Should I sew the Department of Children and Families?

Question

I was taken away from my mother when I was 15. Since then I have had 2 children. They called me the problem child. I have been to 5 different high schools and have on lived in ct for 3 years and have been switched to 10 different shelters and group homes and they are threating to take my babies if I leave this group home but I'm 18 now. The place I live in ia a non profit agency and recieves 500 a month for me to live here and they are the ones who really don't want me to leave because the money is to good
P.s ward of the state

it is a shelter but I am the only DCF kid here and the youngest all the other people are in their late 20 and 30's and my boy friend and I are looking to get an appartment together

and I am in school right now and I have a job and I am thinking about taking on a 2nd

Answer 1

wow ur a young gun well look here your 18 now your an adult you have a responsibility to take care of your kids you dont want to end up leaving oyur kids and make them all troublesome.You can sew them i would they have no rigth to take your babies and if you realy care about them you will protect them.And dont worry about the children and family thing cause your old your generation stays in u but if your realy try you can hel p your kids.And may i ask wat kind of home you live in (not to be mean but i feel sry) so my advice is take your phone and sew those retards fro all they are worth.

Answer 2

If you are 18, you are probably able to leave regardless of what the group home says. However, this does depend on the state in which you are living. I know of 2 states(though there may be more) that you are not considered an adult , nor are you allowed to leave your parents house (or in your case, the group home) until your 19th birthday. Check into the laws for your state. You may be stuck for another year.
Also, do you have a place to move to once you leave the shelter? Because now they are looking out for the best interest of your children as well. If you have no where to go, they may not legally be allowed to let you leave. Obviously they can't just let 2 children leave with no home to go to.

Answer 3

Not working would probably be the reson behind them acting that way. Not working and pulling your weight is a burden unless you're 12. You are not, you are 21 one years old. Its time to get a job. I also have anxiety of being around people sometimes, I have it pretty bad. It doesnt stop me from doing thinks in life such as working. Its all a mind game. You cant lay down and die because you have a few self battles. Yes, it is a struggle, some days are better than others, but you got to keep moving forward. I would bet money, if you get a job and pull your weight, help out a little...alot of the tension would be gone. As far as the needing affection, we all do. You cant expect your family to all the time be up your *** because you have a little bit of personal issues. Im not being heartless, but I have some of the same issues, and I dont want any one to baby me. Gotta be stronger than that to survive in this world. Not everyone is gonna give you want you want. Stop being childish by threatening to kill yourself to your family, get out and make a living. Even if you have serve anxiety, social anxiety, etc. you dont get the world handed to you. I have lived with that since I was 11 years old, I am 19 now. It has been a rough go, so far but that is life. --Good luck.

Answer 4

sounds to me like you need to get on with your life in an environment that is more conducive to respect. and i mean self-respect as well as respect from other people.
the place where you live... if you leave, where are you going to go? do you have a job? who will take care of the children while you work?
don't dwell too much on the past, look at the present, and focus on the problems that need to be solved. example...

change your attitude. two babies in 3 years? if you can't stop having sex while you get yourself together, then start making sure it's safe sex. you don't want any more babies and you certainly don't want STDs.

stay where you are and start by finding a job if you don't already have one. make it the best job you can get because you'll be wanting to support yourself and the children on your paycheck. once you are settled in at your job, and have a little bit of job security, look for a place to live.

i don't know why you were taken away from your mother, but i might suggest that if you weren't abused or anything like that, your mother might be a good place to start. you're the best judge of that. in any case, for starters (ideally) you'd want to just rent a room (or a few rooms) in someone's home. someone you can trust, maybe a freshly retired couple who wouldn't mind a little extra cash for renting the room and babysitting while you work. a lot of retired people could use the extra cash and quite a few could use the feeling of being useful, having something worthwhile to do.

i don't know this place you live at and i can't judge, but i'd bet right now you don't have much in the way of self-respect, and you think the only way any guy will ever pay any attention to you if if you have sex, and the only reason anyone would want you around is so they can have 500 dollars a month. but you could be wrong. guys who just want sex don't pay attention to you, only your zipper and 500 dollars don't go as far as they used to, especially if they are supposed to cover the children's expenses too. maybe these people are just concerned that you are trying to run away from them instead of trying to start out on your own. maybe they're afraid you'll have 5 more children before you're 25 and end up abusing or neglecting them. or getting AIDS and passing it along to them. if you asked them to help you start out the right way, so you and your children can have good lives, i'm sure they'd be happy to point you in the right direction.

i can't even begin to imagine what you've been through, but it sounds to me like right now you love your children more than you love yourself. for them, think carefully about all this. you have some very hard decisions to make. i wish you luck...

Answer 5

Talk to an Attorney to see if that is a case that can be made.

You should always get a yourself a free consultation and take it from there, the suit will have to be filed and there is usually a filing fee (can be lifted in some states if your indigent) but TALK to an attorney, you can try to see what ARE your legal options. In the meantime, you qualify for aid to get help for college, to get into Jobcorp (yes, even with 2 kids) and other things.

You need to get help to get your life on track and there is plenty of help available. So take advantage.

Answer 6

i am sorry. sounds like your parents and the "system," have failed you. However, you are legally an "adult" and can leave. No one can take your children from you unless you prove to be an unfit mother. Contact your local leagal services. I do caution you from making any rash decisions--or your children will have the same fate as you. Please try and get your GED/diploma, get job training in a field that will allow you to be self sufficient and, i hope you are on birth control. Best wishes. Please don't be in a hurry. do become prepared for real life and responsibilities.

Answer 7

Wow, you are in this bad situation and you are asking questions about getting pregnant with your third baby???!

Are you crazy or just desperate to be loved?

Please stop having children until you can financially support yourself and give your children the life they deserve!!!!!!

You are a mom now, get your crap together and be a woman. You are the one who wanted to have babies so you can figure out how to get yourself out of this situation and make a life for you and your babies.

Go to planned parenthood and get some birth control please and then seek out a woman's shelter that can help you figure out how to get out of the mess you got yourself into.

And then seek counseling because you don't seem to have much love for yourself. It doesn't matter how many babies you pop out, you need to fix you.

Answer 8

if they are nonprofit then they aren't to be getting anything from you. seeing that your 18 now, you would have to go to the state and find out if you can leave where you are at with your kids.

Answer 9

You are an adult now, but Honey I hate to be be mean, but I dont know how else to sat it.
You made your bed, now lye in it.