I was out with some friends and had been drinkning when a guy one of my friends knew and I began to talk. He seemed nice but I told him I was married and there was no way he could not have known I am committed to my marriage. At the end of the evening he kissed me and at first I was shocked; when I finally got him to let go of me I yelled at him and walked away. I felt so bad that I told my husband and he now thinks I am cheating. I just wanted to be honest and no I feel like he is questioning my loyalty! Help!
2006-08-03 05:31:25 · 10 answers · asked by lilhaysmom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You did the best thing. You pushed the guy away, and you told your husband. Being honest is the best thing. I'm learning through my new relationship. No one is perfect and your husband should be proud of you. But then again I know what jealousy can do. If he loves you, then in time he should relax about the situation. To help the situation, don't go out with people for a while. Stick by your man 100% and let him know, he is the one you want. No matter how stubborn he acts. Its a little bit normal the way he is acting. He will forgive and forget, if he loves you enough.
2006-08-03 05:40:20 · answer #1 · answered by terry 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I applaud you for being honest and telling your husband about the situation. I would personally take that as a sign that you are not cheating because if you were you would not be voluntarily be giving your husband evidence of that. It sounds like he is a little insecure so maybe you will need to reassure him for a while if you have the patience for that. If you truly are committed to your marriage then you should work with him to make sure that your husband understands the level of you commitment. Then maybe he won't be so insecure about the relationship.
2006-08-03 12:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by Heather P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that was cheating, you struggled to get him to stop, and was honest with your husband. Your husband is just dealing with feelings of jealousy and inadequacy (for not being there to protect you). Time will probably patch this up, but you can help by always bringing your husband with you when you go for drinks in the future. That should send him the strong, clear message that you don't want it to happen again.
Best wishes.
2006-08-03 13:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by daisyk 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a woman, but I know that things like that can really mess with a guy. You did the right thing by being honest. I would try to get him to understand that it was totally unexpected. If the other guy was throwing out signs to let you know that he was interested in you, then you should have distanced yourself from him. To answer your question, you did not cheat, that guy was a jerk. Your husband should be mad at him not you.
2006-08-03 13:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by Keke 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not cheating... that's similar to saying rape is cheating.
It's not your fault... the idiot SHOULD have assumed you were committed to your marriage unless told otherwise. None of this "I got signals" crap... people are misunderstood all the time.
I think you did the right thing to tell him. Ask hubby how he would feel if you hid it from him, and he heard from a friend...
It's not like you're going to be put in that situation with the idiot again, right??!
2006-08-03 12:49:19 · answer #5 · answered by mama_bears_den 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, that's tantamount to rape. Would your husband consider it screwing around if you'd actually been physically assaulted by this guy? REALLY!
Its not like you kissed this guy back or even enjoyed it, so what's the deal with your guy? Talk about super over-the-top jealous!
Tell him the next time he looks at another woman's a$$ or t!ts HE's cheating and see how he likes it.
2006-08-03 12:47:30 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to start: No, You were not cheating.
You were in the wrong place at the wrong time. Drinks were involved and this guy took it upon himself to kiss you. Just by you pushing him off and yelling at him tells me you are in the right here. I beleive you are true and loyal to your husband.
Good luck.
2006-08-03 13:12:25 · answer #7 · answered by moonlite1us 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, this is not cheating. Unwanted advances such as this are actually sexual battery. I think your husband is out of line. He should be grateful for such a loyal spouse.
2006-08-03 12:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu shouldn't be out drinking without your husband.
2006-08-03 12:39:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
its not coz u dont want it..dont mind ur husband if he dont believe you..you know it by urself that your telling the truth..your conscience is clean..
2006-08-03 12:40:50 · answer #10 · answered by mitch 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋