I got married just over a year ago and ever since I have been miserable.
My wife has become very controlling and I feel that it is always me that has to make the sacrifices to avoid fighting. Since we were married, she no longer keeps in touch with her friends and almost never sees them. It feels like any life she had while she was single has disappeared and her only life now is me. I cannot stand this..I feel it is necessary for both of us to have our own lives in addition to the one we share.
She has gained alot of weight and does not seem interested in getting back into shape. I am not physically attracted to her any more and we almost never have sex anymore.
WHAT DO I DO????
2006-08-03 06:59:52 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she has gained weight and is controlling then go jogging every night. She will have to jog along to check on where you are.
She is a controller because you allow her to be. Would you allow your friends to treat you like this? No so why do you allow her to do this.
Sounds like to me there is more to this story. Get marriage counseling.
Reminisce with your wife about when you first met and what brought you two to marriage.
You made a life long commitment now stick to it and be a real man.
G.G.
2006-08-03 07:09:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
What do you do to make her feel good about herself? Sounds like you just don't want to be married and you are blaming everything on her. Just b/c she has put on a few pounds, shouldn't mean that's your cue to jet.
Most people don't keep in touch with their friends like they should when they first get married. If she were then I am sure your complaint would be that she's spending too much time with her friends.
I do think that if you are that miserable that you should get a divorce before you both accumulate too much together, or worse, have children. I would suggest for you to stop this blame game and just admit that you just don't find your wife attractive anymore. This happens more than people like to admit, it then turns into your situation, blaming.... then it turns nasty and feelings get hurt.
2006-08-03 07:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by surelycoolgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you both need some counseling. She might be depressed, if she has given up a lot of things she use to love. Talk with her get to know what she wants, and why she don't want to do things. If she says because its boring, then she is defiantly depressed. Get help before its too late. Save your marriage, if she is depressed separating will only make things worse for her. You loved her once you can do it again.
Good luck.
2006-08-03 07:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by zoe112799 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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My advice to you is to rent one for a weekend before you lease...on both the cars and the wives
2006-08-03 07:09:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her... She sounds absolutely miserable!
Were there reasons you married her? Are they still there? She couldn't have changed overnight; for whatever reason you chose to get involved with this kind of person. You need to re-think your relationship priorities so you don't make the same mistake the next time around.
2006-08-03 07:06:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss it with her
or tell her openly that it should be better for both of you to have the same kind of enviornment as you both were having earlier(before marriage)
You both can suddenly leave all your friends just like that.
Friends are important part of life as are the partners.
Both of them are needed at good and bad times.
Discuss all these things with her or tell her openly all these things
2006-08-03 07:06:09 · answer #6 · answered by CoolestnHotest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you need to talk and tell her what is on your mind. Let her know what changes you would like to see her make. Ask her what changes she would like for you to make.
Try to work with that and be honest. If neither can make it happen, then yes it is over and you need to move on
2006-08-03 07:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU SHOULD BE SPEAKING WITH HER. IF YOU DO AND YOU GET NOTHING IN RETURN, IT MIGHT BE TIME TO FLY, AS IT TAKES TWO IN A RELATIONSHIP TO MAKE IT WORK. MAYBE YOU BOTH WILL BE WILLING TO GET SOME COUPLES COUNSELING. GOOD LUCK!
2006-08-03 07:05:34 · answer #8 · answered by brxny2000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get marriage counseling first. Don't give up just yet
2006-08-03 07:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by majesticwife 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and talk to her 1st ..obviously you married her for a reason, if that don't help soon ....boogie on out like the wind!!!! lol
2006-08-03 07:06:18 · answer #10 · answered by tron 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋