Do you think it is alright to get married while you are still in grad school or do you think it is better to get married after you graduate? I want to become a School Psychologist and will have to go through grad school and a 1 year internship before I graduate. I was wondering what you think about getting married while in grad school based on the finiacial part. Will getting married while still in school put a finicial burden on the marriage, and what if having a baby comes up before graduation?
2006-08-03 06:31:43 · 13 answers · asked by jlee 4 in Education & Reference ➔ Higher Education (University +)
It doesn't really matter what I think, because I haven't asked you to marry me. Nor will I, lol!! But it doesn matter what your intended thinks of the idea. If you are both in agreement, then it's a good idea. If you have concerns about the finances, that's certainly something that has to be worked out BEFORE you get married. And the possibility of a pregnancy is also something that has to be discussed.
Grad students have married, and have made a go of it. They have been mutually supportive, and, as they are working towards a common goal, are able to accept the limits and constraints of living on a student budget, in student quarters, has placed on them.
Others haven't been so fortunate. The additional pressures of being newly married (and it would be different if this were a marriage that had been in effect for some time) combined with work, study and possible pregnancy, has split up many couples.
You are right in thinking it's something that needs serious thought, but it isn't something that you decide by a majority vote. It's something the two of you -- and no one else -- have to sit down and discuss. Maybe you'll have to content yourself with a long engagement, or maybe you'll have to put your romantic relationship on the back burner. You don't say if both of you are going to grad school, or only one of you. And that makes a difference too.
Good luck, whatever you decide. But make sure it is YOUR decision. This isn't American Idol. It's your life.
2006-08-03 06:58:06 · answer #1 · answered by old lady 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
If you're asking this question, it means that marriage is still not clearly more important than school. So don't get married now. Marry only when you know for sure that you want to get married no matter what. If you go into a marriage with this kind of doubt, when things are tough at school, you will start blaming the marriage for that B- that you get, which is unhealthy.
2006-08-03 07:17:24 · answer #2 · answered by Juju 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not in a situation now where you have to be committed meaning your just engaged I would wait because it will be a hell of a lot easier to worry about school rather than worry about school, bills, daycare, feeling guilty about not spending quality time with the kids,and husband, house cleaning etc.. Right now you have choices but if you went through with getting married and the whole nine yards, you won't be given lots of choices. you'll be doing what you have to do and having to make lots of sacrifices.. think about this don't you want to have all this school behind so that you can start a career and then have children maybe by then you could be able to give them all your attention rather than having to divide your attention every which way.. I'm not trying to be negative I'm just giving you something to think about.. Good luck and best wishes in what ever you do..
2006-08-03 06:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by Dallas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was married, with 2 kids in grad school. My then-husband worked 5 hours away and commuted on weekends. I got my second master's and my Ph.D all in 5 years. If you're focussed, it can be done! Oh, and my kids were 3 and 7 when I started!
2006-08-03 06:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by jurydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is better to wait. I recall when I was in grad school that they (Columbia University Grad Facs) strongly advised against it.
(They were right: I got married and dropped out, and only after I retired early from a first job did I go back and get my Ph.D. -- in another country and another language because it was very cheap there.)
2006-08-03 06:36:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As one with experience, let me tell you. Wait! Don't get married while in grad school. Wait until you graduate. I got married while in college and dropped out. One reason was money. Another reason was my honey ended up by himself a lot and was getting cranky. I was focusing more on my marriage than I was school. Wait wait wait wait wait.
2006-08-03 06:37:37 · answer #6 · answered by Mommymonster 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It took me longer to get my grad degree because I was married and had a baby, but on the up side, I had more experience and knowledge and learned faster and harder than students younger than me.
2006-08-03 06:36:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, you must graduate from college first, which u have done. I dont think getting married is great until your atleast 25
2006-08-03 06:36:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
in my opinion I think you should finish school so after when you do get married you dont have to worry about assingments or stuff like that. you'll have more freetime once you get out.
2006-08-03 06:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by coolgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. If you are in love and want to get married now........go for it.
2006-08-03 06:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by zil28ennov 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋