? for the ladies what's wrong with me with my wife I love her why do this to me to our family?

Question

I come stright home from work cook some times,help out around the house I do the dishes I help out with kids I dont hang out after work don't go out clubin @ all don't drink don't smoke I let my wife know how i feel and what im feeling about her like how sexy she is beautiful she is to me that i want to spend the rest of my life lovin her and only her when not @ work r the park with kids r the grocry store im always aviable 2 her if she needs to talk r anything im taking care home never leaving her alone I found out that she was seeing someone behind my back i didn't confront her i try to make it right maybe something was missing in our marriage i would rub her feet tryed to show affection more spent more time with her just talking the whole time she's seeing him and coming home to me health wise she so-so not doing well had to go to the emergency room i took her once and the other had to call 911 she call the guy shes seeing the night after to apoligize for not b n able 2 c him

Answer 1

I hope you got the ego boost you were OBVIOUSLY looking for, for all these people to tell YOU HOW GREAT YOU are and how horrible your wife is. Problem is they only have HALF THE STORY!

Answer 2

Sometimes even if you're doing all you are supposed to do, she is not going to respond if she is seeing someone else, especially if she really loves the other person. It is possible. You need to confront her and let her know you know. Then (this is hard b/c of kids) you tell her if she thinks the grass is greener, by all means go for it. You sound like a good guy, someone else will surely snatch you up, and possibly be better than what you had...
Women are not stuipid. She probably suspects you know, and since you're obviously not saying anything, she thinks she can get away with it and you're still going to be there, like the little puppy dog. Let her know you are NOT GOING, and you do what you have to do to be happy, b/c that's the most important thing.

Answer 3

hi Hun
well what a hard question
1st of all you said you found out about your wife having another man
now did you see with your own eyes?
or
was you told by some one there is a difference
there are always 2 sides to every story
but
if what you say is what is going on
i really think you should leave sounds like your wife is very unhappy with her life with you i am really sorry to say that but what you have typed makes me believe she is unhappy
if you can not sit and talk all the problems out and she wants to carry on seeing the other man i think it is time for you to leave
this is sad but if your as good a man as you say i am sure you would be snapped up by another woman real soon
i bet your wife loves you but is not in love with you there is a difference
but i wish you luck with your future
respect
shaz

Answer 4

Your wife obviously is seeing this guy for more than sexual reasons. It sounds as if they have a relationship going. This is not your fault and you shouldn't be treating it as if you are doing something wrong. Don't let her take advantage of you like this. You need to sit her down and tell her you know whats going on and that you have known for quite some time. Tell her you've tried to make things better around the house and in your relationship in hopes of winning her back, but that didn't seem to work. You need to let her know that she either leaves him forever or that you are gone. And stick to your word. If she chooses him than you need to move on. You deserve so much better and I know that theres a million and one women out there that want a guy just like you.

Answer 5

Sorry to hear this. I'm just getting your side so here goes. If it is all for real, then you need to make plans. 1. If the kids, house, cars, bank accounts are in both names you need to take steps to protect yourself and your kids. Open a new account in your name only, transfer most but not all of the funds into it. You need to leave her some cash to get a room. Change locks and get a restraining order or a order of protection from her . Hid the car(s). Contact a lawyer!!!!!! I have been thur this and I didn't protect myself I LOST IT ALL!!!!! HOUSE CAR MONEY YOU MUST TAKE STEPS TO PROTECT YOURSELF. If you have any questions ask them.

Answer 6

Can you say doormat? You need to wake her butt up. Clean up the act or out on the street. Let the other guy support her and dump on him. You are being used and abused. Its up to you to put a stop to it. I'm sure there are other women who would appreciate the things you've said you do. If she's seeing someone else its not your fault. If she has not identified specific issues its because she has questionable values. Put your foot down. Send her ER bill to the guy she wants to see and see how long he hangs around.

Answer 7

Only hearing your side of the story, it's hard to tell what's going on. But sometimes, you just pick the wrong person. Your wife is obviously unhappy in the marriage since she is with another man. So it's time for you to move on and find someone worthy of you.

Answer 8

I think you just solved what your problem is...

Your there all the time! She needs her "space" and she is getting it by cheating on you.

When your there with the kids, and around her all the time, she may feel that she cant "breathe", or she is being smothered.

Each person has some one that is compatable, and I suggest that you find some one who is compatable with your way of thinking, because your wife obviously doesnt think that you "fit her bill" anymore...

I wish you well..

Jesse

Answer 9

You need to move on. She does not love you vecause if she did, you would not be feeling this way. It's time for you to man up and give it to her blood raw and tell her she needs to change or it's over. Point blank. She is keeping you from meeting a real woman who will love you and care for you in return. Good luck =)

Answer 10

She's not happy with you, thats it, the bottom line. Don't beat yourself up trying to figure out why or what you can do to change her feelings toward you. You can't do anything. THe harder you try, the further away you'll end up pushing her. Just move on.