I am having mixed feelings I do and I don't
2006-08-03 07:13:41 · 27 answers · asked by epecially erotic 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If you are having mixed feelings then it is better to wait. You have your hands full with your kiddos and that is stressful for someone of any age. You are young, there is no hurry.
2006-08-03 07:20:11 · answer #1 · answered by norsktjej1964 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do what you feel is right for you. I had my first child at 17 and my second at 19 (im 23 now) im still with the father of my children and engaged but not married. Don't worry about what others think personally i don't want another child yet thats not to say they are out of the question im just not ready for another right now if you want another have one if there are doubts which there seems to be then wait until you are 100% sure as you already know children are hard work. Just do what feels right for you also just because you ain't married yet does not mean your children are worse off and you and your partner will stay together if you work at it regardless of age ignore what others on here say iv been with my partner since i was 15 years old 8 years altogether in october the people who tell you it won't last ask them how many times they been divorced because they didn't work at it.
Good Luck with everything
2006-08-03 07:32:17 · answer #2 · answered by tweetypie88888 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why, when you are 18, w/2 children and just a fiance - not husband - would you ever think it's a good idea to have another? Nothing against kids, but you are still a teenager and are already a mother of two. Not to mention, how in the world do you support them?
2006-08-03 07:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by Terri A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Come on. You can be more than a mother.
Go to school and educate yourself to be a role model to your children.
Quit being a baby maker (at eighteen anyway). What happened to you as a child to make you want to feel attention the way you do?
Marry your fiance, go back to school, and raise the two children you have. Stay on birth control, and think of the future not how you will feel when you have a newborn, not how you will feel when you are pregnant, not trying to make your fiance stay with you.
Go to school and become a CNA, work in labor and delivery, then you get to see all the newborns you want to, without having to raise them. I believe you can go to school for Certified Nurses Assistant at a 18 month school (Heald, ITT).
Good luck, and remember, opening your legs to feel love never works.
2006-08-03 07:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by YJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you lost your mind entirely?? Where's the time when you get to be young? I'm a mother of 2 and I'm 24 and I feel like busting out. My kids are 6 & 3 I love them so very much but I'm a young parent too and sometimes I feel like I need a break. I can't imagine having all 3 in diapers. My oldest is my buddy and she helps me out all over the place! I would highly suggest you wait awhile! My kids are almost 4 years apart and I worried about the age difference but they are good buddies and I think it's ok to have gaps in between kids. But hey if you think you can handle it. On the plus side you'll be in your 30's when they're all adults.
2006-08-03 07:27:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously you know you are crazy or you wouldn't be asking this question. Two kids is really all one couple needs or should bring into this overpopulated world. If you need more, wait until you have grown up and your kids have grown up a little. Do you really want 3 kids under the age of 3 or 4? If you are lucky enough at your age to have the money and love and a stable home environment to raise and support these kids, then go for it.
2006-08-03 07:35:01 · answer #6 · answered by graybear 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have asked a good question. If you are 18 with a 2 year old and 10 month old, and you are asking yourself why do I have another one, then you should not have another one until you talk it over with your finance'.
You have the responsibility of caring for them while, he is out working or doing what he does.
Communications about this is the best policy. Having children is not a race. It is a very important commitment to your life and theirs. Straining your life and your up and coming marriage is not worth it.
If you want another one so close to the others... then God bless you.
Think about it. and Talk to your Partner
2006-08-03 07:22:21 · answer #7 · answered by NIck N 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two have a VERY GOOD INCOME go for it .....if not I would use birth control. Also you are very young and for the most part it probably will not last. I say NO, No , No. In 5 years you will only be 23 and maybe on your own with 3 children to try and raise by yourself. Go Get a Good education instead
2006-08-03 07:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I think you are too young right now to get pregnant with your third child. I personally think you need to give yourself more time to decide if you want more children. You have plenty of years to have another and you do not have to make up your mind this moment.
What's the rush? You are still a kid yourself. If your fiance loves you then he needs to let you grow up and make up your own mind.
Also, why don't you focus on getting married, buying a house, getting a job, whatever before you get pregnant again. Give yourself time, you owe that to yourself.
Good luck.
2006-08-03 07:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by Wife4Life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you think you can handle it then do it but keep in mind that you still have 15 years to have another with out worries if nothing comes up just keep in mind that it is your body so if it is want you want do it don't let him make the decision it also depends on if you want to be a young mom and how many kids you want i come from a big family of 56 cousins and 12 brothers and sisters so i do know
2006-08-03 07:26:43 · answer #10 · answered by jamacia c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋