Help I need serious help!?

Question

Okay I am going to be a sophmore in high school. last year i kinda hid who i really was (ive been doing it my whole life). this year i decided that i need to show everyone who i really am depressed.(emo). I also decied that i dont want any fiends becuase all the people at my school are just DRAMA and that will send me back into a stage that i dont ever want to go back in and it will be hard becuase im still kinda in it but anyways how do i tell all of my "friends" i dont want to be friends with them ever again, espically my friend who i have been friends with for 9 years.
I NEED ADVICE SOON school starts in less than a month and i need to tell them before school

Ive been in the hospital for cutting myself and trying to kill myself so im not a poser losers

Answer 1

Be whoever you feel the most comfortable being. But make sure you make a wise decision that you know for sure, you won't regret. Also, I chose not to have many friennds either. I find my lifestyle to be more comfortable without them because the drama just like you said...I also have trusting issues so that plays a part too but my point is that, choosing not to have friends isnt for everyone. It depends on the person and their life and what makes them not want to have any so even if you are emo, you could still have a few....maybe some other girls who are also emo. No one said you had to go back and be friends with everyone you were friends with before. I just think that choice would result in you being even more miserable. One more thing, this whole emo thing, means emotional right? How could you define that as who you are when being emotional is a feeling, a way that one is that everybody has in them. Who would chose the life of being sad? I understand if they/you just want to be different but you dont have to make yourself miserable and live that dark lifestyle when you dont have to in reality. Nobody wants to be sad so maybe you should work on finding out what makes you happy, and get it. good luck :)
p.s. I suggest you get some professional help, not that anything is wrong with you I just think you would be better off finding out why you are depressed and try to work on it before you catergorize yourself in one of them dumb high school groups :)

Answer 2

Wow. This is a tough question. Well, when and if you talk to them, try saying something like "You all are really good friends, but the thing is, I can't handle all of this drama. It's nothing personal, but if this drama continues any longer, than it's going to send me back into a stage that I never want to go back into again." Good Luck!

Answer 3

Depressed?????? What at your age do you have to be depressed about?? Sounds like you need to stop feeling sorry for yourself (or being "emo"). It's ok to have emotions but to focus on one (like sadness) is not the way to live a healthy life. You'll grow up after high school. Ditching your friends is a lot more involved then just calling them up and saying, "uh, I don't want to be your friend anymore". Don't forget that everyone has feelings not just you!

Answer 4

Are you kidding me? Just because you decided to be "emo" doesn't give you the right o dump your friends who care about you. I'm sure not everyone likes drama at your school. Give your friends a chance to accept you the way you claim to be- depressed. Good luck

Answer 5

After a while hanging out with the same friends, it's normal you get tired of them, especially when you feel you're in a bad situation because of them, e.g. when you become sad because of the behaviour of your friends. Try to meet some more positive, interesting people , but don't give up on your friends entirely. Eventually they'll grow up too, and after some time, you'll be happy and proud on your friends.

Answer 6

You can't shut yourself away from everyone. That will eventually set you into even more of a deep depression and lots of regrets in the end. Be upfront with them, and whenever they start to talk about things that aren't upbuilding, either take your leave or change the conversation. If they are truly your friends, they will understand. If not, then there you have it, they were not truly friends after all.

Answer 7

to tell u the truth u dont seem like emo u seem like u wanna be an emo cuz is "cool" cuz if u were these "depress" u wouldnt care how to tell ur friends that u dont want to be friends with them, u just wanna change to call the atention n newsflash emo is not about being depress is a lot more than that

Answer 8

Tell your friends the truth, that you've hidden your real identity. But you need at least 1 true friend that you can count on and tell everything to, and you may think there's absolutely none around, but trust me, I live in a 1square mile town and I've got some. But get to know people befor you decide to tell all. A true friend can help you be yourself, and you'll know if it's a true friend or not if you CAN be yourself around them.Chillax

Answer 9

Tell them that you're tired of drama and don't want it anymore. Wait for good timing; let something somewhat related come up. Then throw it in.

Tell them what you want to focus on. After that you can gradually distance yourself.

If they call you or invite you to do something you can say, "No thanks. I'm not in the mood to do that."

After a while they'll get the message. They won't keep calling if you spend less and less time with them.

Answer 10

well i am gonna be a freshman and i am excited ..butt i cant picture anybody goin through high skool with out friends..i think ur always gonna need friends..some one to lean on at some point..mabey u could just talk to ur friend of 9 years and explain ur problem..if she is a true friend...she will understand...good luck :)