What do you do when love is lost?

Question

Last night I am with my husband and I looked at him and realized I don't love him anymore. Its like lately I have been just looking at him and I get disgusted he ask me whats wrong and I just say nothing. Then he gets mad. I dont know I have really tried to make it work, I have stuck by him during his legal problems (prison). He has constantly direspected me and physically abused me. But I feel guilty like I am leaving him. Cause I know he does not have anyone else. But I don't love him, my love has turned to hate and disgust. What do you do I have finally got fed up.

Answer 1

If he has hit you, you should feel no pity for him, and should leave him for that reason alone. Aside from that though, you don't love him. You are fed up....now, move on with your life. You deserve better than that!

Answer 2

wow, i can see that.... it time to get the heck out of there and not worth to be with that person. Becasue If he love you so much he wouldn't being doing that first place period. He knows what right and wrong and now he can't just blame his family for his plm. He the one has to change it the history the past. and He didn't learn anything by the time got out of hand.

I totally understand how you feel, if you feel that he will physically abused you if you told him to end it then wait until he leave to work and pack up and make sure you 2 hrs long gone and call him and tell him how you feel. more safe and it better than face to face and you will be end up abused or being killed. I see it and I know what it like what they did to me and I change. He made the choice of being stupid and you already made lost love to him period.

So, there guy like me out there that will do much better than he did. Because my wife and I married for 9 years and 2 small children and 3rd on the way due march 2007. Also, I never freaking do no wrong doing or abuse my wife or kids or breaking stupid law or going prison.. I dont have time for that .. I have family to take care and being Husband and Father have a job to show role model smiling. hope that help.

Answer 3

If he's physically abusing you, why are you even considering sticking around? You dont give details of your husband that paint a pretty picture,prison, abuse, disrespect, not good. It sounds to me that if you have come to terms that your love has turned to hate and disgust, then you have answered your own question. Would you have married someone you hated and disgusted? Probably not. So, why stay with someone you hate and disgust? You have a right to be happy, respected, not abused and to love someone unconditionally. I wish you luck and happiness, and, honey, to be honest with you, you should turn to professional marriage counseling or even a psychaitrist instead of turning to a public message board. And I am not insinuating that you are crazy, I am merely suggesting professional options for you, maybe you need a third party to help you sort out your feelings. Good luck

Answer 4

OK let's see it goes something like this,
When you HATE someone, there is a possibility that you will LOVE that person..... But when you LOVE that person.... there is not chance that you will HATE him/her.......
will try to give the reasoning as well....
hate is something which people do either by knowing someone deeply or superficially.... if u know a person deeply and then you hate him, you cannot love that person anytime... but if you know a person superficially and u hate him/her, there is a high possibility that when you get to know the person better, you will love him/her..... actually by hating too much, we don't realize that we are thinking too much about a person.... when you think too much, you are likely to like him/her....
when u love a person.... you cannot hate him/her... that's actually never possible... if you do so, that means you never loved that person......
got it???

In the words of the late Tupac Shakur: Girl, Gotta Keep Your Head Up!!

Answer 5

It's hard but you might want to get a divorce you said it you don't love him anymore and he disrespected you and is physically abusive what more do need it's not fair for you or him to into a hateful relation that might turn violent get out ant keep out of that type of relationship.

Answer 6

basically if he has physically abused you and disrespected you he is not a man at all and doesn't deserve any more chances. you should leave him and find someone that truly loves you and is not just a coverup. far as him not having anybody else it is his own fault because he pushes people away by the way he acts. ultimately it is your choice but the guy is no good.

Answer 7

It sounds like while he was having legal problems, your standing by him caused you to put your life on hold. His life/problems have consumed you to the point where you resent him now.
You eyes are finally opened to what he has been putting you through. It's time for you to move on and do something for you for a change. Good luck

Answer 8

With a mutually respected advisor or authority figure present set down and explain your feelings to him. Try to end things on a calm note so you can both move forward with your lives. Then move forward. Good luck and best wishes.

Answer 9

If he continues to disrespect and abuse yu didn't you should leave. No real man raises his hand towards a woman. Somethings you have to do even if you might feel like your all a person got.

Answer 10

HON ****IT IS VERY NICE OF U 2 STILL WANNA STICK BY HIS SIDE BUT DO U THINK HE WAS THINKING OF LUV WHEN HE WAS ABUSING U IN THE WAYS HE HAS...WELL OF COURSE NOT HE WAS THINKING OF HIS SELF..U NEED TO JUST GO AHEAD AND DO FOR YOURSELF BECAUSE IF U DON'T WHO WILL? I HOPE U WILL GO AND GET YOUR SELF TOGETHER SO U CAN COME BACK AND LET US ALL KNOW U R DOING SO GOOD W/OUT THAT EXTRA STRESS ...IF ANYTHING U MIGHT WANNA JUST SEPERATE FOR A FEW TO C IF LEAVING FOR GOOD IS WHAT U HONESTLY WANT TO DO......IN THAT MEAN TIME HE CAN GET HIM SELF CORRECT AND SO CAN U ,,,GOOD LUCK HON AND PLZ LET ME KNOW HOW U R DOING B-CUZ U SOUND LIKE U R HEADING INTO A DEPRESSION...