My wife recently told me she had been almost sexualy abused by her brothers when she was growing up,?

Question

the baby was just born and she told me that she at some points in the pregnancy was worried if the baby was mine cause she had slept at her moms house alot while i was gone, but says no way something happened.... then why those thoughts?

Answer 1

You are saying alot of things that can be misunderstood but I will try to offer some advice.

Women have alot of hormones raging through their bodies when they are pregnant and for several weeks after giving birth. It sounds like your wife is having some sort of post partum depression or anxiety.

She may have been abused and the rush of hormones is making her vulnerable right now. She is sharing information that she had previously kept very private. She is having a very hard time coping with everything.....

Try to be very supportive. Don't discuss this subject at length for a while until she is better equiped to deal with the feelings she is experiencing. It is possible that she is getting more than a post-partum depression if that is the case consider this:

Is she acting depressed?
Is she bonding with the baby?
Is she showing other bizarre behaviors?

If this continues, talk to her and her doctor...there is a condition called post partum psychosis. I am not saying she has this....but consider that she is having trouble medically and may need a doctor's help.

This is something that you need to watch. Pregnancy is difficult for some woman....be there for her. Call her doctor if anything else changes.

Answer 2

If nothing happened?? Then why would she worry if the kid was not yours? She has definitely been sleeping with someone else and is trying to cover up for it in some sort of way.

The question is: Why is she trying to involve her brother's in this? Didn't she said they try to abuse her when she was growing up? How old is she now?

There is something really fishy going on..... She is lying to you about something. I would recommend to get a DNA test.

Answer 3

Well, I suppose it's reasonable IF she is an ignorant 7 year old child. If she's adult, she knows how babies start. Saying she worried about who fathered the child is more than a danger sign, it's flags, whistles, bells, and fireworks. She either slept with a brother, somebody else, or she's mentally unbalanced. Good luck, you're gonna need it. I suggest a paternity test. NOW!!!!!

Answer 4

maybe she is worried that something happend at her moms she's not tellin ya, and is scared the baby is not urs! R u sure one of her bro's didnt drug her up and rape her (sorry to say that) and she is just afraid to tell ya! I would definitely get her into some counsiling and get the help she needs! Just be there for her. I am sure it took a lot of guts for her to tell ya what her brothers almost did! I think they proly did try something, cause u can't almost then not!
doesnt sound right! There is more she isn't tellin you!
best of luck to you! congrats on the baby!
hope all works out and things get better for ya!
God blesss

Answer 5

Your wife was "almost sexually abused"? I'm not sure what that means.
You may want to go with her to her next doctor appointment. She may be having some form of Post-partum depression or psychosis. That's odd that she wondered if the baby was yours, yet says that nothing happened. And it's always strange that she waited till now to tell you all of this.
Next time she goes in for her post-partum check-up, mention your concerns to the doctor. He will be able to help you decide what your next steps should be, if any.
Good luck,

Answer 6

She does love you so much and she telling you now because she needed your help. and I think it time to support her and report this family raped, sexually abused by her borthers and If she told her mom she will not believe her, no other family will and you need to be there and show her a way to find strong and wise to do this. and She can't do that on her own.

Also, She finally reaching out for help. It is not easy for her to just say like that. but longer to say something. It took me 21 years finally told my mom i was sexually abused by 18 year old girl as foster home. I am a guy... finally comes out and it not my fault and It not your wife fault. Pls report to police and lawyer what eve ryou can do to support your wife and you love her right? then do it.

Answer 7

Nothin about that story makes sense almost abused growing up does not translate to wondering who she is pregnant by now. It would seem to me if a woman had intercourse she would have been aware of it. Good luck with whatever is going on.I would opt for a paternity test and a shrink until it is cleared up.Are you sure she was sleeping at Mom's?

Answer 8

probably scared for her baby. Don't let the brothers near the kid, without supervision. Maybe your wife needs therapy, and get a blood test to see if the baby is yours. I don't doubt that it isn't. Cause you said almost sexually abused, not raped. Hope your wife is ok, and i would watch out for her "brothers." They need some help, some serious help.

Answer 9

Bro, if your wife told you she was "worried if the baby was yours"...for ANY reason....get a paternity test. No woman will worry if the baby is yours for NO reason. The only way she could "not know" if she had had sex with someone else was if she was drugged and raped. Get a paternity test.

Answer 10

Maybe she cheated on you.
If not, she has lil' knowledge about pregnancy & how baby came about. Just assure her that as long as you're the only one she slept with during that period of time, then it's gonna be alright.

I guess she's just having one of those after-pregnancy-stress.
My mum use to worry alot after she had my brother... so yea. (: chill...