What should I do?

Question

I am feeling sad and worried. I feel like my boyfriend is loosing his interest in me? Is there any way to gain his interest back? I think he is doubting our relationship as he told me that we have had too many fights. I don't know what to do? He says I put too much pressure on him. The thing is I am too worried that I will loose him?

I don't think I should be worried about not being good in bed as we are very much connected in a sexual way. I am quite a sexual person so there is no problem with that. The thing is we live in different cities so we can only see each other once a month and that's why we have these fights as I need him more.

He was really good to me but then 2 months ago as an overreaction I told him that it's over and he was really hurt. He has not been the same since. He has been closed up, he does not smile so much with me, he does not seem to be so happy around me. I have tried apologising, I have tried making it up to him, I have been trying to work on myself but still now he is not the boyfried he used to be. He keeps telling me that he is just not sure about me but if he would not break it off with me I told him I want to be with him and I love him and I don't want to leave him but he is the one now having too many doubts. I just don't know how else to win him back. And the problem is that we see each other only once a month so it's harder. He keeps telling me that he does not know many guys who would keep going like he does and that I should realise that.

Answer 1

Hunny, Life is not easy, but my best sugestions is, not to worry of things that you cannot control, just be there when he need you. listining, communicatios and patience. Life is a jorney. The give in the take is very important. Trust in eachother,. be confident in your self and what you are and what you belives are. Just let things happen. Trust in your first instint.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 2

Not enough information to give you a really good answer. Relationships are very complex and there are so many potential pit falls. Too many fights and too much pressure are the only clues you give. The truth is, that if he is starting the fights, you probably have already lost him. That just sounds so typical of the way most males start to break up to me. If it was me, I'd back off and give things a chance to settle down. Trying to force it would only be likely to make things worse.
I just saw your added details. Seperate cities makes it different. Sorry, but he probably wants someone on a daily basis and there isn't any way he can have that with you. He can't see you when he wants to and that is very frustrating for a male. The main question is - Did the problems start when you were seperated? I only see two options. Is moving closer an option and would that solve the problems?
If not, it sounds like it is probably over.

Answer 3

why do you think he's loosing intrest. did he tell you this or are you just being insecure. Men seem to prefer a woman that is confident. Explain to him fights are what can make a couple, it lets you guys solve problems together and helps you guys get to know one another. Many fights are usually pretty silly anyway we just don't realize it till it's behind us. Pick and choose your battles wisely by asking yourself will it matter in five years? I would tell him you need time for yourself... time to work on you! use that time to build yourself up (work, school, confidence) because if he leaves all you have left is you and what you can do for you. If he stays then your doing it for the both of you...Win Win situation. Dont worry about him bacause reguardless of what you want he's gonna make a decision it may or may not be what you want but your worrying or pressure isn't going to change it. Put the pressure on you of being the person you need to be not only for you but your future

Answer 4

Well I know form my personal experience I can be a bit hard on a man but that is because I expect a lot of the man I chose to be with. However, at some point just like myself you have to relax a little and allow him to be a man. If he seems to be loosing interest then I would suggest you spice it up a bit. From my personal experiences I would like to mention that I spoiled my fiance here are a few suggestions to reinvigorate your relationship!
Give full naked body massages dressed up in your best lingerie with massage oils.
Have his bath water ran when he comes home from a long day as well as a cooked meal!
I also dress up in lingerie and wigs and make up to look like a vixen, a sex kitten, a dominatrix, and even myself to entice him and do whatever he wants!
You can never go wrong with that!

Answer 5

well have u been putting a lot of pressure on him ??? if so then why ? sometimes u need to give the relationship space .....a lot of room, so that your partner doesn't feel suffocated or tied down ..........while all the romantic stuff is really nice ....sometimes it may get overbearing for some guys......don't take that as a sign that he is not interested in you....maybe he just needs his space...........
abt the fights....if u've been having fights on trivial matters then u need to take a break from having those ......sometimes its wise to just not say anything at all sometimes so that things dont get aggravated.
for now......pls pull yourself together and smile......dont' push your bf around too much regd anything......just be calm and polite......also if u've been in the wrong , talk it out with him and apologise...if not......let time heal the wound.

Answer 6

Are you even being yourself? Sweetie, calm down. Try to communicate with him and compromise with him. Sometimes you should give into the things you argue about bc it may turn out to be somethin' good in the long run. Don't be afriaid of losing him, just show him fun. Go out on walks in the park, or museum or swimming (It's hotter than hell on earth). Sit and watch movies with him and feed him peaches, fruit, or anything else delicious. Try to be more appealing and do different things. Try to back up on the things you do that seem to pressure him. If you continue to worry, then when you worry that feeling tends to show on your face let him know and feel you adore him and love doing things with him other than arguin' w/ him, just don't smother the guy, cause thats one thing I hate.

Answer 7

You two should talk and settle arguments and make agreements that help both of you. You can try not putting too much pressure on him and you both can try thinking before you two say anything rude. He could try being able to carry some pressure and you could help out if its about a job or something.

Answer 8

Part............any two people who 'have had too many fights' should not be with each other. One, or possibly both of you are being very silly. Did no one ever tell you that you are supposed to pretend that 'He' is the boss, whilst in fact you really are. Give him a humble apology about the fights but if it starts again, part.....

Answer 9

The best thing to do is to be cool, give him some space. Remember this and foremost. A man that truly appreciates you will stand by your side. That is the kind that you want to be with, trust me from my own expierence... I am married to one.

If you give him room and he treats you good and keeps on coming back...then he was meant to be for at least then.
If you ease off and he books it.. then you so deserve better! Don't ever forget that.

Answer 10

love is all based on caring,understanding sacrifice.plssss read the book "MAN ARE FROM MARS N WMNS R FROM VENUS" i m telling u it wil work.if u can also ask ur partner to read it pls do it.c man r totally different from wmn.i wil give u an eg-whn u hav some prob u wud like to share it wid him,isnt it? but on the other hand if he has some prob he hardly wud like to share it wid u,surprised na? yes its not bcoz of he doesnot loves u but for he dont want to give u pain.its not his fault,god has made him so.he wud like to sit in silence n solve his problem.all i mean is he needs some space.give him n c the change with in a week.good luck.