2006-08-03 04:13:28 · 17 answers · asked by willy nilly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No they are not the key. The actual key is having a couple who realize that a lasting relationship takes a lot of work from both people. I have known several childless couples who were totally devoted to each other.
Having children can really strain a relationship at first. Then they can become the barrier between husband and wife. How many times have you heard about people who divorce when the kids leave home because the couple found out they had nothing in common?
2006-08-03 04:38:34 · answer #1 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Children are the product of a happy couple. They bring happiness to a home where they are wanted and loved, Children do not create happiness for their parents. A marriage is not made based on children and children will not solve the problems of a bad marriage. Your question makes me nervous because I get the feeling that this relationship isn't going well and you think that maybe adding a baby to the situation will make it better. That will not happen. If the relationship is not going well having a child will not make the marriage better. Do not have a child to accomplish something in the relationship that you don't already have. That would not be fair to the child and would result in an even worse situation when it doesn't work. By the way it won't work. So to answer your question. Children are not the key to a happy relationship between a husband and wife.
2006-08-03 05:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by Heather P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO not at all. Sometimes the woman gets pregnant and the man goes and cheat on her. Sometimes the children are only 1-5 years old and the man cheats on the wife. The husband is never home to be with the wife and kids. Don't be deceived that children can hold the relationship together. Children at the number one dampering factor for a good sex life.
2006-08-03 05:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, kids seem to put a damper on things, because the kids take up much of the time you used to spend with your husband/wife. In fact, if you think that having a kid is going to be a key to getting more happiness you are completely wrong. Jealousy sets in for the men, because the time they used to get with the woman seems to cease abruptly, and the women seem to want to do nothing but sleep when they have the free time. Don't get it twisted having kids is wonderful, but it will not be what makes your relationship work.
2006-08-03 04:21:10 · answer #4 · answered by jad26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sometimes children hinder things. I love children, but at this time I do not have any because I feel that I want to enjoy my time with just myself and my husband. The only way children can bring happiness to a marriage is if you both agree that you want children.
I think it is similar to the saying that you can only love someone when you love yourself, well the only way children would help in the happiness arena is if the tow of you love each other equally and love the children just the same.
2006-08-03 04:36:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. You have to have a happy and healthy relationship before the kids. Don't get me wrong I love my kids but they do put stress on a relationship even in the best of marrages. And if either partner is unhappy in the relationship children will make it worse, they demand alot of time, love, and money. The three things that cause problems for most people and their relationships. But If you have a healthy and happy relationship they will add alot of love and happiness.
2006-08-03 04:22:00 · answer #6 · answered by lak3rat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nooooooooo love between a man and a woman has to be there before children come because when they come along life will never ever be the same
some people think having a baby will save a marriage but more times it splits people up
respect
shaz
2006-08-03 07:14:15 · answer #7 · answered by sharon B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you arent happy in a relationship then definately dont have kids. Work out the problems or split up. Communication, respect, honesty, and love are the keys. Well, at least some of them.
2006-08-03 05:20:26 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! If your relationship in trouble kids will only worsen that. Children are wonderfull don't get me wrong, but they come with their own needs and problems you have to deal with. Much better if you have good relationship, then add children, although that way too can bring the niggles into a relationship, but united ya get through and will make you stronger in many different ways. But to have kids in hope to fix a relationship, can't say that I've seen that work.
2006-08-03 04:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by Ms CMP5260 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't have kids to make a happy marriage. It won't work. If your marriage isn't running smoothly before it isn't going to run any better because of children.
You both have to work at the relationship. With children you have to work together even more really.
2006-08-03 04:38:35 · answer #10 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋