I Need Friend Help!!!!?

Question

Heres the problem, a few weeks ago my family and i went to a themepark and i brought a friend with me later on when we were leaving my mom over heard my friend on her phone telling one of our other friends that i didnt get on much of the rides and that she'd tell her about it later. Well my mom told me and i was like "oh ok" i didnt think anything of it. Now my mom is constantly hounding me that this girl "my friend" isn't really my friend and that she's using me and controlling me. Which is all not true, i have nothing that this girl wants honestly, if anyone would use anyone it'd be me using her but im not. And she's not controlling me, controlling to me is someone who is always telling you what to do and you do it. My friend doesnt and never has told me what to do. Then my mom thinks that the fact that we stay on the phone until 2 in the morning is control.....its summer im 16 and there is nothing to do so when we're bored we talk on the phone. I honestly dont know what to do,

if she didnt want to be my friend she would easily tell me because she has so many other friends besides me. My mom keeps saying i need to see the light and stop being stupid but i dont understand why since she heard this comment that she wants to decide who my real friends are. They both know (my friend and the friend she was talking to) that i never get on rides at amusement parks so whats the big deal. Im not sure if i should tell my friend about what my mom is saying or should i should keep quiet and resolve it myself.

Oh and we both call eachother...she usually calls me...but i get free minutes after 9 so my phone bill is never high.

Answer 1

Your mom's trying to have your back because she thinks this "friend" is deceptive and possibly conniving...and she's probably right. You may be overlooking ways in which this person is using you, or you may not recognize them when you see them, but she tipped her hand letting your mother overhear her conversation...people can have ulterior motives you're not even aware of. As your mother suggests, she's worth keeping a jaundiced eye on. Talk to her on the phone as if nothing's changed.That's the best way to keep aware of what she knows, how she thinks, and what she does with information. But be slow to trust her with anything of significance. Human politics isn't confined to Washington,D.C. 16 is plenty old enough to learn these lessons.

Answer 2

i am going through the same thing.
Your mom is trying to tell u that ur wasting ur time on ur friend but not trying to enjoy urself with people with other people.
See ur mom is seeing it as if this girl is someone u should not trust i think u should listen coz ur mom knows whats best.
Do u call her or she calls u??
Well i used to call her i got in trouble coz of the phone bill want so high.
I think u should tested her and don't tell her anything ur mom says to u coz it's between u and ur mom and if u keep telling her things she would want to know more and more.
Don't call her wait for her to call you.

Answer 3

In true friendship - LEAVE SMALL THINGS SMALL.
Tell your mother to think about her intentions and not her way of speech.
If she is your friend love her unconditionally and don't expect anything from her including her expression of love.

Answer 4

WOW this one is a headache and boy all i could say is ask your so-call friend what she dealing with just maybe you will find out if she is using you

Answer 5

me toooooooooooooooooooo. ..................