What are the steps in getting a divorce?

Question

I am 11 and I have a right to know how my parents are getting a divorce.

Answer 1

Every situation is different. You need a lawyer to start. You can either get a marriage dissolution which you only need one lawyer and husband and wife decide who gets what...or a divorce both husband and wife need a lawyer and then the lawyers help sort out who gets what if they are not able to agree on things. Like I said, every situation can be different.

Answer 2

The steps in a divorce are:

Two people split up and one leaves the home (usually)
Then one of the adults goes to an attorney and files for a divorce. The adult and the attorney will decide what property each adult is going to keep, decide who gets what.
They will also figure out what is in the best interest of the kids. They will figure out the visitation and how much if any child support is to be paid.

Then the other adult will get an attorney (usually) and they will go over the paperwork, make sure it is fair, make sure they agree with everything. Make sure they agree with the visitation and child support issues.

The paper work is then filed with the courts, after a certain amount of time the adults will go before a judge and the judge signs the divorce papers. And your parents are divorced.

Hopefully your parents will agree on who gets what and the child visitation and support issues and there wont be alot of argueing and fighting.
Hopefully they will take into consideration your feelings.
And hopefully they can remain on friendly terms and not make things difficult for you.
You have the right to love both your parents, want to be with both your parents, and not be put in the middle of their problems.

I hope this helps you in understanding what is about to happen in your life and in your parents lives.

Divorce is not the end of the world. Things will be different but hopefully you can adjust.
And if your parents do not want to be together any more then just remember that it is better to be in a home with one parent and the home be happy, then in a home with two parents and the home is unhappy, and there is fighting and stuff going on.

Answer 3

Well you don't have a right.
But it happens different ways.
Sometimes only one person wants the divorce.
Sometimes both want it.
Sometimes one person goes to a lawyer to file the papers.
Sometimes they just use a paralegal...if everything is agreed.
Then papers are filed with a court and a judge grants the divorce (they always grant it - judges never deny the divorce)
if there are children then at that time the child custory/support is set.
If the parents fight they often have 2 different lawyers and they usually fight over money and property and child custody.
It will take a long time to get through the whole process (like a year) and it is very emotional for everyone involved,
even the person who wants the divorce.
most everyone is sad for a long time or mad.
usually the parents move away from each other sometime like mom or dad gets an apartment or different house.
usually this happens near the beginning of the process.
they can change their minds at any time.
it is not your fault. there's nothing you can do to stop it.

Answer 4

Usually, there is a trial separation, although this is not usually necessary. What happens is they live apart for awhile and see how that goes. Then they file for divorce. One of them goes to the courthouse and files paperwork. They may or may not engage the services of a lawyer. When I got a divorce, it did it myself without a lawyer. Then they figure out how to divide the property, house, car, etc, and they figure out custody arrangements (how long you will stay at one parent's house, who gets you for holidays, etc). Finally, they appear before a judge to make sure everything is legal and fair. The judge issues the divorce degree, and that's it.
It can vary from person to person and from state to state, but that's how my divorce went.
I'm sorry that your parent's are getting a divorce. Mine did when I was 15 or so, and it wasn't easy. Just remember that your feelings are important, too, and if you really want to be with a certain parent for a certain holiday or something like that, to speak up. The judge can take what you want into account, too.

Answer 5

Why don't you ask them? You can also ask someone in your church, say a pastor? Or you could ask to go to counciling while your parents are going through this phase. It's very difficult for you, I am sure.

Unfortunately, you are powerless over what your parents are doing. Just keep low and let them do what they have to do. But seek some help for yourself. Not all marriages end up in divorce. We've been married 32 years.

Hope this helps. Get help for yourself right now.

Answer 6

You need to ask them to sit down and speak to you about it. This is the first step. Depending on where you live, there are legal services for children that should be able to help you. Talk to a trusted adult about your feelings if you cannot talk with your parents.

Answer 7

my parent just got a divorce too first they get diffrent attourneys to sort out who get's what then they settle on some sort of agreement when to split and then one parent moves out and one other parent has to give the caregiver money every month very cofusing and lots and lots of crying just keep your chin up and hope it works out for you!!

Answer 8

tell them to pray to God first, let Him answer all your parents' necessity because it's not right to divorce a marriage bound and blessed by Him. it's a sin

Answer 9

You need to ask your Mom what will be involved, let her know just what you've said to us. It's not going to be easy for any of you, but her reasons should be considered before you start trying to get answers else where, OK.

Answer 10

They probably won't tell you exactly how and why they are seeking divorce.But you may plead with them to rethink, if you strongly feel that they should not do that.Sometimes it is better to live separately than to make life hell by living together.