I been with my fiance for 4 yrs and we had a bad breakup a yr ago and we got back together a month later without my family knowing. My brother that i currently live with doesn't like anyone i talk to because he likes all my attention and I just need to know how to deal with all the bull **** that is ahead. The maine reason is because I am so youn but we do have everything figured out and I just don't know how to handle everything.
2006-08-03 04:55:46 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You don't need their approval. Send them an invite to the wedding.
Good luck!
2006-08-03 04:59:20 · answer #1 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off. If you have everything figured out then telling your family should be a breeze. Second. There is no way at 20 that you have everything worked out. You are still just barely an adult, you can not even buy alcohol yet. I am 27 and I still have not figured it out. You need to make sure that this is really what you want, think about the reasons that you two broke up in the first place, make sure that your relationship is really past it. If you truly believe that it is then your family will just have to deal with it. After all a marriage is about starting a new family and growing up. Not being scared what they are going to think. If you really love this guy you should not care what they think
2006-08-03 12:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many other obstacles that come with a marriage... first of all you have to ask yourself why youre getting married and why cant you wait?...you are 20 years old and at 20 you havent figured yourself out yet..you started dating at the age of 16..have u ever gone out with other boys? Marriage is not something you take lightly ..when u want to marry someone there are no questions no doubts that this person is the one for you... if you dont know how to handle everything then maybe you shouldnt be getting married.
2006-08-03 12:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your brothers whether they like it or not. It's your decision and if you really think this girl is the right one for you, then it's your life and only you can decide that. Concerning your bro, well...he has to understand that you can't give him permanent attention because you have your life and he has his own. If you get married, that doesn't mean that you won't be interested in seeing him and so on, but he won't be the one who'll feed you, take care of you and love you as much as your wife would do, because he'll get married as well and he'll see how it will be. Tell them so they won't be able to say later that you didn't talk to them about this. Good luck :)
2006-08-03 12:13:37 · answer #4 · answered by mickurahul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know no matter what you do your family is always going to support and love you, have that in mind and so sit down calmyl with your parents and inform them the good news. Also explain to them how you have economic things figured out and prove to them that both will live happily evr after and that its serious its not another fling that young people go through! Don't worry about your brother and remember life is full of risks and if you don't take one and conquer your own happiness nobody will for you, trust me!!! Just do whatever your heart tells you is right and if he's the one so be it, God Bless and smile always!!!
2006-08-03 12:00:56 · answer #5 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen Child, you are 20 years old, you are an adult, you have a right to be happy and you have the right to marry the man you want to spend the rest of your life with. Tell your brother that you are getting married and if he can not except reality, so be it. But one thing for sure, what ever you do, don't stop living because he can't except the fact that you are getting married. You really don't need his approval of your choices, let alone your choices in Life. Have a great Wedding and God Bless. Thanks for asking. Aloha from Hawaii
2006-08-03 12:04:53 · answer #6 · answered by rechsteiner1986 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same way you told your parents, tell it to your 3 brothers and the rest of your family.
2006-08-03 12:00:33 · answer #7 · answered by jazz! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell them 20 is not young I got married at 18 and now I'm 20...I didn't tell anymore when I got married...I just did it and they found out on their own....If you are truely in love don't worry about what everyone else will think...
2006-08-03 12:01:48 · answer #8 · answered by ERICKSMAMA 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tell everyone else just like you told your parents. Everyone else has got to find out sooner or later.
2006-08-03 11:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by krissy4543 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them the way you told your parents. Direct and to the point.
2006-08-03 12:00:48 · answer #10 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋