's, nope.
2006-08-03 08:36:13 · answer #10 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋