2006-08-03 04:22:58 · 34 answers · asked by pammy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get to the core and find out why he cheated. If you can't resolve that then he is just a cheater and will do it again.
2006-08-03 04:27:02 · answer #1 · answered by Mike Hunt 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U have to find out why he cheated, was it U? was it HIM? WHY? not saying that it justifies the situation but at least you would know and maybe weight up the odds. If you didn't have children then the answer would be let him go, but u have to think long and hard about this.
just 1 last thing, Don't stay together for the children cause it will only make there childhood worse not better.
2006-08-03 04:49:26 · answer #2 · answered by LEGG$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a reason people cheat....cheating is a symptom of SOMETHING.
Get the two of you into counseling, figure out what it is, and then figure out if it is fixable. If it is fixable, then fix it and the symptom will disappear. If it is not fixable, get a divorce. Your kids deserve to grow up in a household with a normal, healthy, loving relationship between the parents. Viewing a disfunctional relationship for 18 years is far worse than growing up in a single parent household.
Also, if you give counseling a shot and dig into the relationship a bit...at least you'll never look back and wonder "what if....."
2006-08-03 04:41:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you be able to live with the thought that you know he has cheated on you? if the answer is yes and you think you can make another go of things then forgive him, but if you think it might cause more problems in the future or you find that you cant trust him anymore then perhaps it should be the end.
2006-08-03 04:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is a hard question to answer.It is possibly the worst thing that could happen to someone.have you sat down and found out why he did it?has he done it before?he might have but you never found out.i personnally could never forgive someone for cheating because i could never trust them again.but everyone is different.u have to have a really good think about if you can ever trust him again because without trust theres nothing.I know you have two kids but it is not a relationship if you stay with someone just because of them.they will eventually notice that you are unhappy and it will not get better in time.i wish you all the best.x
2006-08-03 04:32:33 · answer #5 · answered by blueeyedblonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't say forgive him as that takes time ....... a lot of time!
But 'think of the children' ................. is this relationship some thing that can be salvaged? If by staying together things are only going to get worst, what is the point of creating so much stress & hostility.
Kids aren't daft & will know that some thing is wrong & long term, this can be as bad for them (possibly worst) as splitting up.
I would like to think that if you got married & had kids, then there was obviously once something there ......... is it still there?
2006-08-03 04:30:44 · answer #6 · answered by nickthesurfer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how long was he cheating? were there more than one woman involved? is the cheating serious?
what are the events that lead up to his cheating? were you and him still living together?
when kids are involved, its hard, but its not going to be a pleasant environment if the parents cant get along.
do you want to forgive and forget? do you love him? was it just a one time thing?
noone can make your decisions for you.. its up to you to decide if you want to keep your marriage and live with a man that you know has cheated.
2006-08-03 05:53:38 · answer #7 · answered by lodeemae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you're not married. That shouldn't make it much easier because there are kids involved. I left my husband and he ended up with custody of our 3 kids. It's SO hard to take care of the kids without having a helper living with you. I have regretted it many times, because it's so hard for the kids not to have me there 24/7 like they're used to. He is a real a**hole, but I turned our relationship into a platonic one before I left. If there is any way to stay together, please do it for as long as you can. If he cares about your kids, he will do what he has to do to make amends, especially if he says he wants your forgiveness.
2006-08-03 04:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by morticia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the details matter. A person disrespected you and your children on sooo many levels. He made a selfish decision. This is the time to stand up and set the best example for your kids you can. LEAVE! Pack up the kids, your stuff and your self-respect and go. Nobody deserves the emotional scars cheating can create.
2006-08-03 04:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by L B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We need more details of this cheating. how long did it go on? Was it a one time thing or is this just the latest woman he's messing around with? Is he STILL seeing her? How does he treat you otherwise?
While cheating is bad, there are a lot of other factors to consider when you question whether to leave a spouse or not.
2006-08-03 04:27:32 · answer #10 · answered by bodinibold 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that just the first cheating, talk to him about yopur situation and ask him what he wants that you don't have and try to work it out! You can fix everything with calm conversation and no confrontations!Forgive him in the first place and work it out to fix some problems!But if he will do it again,try to consult a lawyer!
2006-08-03 04:28:18 · answer #11 · answered by tutax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋