My boyfriend and I have been together for a littke over a year. We recently had our first child together. When I was first preg. he talked about marriage but with my moods i pushed him away and we fought alot. Since the beby we have been getting along great. it has never been better. I believe the man should ask the woman to marry him. It's more romantic to me. So, how do i get him to ask me now without coming out and saying it?
2006-08-03 08:14:52 · 22 answers · asked by karissa s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he wants to marry you he will ask just be patient
2006-08-03 08:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't get anyone to ask you to marry him. Baby or not, that is no guarantee that he has decided on you, specially after spooking away with your bad attitude.
For what you wrote I can conclude two things: You got pregnant too soon into the relationship and that plays a mayor role in why are you still together. You are both young and are still knowing each other.
Because you have his child that doesn't mean that you are the love of his life. Remember that you got pregnant shortly after you met so you don't know if you are meant for each other yet.
He will have to decide whether or not he want to be a husband since he is already a father; If he has education or career goals then that might hinder your chances of becoming a bride any time soon.
Good luck
2006-08-03 15:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the hurry. Wait a while its only been a year. Who knows one day you may be glad that you didn't get married. Not saying that you should never get married but make sure that he is really the one. Be happy with the bliss you have now and don't look a gift horse in the mouth. Wait at least another year and if you still feel the same way then talk to him about it. Besides he may be wondering if you will marry him. And he may be trying to think of a way to ask you. So hold on a while don't be hasty if it's meant to be it will happen. Good luck.
Congrates on the new baby.
2006-08-03 15:28:16 · answer #3 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, here we go.........First things first, you don't get a guy to ask you to marry you. He will ask you, if he wants to and when he wants to. If you put pressure on him, he will leave......that simple.
Why didn't you get married when you found out you were pregnant? If you were talking about then you should have continued the conversations. Even so there is nothing you can do about that now. Just be patient, if you have a good relationship, it will work out, nevermind the fact it has been only a year or so. The best thing for you to do right now is not worry about getting married, but for the two of you to raise your child together. Good luck, he will ask in due time.
2006-08-03 15:25:36 · answer #4 · answered by Highroller 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dag, you don't you wait on him~ What is it with you woman, stop sounding PRESS~ U can not make a dude marry you. And he can care less if you bring it up~ If a guy wants to marry you - WE as WOMAN should not even bring it up~ He has to buy the ring allow him to bring it up~ And just because you have a baby it does not mean he is hubby material~ If he can't put up with the moodiness of a mother than how will he handle being a hubby when you can get pregnant again> Makes no sense to me. Setting yourself up for failure~ Let it take its own course do not rush it.
2006-08-03 15:20:43 · answer #5 · answered by HotPucci220 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget that "romantic" rules about asking. Just tell him you love him and want to make the marriage (you already are married in the eyes of God) legal. Ask yourself whether you two are compatible, have the same goals and would like to grow in the same directions. you have already done somethings outside of tradition---like having a baby before the marriage. So why not???
2006-08-03 15:24:43 · answer #6 · answered by hopscothchbunnies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he tried but u pushed him away so he thinks if i ask her, she will push me again. i think its better if u ask him see what happens :)
if u really want that he will ask u then. talk to friends, parents and try to make a hint for him marriage like "oh waw a wedding cool :D "
or maybe he is waiting for the right moment :)
2006-08-03 15:26:01 · answer #7 · answered by Edvard F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont' ask him to, ask him has he put any more thought into it, accept his answer and let things happen they way they will turn out, not how you want them to. Besides if you are enjoying your family there isn't the neccesity to get married and add to problems you don't have right now.
2006-08-03 15:19:40 · answer #8 · answered by Sue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't. Let it happen naturally. There are many many committed couples in this world who have never tied the knot. He'll asks when he's good and ready. In the mean time enjoy your relationship, and put this issue aside.
2006-08-03 15:21:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
since everything is great so let it go let him be ready to get married and you don't want to push it first time you did and let him be ready to be man enough to ask you marry him. Don't want to go though first time so, be happy that he still wit hyou right now and home everynight with you and taking care of you and baby. smile. that you should be thank for.
2006-08-03 15:21:10 · answer #10 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bring up the question; just tell him you feel that marriage is in order. He can still do the formal "proposal", but you have to be firm on what *your* relationship goals are.
2006-08-03 15:19:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋