She had 7 really close friends and a ton of just friends. When I tell her it is too many to have she compares it to all of my family. I tell her it is not the same becuase family relationships can all be one way. (Example. My parents babysit and help out financially but I don't really need to reciprocate because they are not going to stop helping). But Friendships are two way streets. If you keep giving to a friend and they never give back you will eventually end the friendship.
I feel this is a problem becuase she wears herself out being friends with all these people. So how many friends is too many friends?
2006-08-03 05:04:01 · 4 answers · asked by butnozzle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How many is too many? I think that would depend on when they start interfering with your marriage. 7 friends, 107 friends or only 1 friend is not really the question, but is she taking away from the marriage. Is she spending too much time with her friends and ignoring you and the marriage? Is she spending too much money, putting you in debt or not saving for the future, when she is with her friends? Is she not spending enough time with you (and family if you have children) to nurture and maintain the relationship / emotional bonds?
If you think she is then you must present it to her that way. Not that she has too many friends but that you feel that the marriage is suffering because of the time not spent being together and doing thing as a couple / family.
2006-08-03 05:22:31 · answer #1 · answered by David 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends may eventually become like family, especially for someone who has no real extended family (cousins, siblings, etc.) on her side. Don't start tearing down your wife's emotional support system with non-related women or you are in big trouble, buddy. (And I am a man, not a woman.) One thing you might have to get over is that a woman usually does not depend fully on her husband for her emotional support. She gets a lot of emotional support from other women in her life, including female friends. That's just the way the ladies are.
2006-08-03 05:30:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-03 05:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is enjoying her friends, why do you want to interfere? Friendship is not an activity that benefits from bookkeeping. And her friends are probably giving her what she needs - doesn't have to be a material thing.
2006-08-03 05:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Delora Gloria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋