Im in a wonderful relationship with my fiance. We love each other very much. With him I have settled down and Im not that party girl anymore that I use to be. We have a good sex life and he tells me that I'm beautiful and sexy all the time. But I don't feel sexy at all. I always feel like I'm so plain and that there is nothing about me exciting anymore. What are some things I can do to get that sexy confidence back, not just for me but for my fiance too?
2006-08-03 04:38:06 · 37 answers · asked by lizzy*lou 2 in Beauty & Style ➔ Other - Beauty & Style
you just feel that way because you arent trying to attract anyone anymore. this is a good thing because it shows the love you have. However, I recommend fixing yourself up LIKE you WERE trying to meet men. Do everything you can to make yourself pretty and get attention from men. trust me, it works and will be healthy for your relationship.
2006-08-03 04:43:34 · answer #1 · answered by Bistro 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The question is if you don't feel beautiful or sexy in his eyes or if it's just to yourself. Either way, it's something that you will have to rely on yourself to fix. If you don't feel exciting with him, take the sex life to even better levels (try a lot of new things, maybe take an aerobic strip tease class at a dance studio, buy some new lingerie). For yourself, you might want to try things like travel together with him, which is romantic and exciting without being too crazy. I know dance classes have helped me feel much sexier than I did before, and if that's your kind of thing, you should try salsa. It's a fun, sexy dance for both people invovled. :) Even if you can't party anymore, you can still do exciting things.
2006-08-03 04:46:17 · answer #2 · answered by Natalia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing you can do that will make a BIG difference is to change your attitude. If you think you're hot then others will too. Second thing you should do is get a make over: Hair, fingernails, toes, new clothes and shoes will make you feel better about your outward appearance. Third and last try to be more spontaneous and adventurous. Go to a library and get a good book about fun sexy things to do with your mate. There are dozens of those out there. That is if you are all out of ideas. I hope this helps.
Good luck.
2006-08-03 04:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Oracle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
-buy some clothes that make u look AND feel good!
-pretty lacy fun underwear is always good
-always make yourself up, for u AND your hubby. put makeup on, do your hair, just cuz u don't go party anymore doesn't mean u don't know how to make yourself look hot!
-be comfortable in your own skin.. did u identify sexy with partying? take a good look in the mirror.... are you happy w/ yourself? work out, buy new makeup or skin care, get a gym pass, read the news, learn more about current events.. the more knowledgable you are about your appearance AND the world, the more you will be confident about yourself!! you can conquer the world! :)
2006-08-03 04:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set up a kid free (if you have kids) evening. This is a start. Do a romantic dinner in a cute nighty and candle light. Then, every day, when you know your going to be seen by him, dress the part of a lover, not a housewife or working stiff. Add perfume, add hidden secrets like a lace garter and thigh highs and show off the tops when no one but him is looking.
Get creative. Buy books on massage, tantric love and positions.
Good Luck!
2006-08-03 04:44:24 · answer #5 · answered by mrscmmckim 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doing your hair and makeup every day regardless if going anywhere, wear clothes and under things that make u feel sexy,
If ur finances allow it, buy something new and sexy, new hair style, do something different with the evenings you spend together.
2006-08-03 05:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by jelli_bean_36 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a whole new look..like a beauty day maybe with a couple girlfriends, get your hair done with a new style or color. Go to Victoria's Secret and buy a bunch of sexy new lingerie! Or like Oprah says go to a stripping class!
2006-08-03 08:37:39 · answer #7 · answered by vintageglam6 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by giving urself a nice night off 2 urself.have a great night and relax. u should get in a bubble bath. when u get out, make urself a good dinner. and dont 4get 2 make ur self smell good for dinners or dates.4 dates get urself a nice sexy dress fits tight but isnt 2 tight. oh yeah! plan a club night 4 u and ur gurls!
2006-08-03 04:52:24 · answer #8 · answered by cutiepieliyah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit being insecure. Its not like you've had a kid to where you actually need to work at becomming sexy again. Ifyou are really having troubles, sometimes a belly-dancing class can help you get it into your mind that you are sexy and talented, not to mention those classes are really fun.
2006-08-03 04:43:36 · answer #9 · answered by elliecow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a confidence boost. You don't have to be vain, just understand how beautiful you are. Real beauty is onn the inside as well as outside. Get your confidence back, I can't do it for you. No machine can or a pill. Just you and only you.
2006-08-03 04:44:36 · answer #10 · answered by eplayerj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋