we getting married some time this year or next please help me I dont know what to do ???????????? should I stay with him bec we love each other we do love each each other very much but i dont think we have anything that we like together i mean yeah we like the same tv show and we love going out to the moves and some other stuff but it that fine just a little bit in common well let me thanks kim
2006-08-03 05:59:03 · 16 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well from what your saying you guys do like some of the same things, just not everything which is okay. If everyone married someone exactly like themselves they'd get bored pretty quickly! The big question is do you guys agree on the important stuff: morals, kids, etc. Those are the things that couples break up over mostly, not that one likes horror movies and the other dosent. If you guys do have similar views on the big stuff then dont worry you will be fine, but if not re-think marriage.
2006-08-03 06:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by Crystal L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one here can answer that but you.
I will say this though...
You need more than love to make marraige work.
Marraige is hard work, and a choice...and trust me, there will be days where you not only do not love your spouse, but you will wish he were dead. :-P This is where shared goals and common interests and beliefs hold a relationship together.
For example:
Man is a christian, woman is an athiest. When they have kids...what is going to happen?
or
Man is a bum, woman is motivated and goal oriented. How much lazyness can the woman tolerate before she gives up.
So you see....being different in little things adds spice and fun to a relationship. Being different in major things is like starting a race behind before the gun even goes off.
2006-08-03 13:05:44 · answer #2 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee only have one thing in common and we have a great relationship, if you have to much in common then the relationship is boring. You need to have different interests so you can learn of each other spend time with some of his interests and ask him to do the same.
By the way the one thing that my fiancee and I have in common is our religion. We both love each other incredibly and want each others happiness. Good luck and I hope I have helped.
Prince Zelph
son of the Most High
2006-08-03 13:05:29 · answer #3 · answered by princezelph 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and wife have abosutly nothing in common and weve been married for going on 4 years. Think of it this way, his likes can be his thing, and your likes can be your thing. Whenever you need that escape from each other, and you will do what it is you like.
Furthermore, you could use your separate likes as tools to build your relationship and make it stronger. My wife is becoming a bigger television fan then i am. Variety puts spice in life.
If you to were the same that would get boring quick.
2006-08-03 13:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by ijustcamehere4freefood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband and I share views on a lot of things but he sometimes gets upset because I am not as outgoing as he is. Although I am trying. It is okay if you do not have a whole lot in common. I mean, think about what it is that brought you together. We were together for four years before we got married, and we are fine. I mean, we ARE newlyweds (three weeks, 1 day), but I know we will be a strong and successful couple. Because I love him and he loves me, and we support each other
2006-08-03 13:05:02 · answer #5 · answered by one_sera_phim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I started out with very little in common, but over the years, we have found more that we like to do together. Also, having a child in the future can also bring you closer, and you have a common bond.
Good luck and be happy. Love is wonderful.
2006-08-03 13:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by kalsmom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have the important things in common - like opinions on children, money, morality, etc - then you'll be fine! Having different interests keeps the relationship exciting, but having different core values and beliefs will make things very difficult down the road.
2006-08-03 13:07:06 · answer #7 · answered by snpdrgon84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can last for awhile and you can make your own decisions but opposites dont stay attracted forever. Im divorced from one. We were too different. Now Im remarried. The more thoughts you share with the other person the better off you are. Think about it. Do you feel like you cant live without him? Check compatability in the astrology books.
2006-08-03 13:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think its a problem you mus,nt worry you both have different things you like to do try doing them together if possible try each others activities outings and so on if you love one another this wont get in the way a lot of people have different likes but this dosnt mean you cant love one another good luck on your wedding day have fun best wishes
2006-08-03 13:05:17 · answer #9 · answered by private 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouuld never marry anyone that you can't have a good conversation with. Companionship will matter alot in the years to come.
2006-08-03 13:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋