am i being selfish asking for an hour to myself each day when he gets home frm work? he's tired but so am i. what ur opinion?
2006-08-03 07:16:48 · 19 answers · asked by beca 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Our son was SUPER colicy when he was a baby and I was at the end of my rope every single day. My husband thought he was doing me a great service by "letting' me go to the store to get him a soda after he got home from work. Basically I got 15 minutes alone per day.
I got up with our baby all night/every night, I could not take a shower, go to the batheroom, or do dishes unless I was holding my son. He would scream bloody murder if I put him down. The only thing that made him feel ok was rocking. So I rocked and rocked and rocked- all day and all night. My husband would take him for the day every once in a while, and at the end of the day I could see that he was stressed but he would say- "it wasn't THAT bad."
He didn't REALLY get it until he began staying home to care for our son. My husband got a out of the military a few months ago and thought it would be great fun to "take some time off" and stay at home with our son. Now keep in mind our little guy is now 3, so the colic is gone and he is generally a very good/easy to handle kid now.
After about a month of his "vacation" he was pulling his hair out. He was SO ready to go back to work. He was like... I have NO idea how you did this. It is SO much harder than I EVER expected. And now he's a toddler and he's not crying all day and it had to have been 50 times harder for you when he was getting up all night and crying all day. I am SO sorry for not helping you more. If we have another, I am going to be SO much more supportive.
The only way for them to really understand what we go through is for them to actually DO it for an extended period of time. A few hours or days here or there is nothing. It's the accumulative stress that gets to you.
2006-08-03 07:40:42 · answer #1 · answered by AK 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, some men jump right into fatherhood, and help in any way they can. Some still feel that is woman's work - and they should be recycled back into the 1940s or something.
No, one hour a day is not even enough to ask for yourself when you are busy with the child all of the other hours.
2006-08-03 07:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by Holiday Magic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, all men are not clue less about raising a child. My reason is because I am a single father raising 2 kids in their teens and have been doing it myself for most of their lives (mom walked out on them), but don't need her. I cook, clean, and everything that a mom/dad is supposed to do and still work 50 hours a week. Hope I answered your question my dear.
2006-08-03 07:27:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No u r not but to a man they think it is nothing to raise a child spend all day at home with that child. They do not understand or have the faintest clue about how emotionally and physically draining it can be on a person. But u can not expect them to understand because im telling you right now ur waisting your time
2006-08-03 07:23:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, not all men are clueless on this at all, and it's well within reason for you to ask for an hour. I would think any good father would embrace that one on one time they had with their child. I know I did - and still do! As a result, I have a close relationship with my daughter, and will also be having her living with me full time within a month.
2006-08-03 07:23:30 · answer #5 · answered by loving father 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not all men are clueless, just the dead beat ones. i make my man watch my kids on saterdays while i take my mom out shopping. i take the car and the cell phone and he is stuck at home for up to 8 hours with 2 kids and a computer. lol and sometimes that goes for sunday too. im a stay at home mom. i never get to leave the house during the week unless its to go to the soda machine by our pool.
2006-08-03 07:21:41 · answer #6 · answered by ziggunerin 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's the lazy men all over the world, they think working and paying bills is good enough. I'm a single mom of two while my now 9 yr. old was a baby his dad was never there now that he can do for his self it's time to play daddy. Kids are great men are lame enjoy your kids.
2006-08-03 07:27:09 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. Butler ♥2 B♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your not being selfish. Leave him alone for a day to mind the kids so he can walk in your shoes. I'm sure he will have a different level of respect for you and how much work it is to be a mom.
2006-08-03 07:20:43 · answer #8 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are all clueless until you get smart. Plan to leave him alone with the kid one day over the weekend. It wont take long before he learns. That is truly the only way the male mind will understand.
2006-08-03 07:22:14 · answer #9 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't have a moment to myself til after my son goes to sleep... and even when I am around my parents, my older brother passes a comment about how easy it is to raise a child.... girl it is hard even with a man... thats just the breaks. Men are just oblivious when it comes to us.
2006-08-03 07:25:26 · answer #10 · answered by Krystyn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋