OK....so one day my parents where gone and my friend and I asked if we could have 2 of my really close guy friends come over (when i say really close i mean like brother close)My mom said yes, but when she mentioned it to my dad he flipped out. and now im not aloud to spend the night at girlfriends house's, cant be at there house's durring the day if nobodys home, im now not able to go to anyones houses before and after school, and they can only come over when my parents get home which is at like...5. I personaly think that i should at least be able to go to my friends houses with out a parent home because i have always been able to. and now just all of a sudden its no. and i dont think i should be paying for it if my mom is the one that said yes in the first place. and i dont even see a reason why they would be doing this now.My grades are always good, iv never got and any "major" trouble and eather have my friends. im about to go into highschool im almost fifteen. what do i do?
2006-08-03 08:01:51 · 21 answers · asked by Tiffany L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yes your parents are being over protective. But sadly there is little you can do about it until you are old enough to move out which is likely three years or so away.
The only thing you can do is sit your father down and explain to him that you are not planning on doing anything wrong and that unless he allows you to have some responsibility in life you will never learn how to handle it. If they coddle you forever it will take you longer to grow up and learn to behave responsibly on your own. His behavior also encourages you to lie because since you know he is going to over react you can no longer trust him to tell him the truth.
If you explain all this in an adult manner and try and get some concession from him, you may get a little more freedom. But you'd better be responsible with that freedom or it will likely get taken away.
2006-08-03 08:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by ZCT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a parent myself. I'm 26, I've been where you are, so I can understand your frustration. Please try to understand that your parents are actually trying to "parent". It sounds like they are trying to protect you. This may be tough to agree with now, but someday you'll be glad they did.
They know what kind of temptations, dangers and people with evil intentions there are out there in the world. That's what they are trying to protect you from. They are only doing this because they love and care about you and know that if they don't do these things as responsible parents, they will be letting you down in a sense.
Please do you best to respect your parents wishes. Doing this will earn their trust. Eventually, they'll ease up once you get a little older. Just show them that you're mature enough to understand their reasoning and they'll trust you to make good decisions on your own.
Looking back, I wish my parents would've been a little more like yours. I could've avoided some of the mistakes I've made.
2006-08-03 08:16:08 · answer #2 · answered by Sara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot! if you think your parents are over protective mine was worst. I could no not go anywhere, my parents kept us in the house and if we went out side we all sat on the steps. You got it good. But your parent are just trying to protect you from a lot of things going on in the streets. You are only fourteen at this time when you turn fifteen they will loosen up their grip. But right now you are still their baby and they feel they need to keep you under their wings for now. But as you get older the grip will loosen up. A alot of mistakes happen around your age and up they are only trying to prevent those things from happening now. But as you get older you will see why they are the way they are.
2006-08-03 08:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by Nita C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too agree with your dad. Sorry but I do. You are even lucky you can go to your friends place at 5pm with their parents are home. Myself, your dad and other parents know exactly what boys are like. Do me a favour and don't be so hard on your parents.....they only love you and are doing what they feel is right. Someday you'll understand when you are older and you have your own children. Take care and good luck.
2006-08-03 08:15:52 · answer #4 · answered by Gez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen to Ur parents but i think Ur dad lost a screw somewhere well at this age most guys want to get laid well and girls too. but when he said u cant even go to Ur girlfriends then this is too much. if i where u i would go to my friends and come home before parents arrive and if they ask why u didn't answer the phone say u didn't want to or u went for a walk with someone or without :)
2006-08-03 08:10:16 · answer #5 · answered by Edvard F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, they are not being overprotective. The fact that your 15 and at that age (if memory stil serves) your hormones are going crazy. I'm sure your parents trust you (so don't take it personally) it's the other people that they are not too sure of. People sometimes behave in certain ways when adults are not around. Your parents are right to set limitations regarding this matter. Please accept it and respect their decision, you will understand much better in about 3-5 years.
2006-08-03 08:08:47 · answer #6 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad went overboard! If your mom said yes then there shouldnt be a problem. You could always bring up the point that at least you asked permision instead of doing it behind their backs. Dad needs to chill out a bit and your mom should be sticking up for you.
2006-08-03 08:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jenny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think they should trust you until you give them a reason not to. It shows a great deal of maturity that you were open enough to ask their permission. However, you are very young and I wouldn't let boys over either. I think they should have said no, but not revoked privilidges. It would be different if you hadn't have asked and the caught you in a comprimising position, but that is no the case!
2006-08-03 08:07:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your parents love you yeah i know your tired of hearing that but they can't help it if they are too over protected they just want u too be safe its just in your eyesight your about to be grown up but in theres your still a lil girl at least give them credit that they care for u cuz some parents don't really care for there child but u need to sit down and ask y can't u and if u don't like the answer well just take it because they could say no friends over at all
2006-08-03 08:07:39 · answer #9 · answered by lil sad diva princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea they are over protective because of them boys they think that might be having sex that is one of the reason why your dad flipp i mean he is only lokking out for you and he is just trying to be a great dad just sit down and tell them the way you feel tell them there is nothing going on with you and the boys just be honest
2006-08-03 08:09:03 · answer #10 · answered by princess tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋