When i dream i usually have very weird, vivid, dreams. The worst kind are when i dream about my boyfriend cheating on me with another girl. It kills me. I wake up and have a bad day just thinking about the dream. I worry about the dream so much i even resort to telling him about it, which he denies happening. Why do i have these dreams so often? I don't know how to make them go away, but i want to at least understand what the true meaning of them are.
2006-08-03 04:55:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I truly don't think he is cheating. I'm just wondering what it means. Sometimes i'll go weeks without having them, and sometimes i'll have them once or twice a week. It's always a different girl, or a girl whom doesnt exist. I rarely see the "girl" in the dream, too.
2006-08-03 05:00:59 · update #1
P.s.
I usually have these dreams when i wake up and then fall back asleep. It's usually when i'm with him, or when he calls. Last week for instance, he slept over and such, and i had a dream. Just l this morning, he called from wotk at 7:30, so of course i tried to go back to sleep, and i had that kind of dream, again.
2006-08-03 05:03:28 · update #2
We've been together for two years. We've had our ups and downs and we even broke up for a year, but for the last two years i've never held him down in the relationship. I've never had to.
2006-08-03 05:05:57 · update #3
In my opinion sometimes these sort of dreams tell you just the truth, and sometimes they show you what fears you have (fears of your boyfriend cheating on you).
If you want to find out which possibility of the 2 is the right one, it is a good idea to look at how you have been the day before or just before you get these dreams. If you discover that you only have these dreams when there has been sorrow inside you of him cheating on you, then the dreams seem to be about your own fears.
What the dreams say is that you do not see those girls, or that the girl does not exist. This must also be true inside you then. If the dreams are not about your fears, but about 'the truth', then how can he cheat about you with a girl that does not exist? But, on the other had, when they are about your own fears of him cheating on you, then they can make sense. Because you can have fears of him cheating on you without knowing the girls. And also, if there is no girl in your imagination (the girl does not exist in your dreams then). Also, I think it will be hard for most boys, to have a different girl all the time. But if the cheating is not in reality, but in your fears, then this part of the dream makes more sense. Because in fears for cheating it is normal, that the girls are different all the time. Because you feel different all the time, so your fantasy is different too.
If you look at it this way, and think about it, what would you say? Can they be about fears in yourself? Can you feel fears in yourself?
If you have never had any fears of him cheating on you, it seems less likely that they are about your fears. But it is also possible, that you have had these fears in the beginning, when you just knew him. And maybe there has been a moment that you decided, that you did not want to think & feel about him this way. And maybe from that moment on you have repressed those fears - buried them inside yourself. Buried them so well, that you have never seen them again. Then it feels like you don't have any fears of him cheating on you. But then they did not really disappear, they must be living deep inside you then.
Then you cannot change those feelings if you do not feel them consciously. That will be the reason for your dreams to bring them back to you. Because you have to work on it, you have to solve the problem. Maybe you want to talk about them with someone, and see if this helps.
When people wake up and fall back asleep, they often have dreams, this is true for most persons.
Maybe these thoughts can help you a bit to understand your dreams.
peter.
2006-08-03 09:45:24 · answer #1 · answered by pe51 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know about the true meaning. There have been many dream interpreting theories. For example, maybe he really is cheating on you. Maybe its just a thought that worries you. Or maybe you subconsciously like another boy, and this gets out in your dreams. Remember dreams are random firings of nuerons, so they could be about anything.
But I have a solution to getting rid of them. There is a type of dreaming called lucid dreaming. Lucid dreams are dreams in which the dreamer is aware that he or she is dreaming, and therefore gains acess to a certain amount of control over the dream. Some lucid dreamers fly anywhere in the world that their brain can produce images of. Etc. Some ways to help have a lucid dream are dream recall, which, as you describe, you already have, and vivid dreams, which you have, and constantly ask yourself throughout the day- am i dreaming? That way your brain asks that during your dream. And in lucid dreams, words are scrambled and so are numbers, so look at your watch and is you cant read it, your dreaming. Anyway...
During a lucid dream, with newly gained control, you can find out why your having the dreams. You could go to your boyfriend's house, or anywhere in your dream, and let your subconscious imagination do the rest. If you catch him cheating on you in the dream, break up with him in the dream and that my stop them, for example. You'll feel satisfied and not so anxious.
2006-08-03 05:08:46 · answer #2 · answered by Sam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dreams, as Freud said, are manifestations of the subconsious. Basically, your head is trying to make you realize something you may or may not be consciously aware of. There are many interpretation dictionaries out there, but my favorite is dreammoods.com.
This exerpt was taken directly from this website: To dream that your mate, spouse, or significant other is cheating on you, indicates your fears of being abandoned. You may feel a lack of attention in the relationship. Alternatively, you may feel that you are not measuring up to the expectations of others. This notion may stem from issues of trust or self-esteem. The dream could also indicate that you are unconsciously picking up hints and cues that your significant other is not being completely truth or is not fully committed in the relationship.
Often if you confront and overcome the issue affecting you, the dreams will diminish or disappear.
2006-08-03 09:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by lyricsop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be very insecure about the relationship and you are extremely afraid of losing him. The reason you have the dreams after being with him may be because you have such a great time that you you can't bear the fact that he might leave you. don't do anything to pressure him or he might do what you fear. this is called the Pygmalion Effect or Self-fulfilling Prophecy.
2006-08-03 12:09:54 · answer #4 · answered by En1gma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dreams have warned me of several things in the past (especially when repetitive) and I learned to trust it or at least make myself aware or be careful of certain things. Depending on how you feel about your dreams it could mean something or have no meaning. BUT the Question: What can you do about it and what can you do to make yourself feel better? It will be no use telling him or be paranoid about it. I suggest you look into the situation and fish a bit without him knowing just to get ease of mind. When time tells, you will surely in future know when you should trust or believe your dreams.
2016-03-26 21:39:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Him cheating on you is probably one of your biggest inner fears and it manifests itself throughout your dreams. It doesn't mean he IS cheating, it has nothing to do with that...it does mean that you are worried about it, though.
And to the girl below me....I think it's retarded to even begin to believe that a dream can REALLY mean that somebody is guilty of something. If she has NO proof otherwise, then how the hell are you going to tell a girl that a freakin' dream is cause to confront the guy?
2006-08-03 04:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by teacherofbrats 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it could well be a trust issue.
cheating = not trusting
However, in you case, it could be or could be him that you don't trust. Subconscious mind speaks for itself. However, there is quite a possibility that you don't trust YOURSELF rather. Projecting a cheating situtaton in your dream to show you that you may not trust yourself. You put him as the main character that way you will not have guilt conscience. It always happens in our dream. Many times, we don't use ourselves as the messengers. In your case, he is actually your as a projection image.
The other possibility is that you may not be content with him. You don't get it from him in real life, therefore you want it happen in dream. Negative dreaming will be another way to reflect your feeling and you vent it all out in dream
I could be wrong, but that is how I see from your dream.
2006-08-04 00:54:52 · answer #7 · answered by YourDreamDoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is nothing but feeling of insecurity.Go back wards in your life, Analyse various incidences , Had any time you were cheated by some one very near to you.Try to get in your childhood period also. I am sure you yourself will find the cause, Please definitely try it if you find such event which has given you the feeling of insecurity, Please do inform me in detail. I am working for a psychological project & your answer will help me a lot in preparing my paper. THANKS.
2006-08-04 03:10:50 · answer #8 · answered by sukhwinder b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
II have them too..not as often..but when I have them I often think they are real and somone is trying to tell me somthing and I feel bad cause I go after him and accuse him of cheating...It only puts a strain on things...When you find out let me know :-)
2006-08-03 05:00:15 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE IS CHEATING!!!!! If you get them more than twice a week that is a sign....do you know the girl in the dream????
2006-08-03 04:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋