Why do waitresses get so pissy because I don't leave tips?

Question

tipping is optional, i personally never do it since i'm paying enough for the food as it is, and the waitress is already getting paid by the restaurant, so why should she get a handout from me too?

but youd be amazed how snotty they get,

Answer 1

Let's get down to the real nitty gritty. What type of customer are you? Do you demand a lot of extra service?

Now, let's open your eyes. THEY PAY TAXES on tips that are figured into their yearly income. They have to pay these taxes to the IRS, weather they actually make that money OR NOT! Each place of business has to estimate what the tips would amount to, per server, based on the dollar amount sold for the day. If your server had a slow station and her tips were say, 25% less than another, she would STILL pay the same taxes as the server earning more.

Wait persons make a minimal wage and depend on their tips to survive.

How would you like it for your boss to say that you can get $35 a day deducted from your pay because some other company pays their employees less. They may not even be in the same line of business but that doesn't matter. They assume you are only entitled to that amount and you have no recourse but to take it.

Answer 2

The Federal Government sets the minimum wage. Jobs classified as tipped employment have a lower minimum wage because the government expects the employee will recieve tips (at the rate of 8% of their total gross sales).

Your waitress is paid LESS because the government and her employer expect her pay to be compensated by tips. Naturally she/he expects to be tipped or they would make LESS than minimum wage.

As a guide, the average tip is 15% of your bill. If your bill comes to $20, for example, you tip $4. You can adjust your tip according to the service you recieved. Keep in mind that fast service and quality of the food is NOT your servers fault. She/he didn't cook the meal nor did they do the scheduling to make sure there were enough servers for the amount of customers.

If the food is bad or the servicers are so busy they can't get around to you as often as you'd like, contact the manager and complain, often times, if your complaint is legitimate, you can get a free or discounted meal (or if you're more reserved, just don't return to that restaurant until there's a change in management).

Base your tip on the attentiveness and personality of your server. Did they greet you in a friendly manner? Did they get your order right? Did they stop by your table often to see if you needed anything else? Were they knowledgable about the menu items? If they were busy, did they take the time to apologize for the delay? These are all signs of good service and should be tipped for. Lastly, if you leave NO tip, your cheap, if you leave a small tip, the service was bad. But if the service was good and you leave a big tip, they'll remember you and the servers will start fighting to get you seated in thier section!

Sorry this post is so long, but I was a bartender and a restaurant manager. Sometimes we wished we could refuse service to non-tippers. My bit of advice, if you insist on not tipping, don't visit the same restaurant twice.

Answer 3

Waitresses get below minimum wage and do more work than you would do. The only way to pay your bills is to make enough tips. Some restaurants charge you a tip on the bill ,which the waitress doesn't even get, which is more than most people leave. So if the service is good leave a tip 10 or 15%. If you go to a restaurant regularly without tipping I wouldn't eat the food. lol

Answer 4

Waitresses get paid very little by the restaurant; the managers of the restaurant fully expect that the pittance they pay their wait staff will be supplemented by the customers. Although it's certainly not illegal to fail to leave a tip, it's definitely a violation of custom. It's really standard practice to leave a tip of 15 - 20% unless the service was poor. And if the service was great, leave a bigger tip. The waitresses are pissy because they work hard for a living, need their tips, and you are not living up to the expected social response. You may get some very bad karma if you don't mend your ways....

Answer 5

to be honest with you, most waitresses/waiters rely on tips to survive. Yes, they get paid by the restaurant, but from what I understand, it's less than minimum wage. I had a friend who worked as a waitress in a very swanky restaurant but only got paid $2.50 an hour. Her tips were her livelihood. It may be different because she lived in Arizona, and their wages differ from ours maybe, but seriously, even if they did make minimum wage, could you imagine trying to live off of that? Tipping is a way of saying yes, I have paid for the food but your service was pleasant, or exceptional (whatever the case may be) and I want to "reward" you. I eat at the same restaurant a few times a month with my kids and I always leave a tip, usually about $8.00 - $10.00 and I can tell you it makes a difference in the service we get. They remember me every time I go in there, I don't even have to place my order because they know what I want and they are VERY attentive. We get things up front now whereas in the beginning we had to ask for them. Of course, if you aren't dining in the same establishment, you may not care about that, but it just an act off manners, of being polite.

Answer 6

Waitress don't necessarily get paid by the restaurant and if they do it's meager. State laws allow for minimum wage however restaurants get around this by saying the tips are their wages. I was once a bus person and got paid $2 an hour and the waitress/waiter had to then tipped me out of their own money for cleaning up their tables. There more to it all then you realize.

Answer 7

Depending on where, waitresses sometimes dont get paid enough from the restaurants, sometimes under wages. Because the restuarants expect people to leave tips. Its hard work being a waitress [from experience] and they really depend on the tips to make enough for a living. Leaving tips is optional, but its for a good cause anyways right? =]

Answer 8

Waitresses generally get paid very little, even less than the minimum wage, because it is universally acknowledged that a good portion of their income will come from tips. You are fighting a losing battle and making yourself look like a cheapskate. What you pay for the meal does very little for the waitress. If you don't want to play by the rules, then don't go out to eat, or just call for take-out and pick it up yourself. (Do you tip delivery people?)

Answer 9

I was a waitress, and I made 2.50 per hour. It is completely impossible to live on that, so the tips is what makes the difference. Believe me, waitressing is hard work, making sure everyone is happy and well taken care of, making sure the food comes out on time, making sure you dont forget the extra lemon that table 5 ordered with their fish. Timing is everything in waitressing, and it can be very difficult, especially when you get sat 3 tables at once! Believe me, they work VERY hard for their tips, so its not very nice when someone doesnt leave anything!

Answer 10

Well tips are not included with the meal. Most of them basically get their pay based on tips. It is optional, but the only time you wouldn't usually give tips is when you think you deserved a better service. Tips is what makes them perform their best at serving. I know what you mean by how "snotty" they get, cause once i went to this restaurant, and we weren't happy with how long we waited, so we decided to leave her almost no tips, just change, and she actually came out of the store and said it's not enough.

I also don't understand how they would determine who would get how much tips cause they pour the change into one jar, so how would they determine how much is whos.