~if he cheated on you, twice, and tells you that he wants you to cheat on him (most likely to make him feel better). Yes, we have a child.
2006-08-03 07:41:44 · 19 answers · asked by Ca-C 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The old two wrongs make a right scenario. The qustion is would that make your relationship better? Getting even might make him feel better, but I doubt it would make you feel better and it definitely will not add any trust to the relationship. Plus, if your relationship fails, I wonder the ramifications it may have in a divorce settlement because both parties were unfaithful. Its up to you though.
BTW 2 wrongs don't make a right, but 3 rights make a left.
2006-08-03 07:50:12 · answer #1 · answered by noise 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Making a huge mistake to try and validate other mistakes is definitely not the answer, and certainly not how you expected to live your married life. So NO, I would not cheat on my husband, even if he gave me "permission". Otherwise, why not just have an OPEN marriage? I mean, at what point to you say ok, we've both done enough cheating, now let's stop?? I don't think you signed up for that either. If you really want this marriage to make it (and I hope you do for the sake of your child), then it's going to take HARD work through counseling. That is the answer...not cheating on one another.
2006-08-03 07:59:28 · answer #2 · answered by julesl68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wouldn't have a second chance to cheat on me, because after he cheated the first time, I would leave and file for divorce. Having a child doesn't matter. This issue isn't about your kids! It's about trust between you and your spouse. You can both still be good parents to your child even if you aren't together. If anything, your child will at some point pick up on the anger you have towards his or her father, and that will cause problems.
2006-08-03 11:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by Naples_6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't do it. Not only is it wrong but it is actually something he is planning on using against you if you actually go out and do it. Then he would have a reason to make himself feel better and divorce YOU and collect money from YOU, possibly taking your child too. Don't fall into the trap. Sounds like you could use a long vacation from him (maybe a permanent one that starts with a "D").
2006-08-03 07:56:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't cheat. You're right he is telling you to do so that he can feel better about what he did. Stay faithful until the end. It's apparent that you took your marriage vows seriously.
2006-08-03 07:53:14 · answer #5 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on me once, I would forgive him. If he cheated on me twice, I would have to call it quits. But no, I wouldn't cheat on him just to get even. Gosh, you never know who has an STD these days.
2006-08-03 07:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by save_me_now 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. Two wrongs don't make a right. And anyway, he would leave you because he wouldn't be able to handle thinking that you might do it again.
Have a guy call you just for the hell of it, and let him think you really would!
2006-08-03 07:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I would leave his sorry butt. I don't cheat, and I would not be about to give him justification for his actions. He should feel guilty.
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me.
2006-08-03 07:50:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your going to stay with the cheating bastard then hell ya go out and have yourself a hell of a time.
2006-08-03 07:46:54 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him now. If you cheat on him, it will justify everything he has done to you. Then it becomes a vicious circle. Yeah, leave him for you.
2006-08-03 08:15:54 · answer #10 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋