Will it ever work out?--please advise..?

Question

Me and my ex-boyfriend broke up 4 months ago, we dated 5 1/2 years. Towards the end we were fighting constantly. He was drinking a lot, and both name calling. We were both unhappy. After we broke up I ran to his friend for comfort and kissed him--I know now that that was a mistake. My ex and I are talking again now--although he says he'll never trust me..--but he's cheating on his new girlfriend with me! Will it ever work out between us again? Should we even try? I know we love eachother very much..please ADVISE!!

Answer 1

I believe it is time to move on. If you think that your ex is playing with everyone then there is no point in continuing a relationship with him .it's better to move on.
Good luck.

Answer 2

Sweetie it will not work out. If he is cheating with his new girlfriend with you then what does that tellyou about how he is? Well I will tell you if he is cheating on his new chick then its fair to say he did it to you as well. I know you can't possibly think otherwise. I hope you all are using a condom cause now you done sleep with all the guys the new chick has slept with. No need for you to give the goods to the ex who already had the goods and he moved on. U are basically giving yourself for FREE~ I mean sorry to be harsh but he had it already and if he wanted to keep you then you all would be together. And I hope you know that guys do not allow females to come between them, it be there little BOY secret on the low, its called the (guy oath) not to tell and not to allow females to come in and ruin a friendship~ U lucky you just kissed him cause you could of gotten a name for yourself, like FREAK and EASY or slut. U can't go and kiss on your ex boo's friend. Thats just nasty and besides how does that look you make the rest of the chicks look bad, how? Let me explain you got the ex boo thinking you was digging the friend all along and how easy it was for you to run to him. A lesson out of all of this is this, if you all broke up and he moved on then leave him alone. Or you can look at it like this, this is my ex and he is cheating and I know how I was a stickler on him or us cheating and look at me he is cheating with me. U should not feel good because I am sure he did the same thing with the chick before you. Get tested is what I say~~ For everything.. Stop sharing mates, thats gross. And lastly stop sounding press, move on, it will never be again, cause the TRUST IS GONE~

Answer 3

o boy, this is a tough one....
first of all, if you love each other that much, you don't need other people complicating things. they're complicated enough as it is. don't even consider getting back together (or seeing each other either) until it's just the two of you again.

trust is a big issue. if you can't resolve the kiss and the girlfriend and trust each other, don't even waste time thinking of trying to get back together. there is no point, it will not work.

i don't know what caused all the fights before, but if he was drinking that much, i've bet that had something to do with it. he needs to stop drinking. i don't know if he's addicted, but get him to go to a AA meeting anyway. if he's not, it might just give him the motivation to stop drinking so much BEFORE he gets addicted.

if you can get over those mountains, then try to resolve the issues, whatever they were, with respect for each other. i have never been able to understand why when people fight they will sling insults at each other. this is someone you love. why are you deliberately saying things to them that will hurt? i know when you're mad, you want to hurt them, but you'll get over being mad long before they get over the things you said to them. think about that.

i suppose you could make it work with lots of hard work on both sides, but the way you make it sound, i'm ot sure he's worth it...

i wish you good luck.

Answer 4

He is cheating and says he will never trust YOU? Go figure. I think if he wanted to come back he would have left the new girlfriend. It sounds to me like he may still have an attraction to you or even feelings for you but he is not willing to give it another serious shot.He is willing to satisfy his need by still talking with you but is not willing to give up what he has now to be with you again. If it didn't work when you were both seriously committed has very little chance of working now. Sorry!!!

Answer 5

you should be between him and his new love, you've been with him for 5 and 1/2 years, 4 months you guys broke up aren't long enough to heal the pain. if you guys broke up in the first place, there's no point getting back together, because if you guys try again, you'll end up hurting again because the first time you broke up you'll most likely broke up the second time, if one of you don't change the way you treat eachother. Getting back together is a bad idea, because then you'll remember why you broke up in the first place.

Answer 6

Exes are exes for a reason...It sounds to me like your relationship is not good...he says he won't trust you, but he's cheating on his girlfriend with you...what makes you think you can trust him? I would move on...you don't need that kind of negative energy in your life especially if he hasn't demonstrated good qualities in the past (drinking, name calling, constantly fighting)...

I'm not sure that you're experiencing love...it sounds more like lust combined with not wanting to let go of the past (who he was when you first met)...if you were together for 5 1/2 years I'm willing to guess that you've both changed a lot in that time...I think you deserve better...good luck!

Answer 7

This probably isnt going to be what you want to hear. But i think you should just cut off all ties with him. Why would he tell you that he'll never trust YOU again when hes the one CHEATING on his girlfriend right now. You shouldnt trust him. If he wanted to be with you that bad he would have dumped her before you even started talking again. Good luck

Answer 8

even if you love each other very much, look at what happened.. after you two broke up, he went out wit someone else and you kissed another guy... then he ends up cheating on her wit you.. and he is saying he cant trust you.. find out if you can trust him first.. then you should figure out why you were fighting towards the end of the relationship and then why you came back to him.

Answer 9

I went threw that same situation about a month ago. Me & My ex are working things out and are now back together like a family. He still wants to go out and have his friends just let things heal girl. If he loves you and cares for you he will learn to trust you again.

Answer 10

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Answer 11

To star a new and improved relationship with your ex, he needs to be single. Think about what he is doing now, he is cheating on his new girlfriend and is with YOU. Do you think that if he really loves you he will do this to you, he is not respecting you and you are not respecting yourself. You need time and time alone to consider a reconciliation with him. Firs Love yourself and be strong.. there may be another person for you if that doesn't work out.