Have lived with him behind me for 10 yrs, No problems until 4 months ago.
2006-08-03 05:12:04 · 15 answers · asked by missingmylove 2 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
He is an ex police officer. Everything was cool he spoke to the kids and the adults until hubby told him we were buying the house. There is a privacy fence. We stay to ourselves. He torn doen an old barn rats came out and he told me that I had them and I took him to show where they were coming down his barn along the fence, he blew up and me walked off then two days later he calss the welfare office on mem then last week he calls the dog pound and poice tells them the boys are dog napping . The dogs are mine, dont leave the yard. The boys stay in our fenced in yard. My boys are good kids. Really. They both make great grades and are polite.
2006-08-03 13:22:05 · update #1
Make sure that your children aren't in his yard, and tell him to start taking pictures of the problems so that you can properly discipline them. If they really aren't in his yard, he will never be able to show proof.
2006-08-03 05:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try installing minicamerasat strategic points in the yard and record 24 hrs a day, when he makes up something, just say that it is not true and if he insists say you are 100% sure. If he takes this to the cops of causes injury or damage to you your kids or your property then use the videos against him but don't mention them at all before that.
Something happened 4 months ago that you might not be telling or your kids might not be telling. People who have lived behind you for 10 years do not change overnight. Have you tried finding out what is the reason for this change?
After all there are always two sides to a story.
You might also put up a nice big dividing fence so your kids will not "wander off"
2006-08-03 05:19:26 · answer #2 · answered by Karan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was a kid, it was great fun to upset the uptight neighbor. Whether they are or not is the big mystery. I would talk to your neighbor. Get details and see if any of it makes sense. Just assure him that you believe him since he is an adult. It could be that he is lonely and just needs an excuse to make contact with you. Did anything tramatic happen in his life around the time he started complaining.
I think we should all try harder to be neighborly in general. Make the guy some cookies or share your dinner. If the kids are old enough, offer them as helpers. Don't expect him to pay them either. If they did a good job, you can reward them for being good neighbors.
2006-08-03 05:26:58 · answer #3 · answered by realius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay outside with the kids and watch what he does. Ask other adults like your friends or family members to come over. They can also observe his behavior and witness anything that goes on. He might just not like children. When in doubt about what he might do, always report the situation to the police. They can document the situation and at least beaware of it. Do not intimidate this neighbor, just be polite. Hope this helps. You and your kids be safe.
2006-08-03 05:19:00 · answer #4 · answered by cottoncandysky40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the question is, what happened four months ago. Maybe there is a legitimate gripe. Maybe there isn't. I would come over to the neighbors house with a pie or something, and try and find out what the real problem is.
2006-08-03 05:16:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, perhaps if you have never had problems until 4 moths ago... your kids really are doing stuff. It is hard to see a man making things up after 10 years of nothing..
2006-08-03 05:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by Imani 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him if there is a problem to build a privacy fence that will keep your kids out of his yard.
2006-08-03 05:54:04 · answer #7 · answered by Desperado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go and have a talk with him. Insist he call you first if he sees a problem, otherwise make him understand that if has no rightful gripe the next time you have to deal with him it will be in court.
2006-08-03 05:23:39 · answer #8 · answered by midnightdealer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand up to him .Talk to him and ask him why he is making such problems and if he is arguing just tell him to stay off and warn him not to make up things and leave.If he still troubls you tell him just this ,uch"Hi!I am sorry i dont have any problem here and if you really think you have something you should try to solve it ie leave...tell him that you dont want to make it rough but tell him to understand that its not ur children who is doing this.
2006-08-03 05:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by sana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him. Find out what his problem is. Are you absolutely sure your kids aren't doing anything wrong?
2006-08-03 05:15:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋