Am I a bad hateful person now?

Question

I was at a resturaunt about to order and this group of guys came in all over each other, holding hands and kissing and stuff. It's a mutual eastablishment, but my buddie called and was like should I meet you I was like hell naw I got this SH** to go.I think they heard me but I didn't care I was revolted at that sight. This is not easy to get used to, I don't mind affecttion M to F but this is weird. I can say all day long it's cool live your life, but when it's in my face I'm like can you wait till I leave.

I don't like to see hetero couples all over each other but it's just easier to ignore. Plus kids were around I was really irratated. So one of my freinds was Like I was outta line to leave and be offended. Do you think I was, I don't

So I'm prejudice, ok I've always wanted to be prejudice. It was a resturaunt it's has no affiliation. I was hungry and I saw what I saw and wanted to leave. None of my friends are Gay

Answer 1

I just can't stand people like that, either straight or gay. I mean yeah, holding hands it's ok, but no more than that. Affection is meant to show in private. Personally I don't like showing off my affection towards my partner in public. It's not that I don't want people to know I'm a lesbian (I don't care about that), I just find it a little tacky. Besides, if kids are around, it's better to hold on and wait, it's not good for them to see that, either with straights or gays.

Answer 2

The bottom line is that when in public striaght or Gay people need to respect others and Public Displays of affection are not always appropriate. I dont think anyone should act like that infront of others gay or straight. But also remember that those guys behavior is not typical of all gay guys. So dont take it out on others because it is just the handfull that act that way. Remember no matter what group it is wether it be white or black striaght or gay there are always some that give others a bad name. Dont hold it against others.

Answer 3

Well, everyone in the world has something that makes them feel uncomfortable, and yes you have the right to leave. As for making comments... You should think of something you are really proud of being and what would you do if someone made a comment that made you feel judged. I hold my girlfriends hand around town and I live in a very conservative area. People stare and kids are asking questions, but this is mylife too. If I have to see everyone else holding hands and being affectionate, why cant I be happy too?

Children aren't born predigest, parent make them that way. So what if they have to explain the world has so many different people, colors, cultures.

Answer 4

Hateful no. Public displays of affection can be rude no matter who is doing them straight or gay. It's call common courtesy.

However, holding hands. I see nothing wrong with that. A loving kiss should not cause a stir either.

People grouping and carrying on well past a simple kiss, need to go get a room.

As for your intolerance for this type of behavior you have choises here too. Learn to live with it, or lave the establishment in which it occurs. Remember they have rights too and thier behavior is not illegal.

If you are really sick of it I suggest moving to some small country town where the rednecks and hicks live.

Answer 5

You could have left with out trying to make a seen. You did not neceassarily have to point out to the gays why it was that you left. I'd have just left quietlyly. After all - you were in a place that is tolerant of gays. You said it is a mutual establishment.

Why were you in an establishment that is tolerant of gays to begin with if you can not handle gays displaying affection to each other? Think about this another way. What percentage of establishments are there in a town where a gay can comfortably express themselves? Not very many - right? And here you are in one of them objecting to it? I guess I could see your view point if you were in an anti-gay place or something like that.

Could one of the people you were with be gay and maybe you did not know it? Could you have hurt this persons feelings?

I'd reccommend developing a thicker skin. Gays are tired of being shut away in the closet and they are going to continue to want to express them selves in public. Until then, I would just reccomend that you not hang out in gay friendly areas. We aren't barbarians, we just are born a different way than you.

However, I do think it is big of you to ask on the gay/lesbian section of yahoo answers. That shows that you have an open mind.

Good luck!

Answer 6

Gay has been hidden for generations because its "not" the right thing. I love gay people but at the same time I don't want no one straight, bi or whatever sexing over my food. I wouldn't said F^CK THIS SH!T I'M LEAVING but I would have sayed naw I'm going home. the same prejudice gays face now we've already faced it doesn't make it right for you to discriminate. just pick up your things and go. They not gonna follow you home and say I wnat to f^ck you. you can say it's cool live your life but when they do you show hatred

Answer 7

I understand where you're coming from because I'm not a fan of Public Displays of Affection from anyone, it sickens me and I wish ALL people would tone it down. If I wanted to see that I would go to my bedroom or rent some videos.

Answer 8

Its funny that flamers like SCOTT C always think if your offended its because your gay also. What a dumb azz , if somebody was gay they would not be offended. Thats the worst defense I can think of , and they call haters bigots.

Answer 9

You have the right to leave if you want. You aren't hateful, you're just prejudiced. How is it any different from a guy and a girl kissing?

Answer 10

There's a limit to how much affection people should show in public and clearly they didn't give a damn what anyone else thought of them. It just makes them look bad, not you.