most of the posts in here are about bad (low) self-esteem and some self-esteem training/study would solve nearly all of your problems with love, respect, communication, work, dating, marriage, sex, friendship, etc.
bad self-esteem is: you think you're worse than others or the better than others. good self-esteem: you're just OK. bad (unhealthy) self-esteem: you let others do everything or you out do everyone around you. good (healthy) self-eteem: you take responsibility and do your best.
do you have good or bad self-esteem? if good, how did you get it? if bad what are you going to do about that? does it even matter to you so long as you're getting by? would you be interested in self-esteem training if you're unhappy with your life? do you even know where to learn about self-esteem?
2006-08-03 04:46:38 · 5 answers · asked by jimrich 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am pretty sure I have a healthy self esteem. I think positively and I enjoy life. I have a good family and good friends. I have a lot or respect for myself and others around me. I think how I got it had a lot to do with my mom always praising me for doing good and her patience with me when I had problems. I also was encouraged to try new things and I understood that some people are better at certain things than others but you can do anything you want if you try. As a child I spent a lot of time by myself and I got to know who I was early.
2006-08-03 05:02:26 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are making things simple when they are not.
People can have good, low and bad self-steem in different aspects of their life. Their level of confidence may vary depending on the different areas of life.
I believe I have in general Good and healthy self-steem when it comes to work, social skills, psysical apperance.
I have low self steem when it comes to love-relationships as childhood trauma and a divorce will leave you emotionally scared and make you somehow skeptic and defensive even when everything is just right.
No, I would not go to any seminar because is stupid to address issues in bulk when you really need a one-to-one theraphy session to solve it. Not every one is the same and there is no standrad answer to everyone.
Good luck
2006-08-03 12:06:54 · answer #2 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mine is also good,i don't know why.I think we all get depressed or feel bad from time to time but you need to realize that there will always be someone thinner,richer,more attractive etc...but we don't know how their home life is...so I just try to live everyday as it maybe the last. I love my family,friends,job..i never save something for "good" as everyday is....and i have a good sense of humor and try to laugh everyday.
2006-08-03 12:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by ivannaalot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have good self esteem... now. but growing up i was shy, self conscious, felt ugly, felt stupid... didn't know what was wrong w/ me. felt sad when i looked at other people... don't get me wrong, i was still a fun, happy, healthy kid, but in terms of teen angst, i was pretty much an ugly duckling....... even after college, things were better, but i still didn't feel "good" about my appearance, and that affected my confidence. but i met a pretty bad guy who was nice to my face, but ended u treating me horribly, so after him i decided i wasn't gonna take any crap from anyone anymore! i started working out, i started taking care of myself, dressing up, etc etc.. i felt better and i looked better, and i had more expectations from myself as well as future person i date. that helped me to realize that i'm a great person, any person is lucky to know me! not in a cocky way either, just because i think i am nice person, so if someone doesn't like me, it's their problem, not mine. =T. then, i got involved in a small church, and i finally felt accepted and respected and it was very freeing. i didn't have to worry anymore about impressing anyone, cuz they were my friends. now i'm not as afraid as i was to do many things, or live the way i want to live, or say the things i want to say. i feel free because i have all these positive things in my life and i'm thankful for them each day!! why bother thinking of the negative? yeah, i'm fat right now, i gained some weight, blah blah (car accident in february prevents me from really exercising :(...) but hey, i can take care of myself, and it's not the end of the world! and i have a great family that loves me, great friends, and a wonderful boyfriend!!! and i finally feel like i'm understanding WHY i'm a christian! i couldn't ask for anything more~~
2006-08-03 12:17:47 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mine is a lot better now thinks to simon
2006-08-03 11:51:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋