My brother is getting married and I'm 1 of 3 braidsmaids. The dress is awful. It doesn't suit me at all. I don't know why I couldn't choose my own dress and shoes. Is this the way its suppose to be? Do I have to say yes? It doesn't feel like an honor............... How do I get over this process. I know, I know its only 1 day!
2006-08-03 05:42:17 · 12 answers · asked by B1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not trying to be selfish or sound whinny. I just don't understand. I want to be there and be supportive.
2006-08-03 06:01:32 · update #1
Very rarely do the bridesmaid dresses ever do a person justice. I personally think they are made to look that way so that all the attention is on the bride. After all, it's her day. I've been in 18 weddings so far, and unless you've got one in a chiffon mint green or a strapless puke colored orange one...you aren't doing too bad. Take it in stride knowing that it could always be worse and be grateful there are two other people standing next to you in the same dreadful outfit. If anything, at least you'll be able to look back and have a good laugh.
2006-08-03 05:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't choose your own dress and shoes because it's not what the bride wants. Remember when she asked you could have said no thank you. But if you tell her that it's because the dress and shoes don't suit you then that's plain selfish. It's not your day. There are alot of ladies that end up in your situation. I know I did. It was the ugliest red drop-waisted dress with a big bow in front I had ever seen. I was going to say no to the bride but remembered that it's her day and most of the pictures will be of her and the groom. I made sure of that. Good luck. It truly is only for a few hours. Put that dress on if for no other reason than to make your brother happy. Good Luck!
2006-08-03 05:59:29 · answer #2 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let it get you down. Just remember, everyone knows you didn't pick the dress - so if it doesn't suit you it's not down to you. Try to enjoy the day and forget what you are wearing. If other people see the dress and think it's horrible they will be thinking what bad taste the bride has in clothes, so don't fret.
Try your best to enjoy the day and as soon as you can change, go and change out of it, and wear the dress that you know will suit you
2006-08-03 09:06:18 · answer #3 · answered by Curious39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot choose your own dress and shoes because that is the bride's priviledge accordingly to her tatste and theme of her wedding.
Remember that this is not about you, it's about your brother and his bride getting married.
If you decline the invitation it would be extremely rude and would start a family feud. You seem inmature and spoiled.... this is a big honor and you are just thinking about flattering yourself?
Get over it.
PS/ All bridemaids dresses are awful, so you know.
2006-08-03 05:52:51 · answer #4 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This day is not about you it is about your brother and his future wife. The bride gets to pick the dresses because it is her special day. If you can't deal with that then you should let them know that you won't be apart of their special day because you don't like the outfit. Your question sounds very selfish. But the truth is no you don't have to be apart of this special day if you don't want to, you do have the option of saying no. But before you do consider what effect this might have on your relationship with your brother and his future wife.
2006-08-03 05:50:02 · answer #5 · answered by Heather P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wear the dress! It is your brother's day. Its not about you.
You should feel honored that asked you to be one of his bridesmaids. Support him and wear the dress.
Some brothers and sisters dont even speak to one another. You are blessed that he selected you. Be there for you and AS SOON AS the wedding is over, take the dress off!!!
2006-08-03 06:25:36 · answer #6 · answered by chipmunk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been a bridesmaid twice once for my sister and once for my friend the dresses are never anything worth talking about. Unless it is to make fun of you. I wore floral and the second one I looked like a big green tree. I know what you are saying. But just do it for them they asked you there because you are special to them. That is the honor. Just hang in there. And remember you are doing it for them.
2006-08-03 05:51:07 · answer #7 · answered by Heidi B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boo fuking Hoo...the sky is falling! The sky is falling! LOL!!!!!!
Not YOUR wedding.
Not YOUR day
Not YOUR turn................
You accepted the "Honor"..............everyone KNOWS the bride pick out the attire.its no reflection on YOU.
If and when you ever get married, are YOU prepared to let your bridesmaids pick their own dresses? I think not. You will be thinking:
Its MY wedding
Its MY day
Its My turn
enough said. Now wear the dress, and be a gracious young lady. Now THATS dignity and class.
2006-08-03 07:34:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can say no, but it's rude. It is truly an honor. She chose you out of all of the other females she could have chosen. It's not your day it's their day just roll with it.
2006-08-03 05:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And it's not your wedding .... if the dresses are bad just remember you didn't pick them .... when your day comes I am sure you are going to pick something that somebody doesn't like! .... get over it ... it's not about you!
2006-08-03 05:49:51 · answer #10 · answered by Fanuc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋