i have this girl which i love so much but she has been pretending to me should i leave her?
2006-08-03 04:29:56 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
just talk to her
2006-08-03 04:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by fuilui213 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do there is a lot of pain in store, so it's up to you; would you rather have pain in small doses that last forever (by staying with her), or in a single large dose (by leaving her here and now). But keep in mind that staying with her can still end with a future separation, and that leaving her can end up with you finding someone better (or not).
If you decide to stay with her don't keep giving her more of yourself, as that will only make it hurt more if it doesn't end right.
If you leave her don't look back; you gotta move on with your life, and doing so will only hold you back, chances are she doesn't deserve you anyways.
Regardless of your decision try to work on your weaknesses; If she doesn't like you, there is probably a reason for it, so don't let your experience go in vane, and whether you decide to leave her or not, working on your weaknesses will make you a better person, which is it's own reward.
In my case I chose to leave her, because when I was with her it was like walking in the dark; I never knew what to expect, and everything was so confused (I tried my best to understand her -for a very long time, but I failed, and she craftily avoided all confrontations). I won't lie to you, it still hurts sometimes, but at least I know where I stand...
2006-08-03 12:57:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say without knowing what it is she's been pretending. If she's been pretending to be a girl, then I'd definitely leave. But other things might be less serious.
2006-08-03 04:56:22 · answer #3 · answered by scotsman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has she been pretending to you about? If it's something insignificant, then maybe it's just that she doesn't want to hurt you. If she's been cheating on you with someone else then she doesn't love you. If this is the case, then it's better to leave her otherwise you will just get hurt, just my opinion - If you love something, set it free. If it comes back it's your, if it doesn't it wasn't meant to be. Good luck
2006-08-03 05:27:51 · answer #4 · answered by Jazz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she been pretending that she was interested in you or what? Talk to her and see what she has to say. If she doesn't care about you she'll let you know and then it wouldn't be hard to know what to do. The tough part is if you love her though. Good luck!
2006-08-03 04:35:05 · answer #5 · answered by Dally J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. How serious was the thing she's been pretending about. Is it something you cannot forgive. If so, leave.
2006-08-03 04:34:17 · answer #6 · answered by Lex 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, what has she been pretending about? If she pretended that she had a three legged dog - I wouldnt worry too much, if everything she has told you is a lie - tell her to sling her hook (as my nan would say!!)
2006-08-03 04:34:43 · answer #7 · answered by Moi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk it though, explain to her what you don't find acceptable and that if she is willing to be 'real' to you. and display her true feelings instead of tossing your emotions across the ground like a ragdoll puppet. don't become a victim! it really hurts. if not and it still seems all fake, i advise you leave her, because you deserve better and love has no rules, leave her and find someone who isn't wearing a mask, theres plenty of girls out there that respect you for your true personality. and i'm sure you'll find her...
2006-08-03 05:23:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out why she has been pretending to (love) you.
2006-08-03 06:28:23 · answer #9 · answered by noname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her, don't leave her.
What has she been pretending about?
Does she love you?
.....tell us more
2006-08-03 04:36:24 · answer #10 · answered by Patti C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't quite understand what you mean by 'pretending to me' if you mean she's been cheating on you then yes, by all means, leave her.
2006-08-03 04:33:27 · answer #11 · answered by DJ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋