I spend all my time with my husband and our daughter. Don't get me wrong I love them both. But I am afraid that if he doesn't start letting me go out and have some time to myself, our marriage will not work out. I don't want that to happen. Every time I tell him I need to go out and have time to myself, he tells me I can't go and he accuses me of cheating on him. I have never cheated on him and I don't know what his problem is. All I want is some time to myself. What should I do?
2006-08-03 07:41:51 · 6 answers · asked by Bree 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if he won't "let you" have it, you are going to have to "take it".....find someone to care for your daughter for a few days (friend, sitter, family member), and find a hotel somewhere, or take a short vacation....leave while he is at work and just be sure to leave him a note and let him know that you had to take some time, and that you wouldn't have had to resort to this if he had just let you do it in the first place. my husband and I were going through a "rough time" and i wanted some space to think about our situation and put things in perspective....he wouldn't agree to it, so I just packed up my stuff and left while he was gone one day....we did work things out, but it did us some good to have that time apart, and, after the fact, he finally undestood.
2006-08-03 07:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by mjboog2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is a little possessive. He may be worried that you want to leave him. I told my husband that I wanted time to get my nails done, and go to the bookstore. Tell him you just want to do some girl stuff that may make a difference. If not explain to him that you need some time to yourself and that you do love him but that you feel the need to have some girl time. Don't let him isolate you because then you will be in real trouble. Then you will need to get out before things get dangerous. Good luck.
2006-08-03 14:49:33 · answer #2 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly, he is afraid that you will cheat on him. You need to talk to him and find out why he thinks that. Is because of something you have done? Are you flirty? Or, is it because of baggage he has from a previous relationship? Talk it through with him. Find out why he's afraid. Tell him you love, need him, and just want some fun time like anyone else.
2006-08-03 14:54:19 · answer #3 · answered by Otis F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same problem here, he needs to realize that in order sustain your relationship he is going to have to trust you. If you don't have trust, you basically have nothing..
By the way, has he cheated on you, the more accusatory they are usually means they're guilty of the same offense
2006-08-03 14:50:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is controlling, and he needs to get help for that. Did you know that is a type of abuse? I think it's considered domestic abuse. He needs to seek counsoling and learn to trust you. You need to be able to be YOU. Don't live under his control. That is no life at all.
2006-08-03 14:58:41 · answer #5 · answered by save_me_now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAKE HIM TRUST YOU.IF YOU REALLY NOT GOING OUT TO CHEAT.
TELL HIM. YOU NEED TO BREATH OR YOUR LEAVING WITH THE BABY. HE PROBABLY FEELS GUILTY CUZ HE PROBABLY CHEATED ON YOU BEFORE. BUT I UNDERSTAND WHEN A WOMAN WANTS TO BREATH ON HER OWN. TELL HIM STRAIGHT UP YOU NEED YOUR SPACE
2006-08-03 14:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by GrownNSexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋