My boyfriend has all of a sudden been extremely interested in reading like business books all the time. I don't know what to do because ever y time I come home from work he doesn't really igknowledge me..all he wants to do is read. he's like a compulsive reader. And gets mad when you talk to him about it...
what do i do?!?!
2006-08-03 05:56:23 · 9 answers · asked by jmt4127 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
1) Put your pictures in every page of his books. I am sure he will get the hint.
2) Read those books that he reads. And then try to strike up conversations with him about the contents in the book. If he likes the books so much, I am sure that there is something in those books that really attract him. So, this is a good thing because you know what he likes. By reading those books and knowing what those books are about, you can talk to him on the very things that attract him. If you don't read those books or don't know what those books are about, there really isn't much he can talk to you about (because he knows that you don't know or you don't understand these stuff). Gradually, as you have more and more conversations with him about the books, you can try to move the topics to something else (but you have to sense when is a good timing to do so though)
2006-08-03 06:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by knitting guy 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Walk into the room naked and stand there until he notices you. When he does just say, "Okay, I was beginning to wonder." And then get dressed or get it on. JK. Seriously though, you need to discuss it. If he's reading these books in hopes of creating a better future for the both of you than you should just bare through it. It wont last forever. Make little jokes out of getting his attention but realize that what he's doing is very important to him. My husband gets jealous when I read too but I've realized its just because he doesn't have a hobby that he can do alone. Maybe this is you as well and you need to find something to occupy those hours when he's reading.
2006-08-03 13:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might try asking him if there's a problem or if he is ignoring you. I like to read and learn new things too, and I tend to block out everything. Tell your boyfriend that you miss him and would like to spend some time with him talking or just taking a walk together. You could also gently tease him about being a bookworm and tell him you want equal time. He may not be aware that you are feeling left out. Sometimes it's nice to spend time together companionably too, you might watch a movie while he reads - but the fact you do it together is what counts. Hope this helps. Good luck!
2006-08-03 13:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by Mother Bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of telling him directly, how about you plan some things like go the movies, dinner get out and do some activities with him. And on occasions how about you get a book and read so the both of you can have some quiet time together...You have to do and say things with out him getting all defensive, when males get defensive they shut down and don't want to talk. I hope that help you some.
2006-08-03 13:03:11 · answer #4 · answered by Toya J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your current approach is not working. So I suggest you try something else.
Why don't you try this.
Don't bother him while he is reading. After a while he'll probably get back to his more usual behavior.
He may need to feel you respect his need to not be disturbed.
The more you can accept his behavior, the more he is likely to
become less compulsive about it.
It worth a try- for a couple of weeks at least.
2006-08-03 13:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by lapaul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol @ cowpoke!
No kidding...you have a bf interested in reading business books so that he'll educate himself and make more money for you guys in the future!
Anything in excess is not healthy though...so just come out and say "Hey...I love that you are into reading...but sometimes I need a little attention, ya know?"
2006-08-03 13:08:16 · answer #6 · answered by Nightwish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk. Start making out with him..he'll put the book down then.. if not... i guess you're just gonna have to strip! If that doesn't work...well... find a bf who doesn't read so much!
2006-08-03 13:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by Omar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are feeling left out, you both have to compromise with one another don't expect him to drop reading for you obviously he is interested in it and you need to be supportive. He also needs to understand he has an obligation to you as well. Set up a schedule that you both can agree to.
2006-08-03 13:01:59 · answer #8 · answered by redbone_lds 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him read the damn book
2006-08-03 13:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Cowpoke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋